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To give him another chance after he ghosted me?

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snowydaynewc · 04/02/2019 15:20

August last year I met a guy and we went out on 3 dates.
He dropped me back home and rang me to say he had a great time and really liked me and then I never heard from him again.
He kept me on Facebook.
A week later I noticed he kept tagging a woman in things etc.
Last week he messaged me apologising and told me the night he left me a woman who he thought was out of his league messaged him on Facebook and he began a whilwind 3 months with her but she dumped him.
He apologised and said he thought we got on well and would I give him a chance?
Should I ?

OP posts:
MaiaRindell · 04/02/2019 15:20

No

userblablabla · 04/02/2019 15:21

No

Metheven · 04/02/2019 15:21

Never.

Justmuddlingalong · 04/02/2019 15:22

So you're his fall back? No.Tell him to fuck off.

HPLikecraft · 04/02/2019 15:22

Have some self respect. He ditched you because something better came along.
What if it does again?

TurquoiseWeekend · 04/02/2019 15:23

Absolutely not.

Nowwhenitrains · 04/02/2019 15:23

What a horrible man. Stay well clear!

BarbarianMum · 04/02/2019 15:24

Never a good idea to set yourself up as someone else's "make do". So no.

Original poster
snowydaynewc · 04/02/2019 15:24

I've just read it back and I sound pathetic don't I.

OP posts:
SoftlyCatchyMonkey1 · 04/02/2019 15:26

If he was a decent man he would have given you a reason as to why no more dates were on the cards at the time. But he ghosted you.

Armadillostoes · 04/02/2019 15:26

Nooooo! I am sure that you are not pathetic but you are worth SO much more than this.

Tink88 · 04/02/2019 15:26

He dropped you for someone else he thought was out of his league?! No way. You deserve better

SimplyPut · 04/02/2019 15:27

Do not go there, you are better than that!

Original poster
snowydaynewc · 04/02/2019 15:27

The girl in question is really pretty but I actually thought I wasn't bad myself ..I guess not Grin

OP posts:
MrsTommyBanks · 04/02/2019 15:27

Hell no.

loobyloo1234 · 04/02/2019 15:28

You are not pathetic - he is! I wouldn't even dignify him with a reply OP. Delete him and move on. You are no one's second best

IWentAwayIStayedAway · 04/02/2019 15:28

Feck off. Cheeky fucker

ChasedByBees · 04/02/2019 15:29

Please say you’re not going to give him a chance.

Excited101 · 04/02/2019 15:29

Nope! He showed immaturity and complete and utter lack of respect for you by ghosting.

Yutes · 04/02/2019 15:29

No. Don’t be anyone’s second choice

Iloveacurry · 04/02/2019 15:29

No.

Surfingtheweb · 04/02/2019 15:30

No way. Message him back & ask if he realises he sounds like & behaves like a complete Ass hole!!

You should be laughing at his cheek not feeling bad about yourself. He's a knob.

niceupthedance · 04/02/2019 15:30

At least he was honest 🤷‍♀️

But no

yummumto3girls · 04/02/2019 15:30

Can’t believe he has actually messaged you saying that!! NO

futuredayspast · 04/02/2019 15:30

Oh hell no. He's actually told you he dropped you for someone better then came back when she didn't work out.

You don't sound pathetic but he sounds like a dick.

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