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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 17:55

Hi everyone,
My daughter 12 and half started he periods last month, I did expect it soon as I could see her body changing. Today my nearly 10 year old daughter shows me her pants and it has slightly red on it, she said it's been since last week and was confused. I'm shocked she looks like she's 7 she's absolutely tiny and petite and she doesn't know anything.
Is this really her period ? I didn't start my period until 12 I definitely wasn't expecting her to start yet intact I thought she'd be later than 12 as she's so petite. Could this be discharge of some sort ?
Thanks

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Stressedout10 · 04/02/2019 18:55

Sorry but both my DD and I started at age 9
Yabvu not to have taught your dd about periods yet or allowed her to do sex ed at school I was that child and its horrifically scary when you have no clue Angry

WhatTheNightBrings · 04/02/2019 18:56

Why did you name change for this?

CatnissEverdene · 04/02/2019 19:02

My youngest was the earliest of my 3 to start - she was only just 10 and on a school trip. I never even thought to send anything with her, and she was very tiny.

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 19:04

She's hasn't had sex ed at school yet they normally it in year 6 I think or end of year 5.

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 19:05

She hasn't got any public hair or underarm hair yet or any breast development. So no puberty signs

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WhatTheNightBrings · 04/02/2019 19:08

Okay but why did you name change for this?

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 19:12

Because i don't want people i know in real life who are on here, knowing about my daughters personal life

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ErrorNoBrainDetected · 04/02/2019 19:13

namechangedforthefirsttime

I had a friend 1 of her daughters started in year 6 and the other 1 a few weeks later in year 4, both pretty younger.

MyFootHurts · 04/02/2019 19:13

@WhatTheNightBrings why the heck shouldn't she name change. I always do when I start a new thread. I don't want nosy Parker's searching back through my threads, putting parts of my life together.

m0therofdragons · 04/02/2019 19:14

I started at 9. My mum planned to tell me at 10! I've always spoken about it with my dc in general conversation from age 3 ish. Not shoved in their faces. I had tests under GA and doctor let my mum come into the operating theatre as he wasn't cutting just looking. Nurse wasn't impressed.

WhatTheNightBrings · 04/02/2019 19:18

@MyFootHurts

That's clearly not the case for the OP

I think the namechanging for a thread about periods is further demonstrative of why the OP may not have told her 9 year old about puberty yet - feeling like it is something that ought to be hidden and not spoken about.

Elliss2018 · 04/02/2019 19:19

I think girls normally start at around the 7.5 stone mark. I'd take her to the doctors

BrilliantDarling · 04/02/2019 19:25

@Firestars
That sounds horrific 😱 I think my son would have been scarred for life!

Butterflycookie · 04/02/2019 19:28

My cousin started when she was 9

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 19:28

Whatthenightbrings are you ok? It's a simple thread asking for advice. If you have none off you go.

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 19:29

I'm taking he tomorrow to the doctor she's 4 stone

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Firestars · 04/02/2019 19:29

@BrilliantDarling he's grown up around mob wives and most of their kids have all been to many births by age five. He's sheltered around these parts. Grin

ReaganSomerset · 04/02/2019 19:30

@Stressedout10

To be fair, I'll be waiting until at least ten to discuss it with my daughter unless she asks beforehand. My mum started at 10 so she told me then. I didn't start until 14 and spent the intervening 4 years worrying every time I had a stomach ache and wondering if there was something wrong with me for not starting yet. I certainly wouldn't have wanted her to tell me any earlier than she did.

Also, periods don't pop up in the curriculum until end of year 5/year 6 in many schools.

hidinginthenightgarden · 04/02/2019 19:32

At that age I had the same but it was a one off "period" and nothing else until I was 12.

kindlyplay · 04/02/2019 19:37

I would be more shocked that I hadn't noticed in a week that my DD has been bleeding than I would be by the fact tbh. That's quite worrying that A) she couldn't tell you and B) she hid her underwear for a week

Jess74 · 04/02/2019 19:38

Ahem. Just a reminder to everyone to think before sharing personal details. There are some weirdos that get off on this stuff.

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 19:41

Reegansomerset... my thoughts exactly

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TeddybearBaby · 04/02/2019 19:43

Good luck tomorrow. Let us know how she gets on. My daughter is 9, 10 in the summer. I haven’t had a chat with her yet. Planning to at around 10 as well, the same as my son. It worked well with him.

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namechangedforthefirsttime · 04/02/2019 19:44

Hidinginthenightgarden that's good to hear, I just read that on goodgle too, never heard of that before. Hopefully it's just a 1 off

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TallulahBetty · 04/02/2019 19:46

DD is 7 but I've had the period chat with her already. Both my DM and I started at 10 so I want it to be very normal for her.

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