To give him another chance after he ghosted me?

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August last year I met a guy and we went out on 3 dates.
He dropped me back home and rang me to say he had a great time and really liked me and then I never heard from him again.
He kept me on Facebook.
A week later I noticed he kept tagging a woman in things etc.
Last week he messaged me apologising and told me the night he left me a woman who he thought was out of his league messaged him on Facebook and he began a whilwind 3 months with her but she dumped him.
He apologised and said he thought we got on well and would I give him a chance?
Should I ?

tell him....Oh that sounds great lets meet for a drink such a such a time and date and stand that fucker up and then text him sorry I got a better offer so you can do one!

Cheeky bastard!!!

Tell him you’ll consult your diary and will get back to him.

"Last week he messaged me apologising and told me the night he left me a woman who he thought was out of his league messaged him on Facebook and he began a whilwind 3 months with her but she dumped him."

No. What he actually told you was that you'll 'do' now he's been dumped, but that you weren't really good enough. And that he'd dump you AGAIN in a heartbeat for someone else.

FFS, tell him NO NO NO NO! And have a ponder on why you have so little self-esteem you'd even think of saying 'yes' to this total tosspot.

No, definitely not. I wouldn't even give him the courtesy of a reply. Delete and block.
Give yourself the respect that he's clearly lacking for you.

“Sorry darling but I’m out of your league too.”

Hah, no. What a dick he is thinking that that would make any woman want him. "I ghosted you when I thought I had a better offer but she dumped me so I guess you will have to do". No thanks.

Omg what a cheeky fucker! His only good point appears to be that he doesn’t tell lies! I am astounded at his cheek.

Get rid of him. You're better than that.

”Sorry darling but I’m out of your league too.”

^ this or: “Funny you should say that, as I’ve just started seeing a guy who I thought was out of my league. But hey, I’ll bear you in mind as a fallback option if it doesn’t work out.”

No. Don't do this. I wouldn't message him. Ghost him back. What a rotter.

I can’t believe you’re asking. NO. Should have blocked him on FB as soon as you realised he has ghosted you. Nice of him to let you know he did it because he got a better offer but now she’s ditched him and he’s lonely he’s interested in you again . Prick.

I doubt this sort of post would come from a man. Just why are so many women ( and I include myself) so self-effacing?

This man will value you no higher than you value yourself and will probably treat you poorly, maybe feel he’s doing you a favour.
Do I’m a favour and tell him he’s behaved disgracefully

No. He’s already unceremoniously dumped you once for a ‘better offer’ why do you think he won’t do that again?

"Oh yes, please, do give me another chance, I've been sitting here just waiting for you, thank goodness I have nothing better to do than hope you'll get round to putting up with me, what a lucky lady I am!"

"Oh yes, please, do give me another chance, I've been sitting here just waiting for you, thank goodness I have nothing better to do than hope you'll get round to putting up with me, what a lucky lady I am!"

oh please and this, OP

*send

Erm, no. Do you have to ask?
Sounds like he gets a better offer and is off.

I'd message him back as if you're messaging your mate. "Remember that bloke with rank breath, shiny pores and shit clothes? Well he just sent me this text! Hold on. I'll forward it to you." I may have done something similar in my youth and by God did it hit home most savagely

Glad you’ve seen sense OP! He sounds like a prince among men

Never be someone’s option.

Well you could as long as you bear in mind you'll always be dumped when a better proposition comes along. If you're fine with that, then sure, give him another chance.

New phone, who's this?is the worst suggestion.

The best is to get yourself some self worth. Just listen to us will do.

If you slept with him tell him no because the sex was crap thanks to his button mushroom gentleman’s area, otherwise I wouldn’t even reply. What a knob.

I quite admire his honesty, but do you really want to go out with him again, knowing that when he had the chance to pursue a relationship with you previously, he chose not to? !

No!!!!! No!!

will probably treat you poorly, maybe feel he’s doing you a favour

What do you mean probably? He dumped her without even the decency to say good bye at the time, and now has messaged her to say he did it because he got someone better but as he's on his own now he'll give her a whirl..

It doesn't get much worse at this stage and he clearly feels he's doing her a favour.