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To give him another chance after he ghosted me?

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snowydaynewc · 04/02/2019 15:20

August last year I met a guy and we went out on 3 dates.
He dropped me back home and rang me to say he had a great time and really liked me and then I never heard from him again.
He kept me on Facebook.
A week later I noticed he kept tagging a woman in things etc.
Last week he messaged me apologising and told me the night he left me a woman who he thought was out of his league messaged him on Facebook and he began a whilwind 3 months with her but she dumped him.
He apologised and said he thought we got on well and would I give him a chance?
Should I ?

OP posts:
JustThePerson · 04/02/2019 17:06

Bloody hell! I’ve heard it all now, what a cheeky bastard!

Itstimeslikethese · 04/02/2019 17:06

Tell him your get back to him as someone out of your league is wanting a date with you & your going see how that goes firstGrin

Itstimeslikethese · 04/02/2019 17:07

Tell him your get back to him .. As someone out of your league is wanting a date with you & your going see how that goes first! Grin

Whocansay · 04/02/2019 17:12

How outrageously conceited is he? !?!?

Or is he trying a bit of clumsy negging?

Block and ignore. It will infuriate him.

Gummybear14 · 04/02/2019 17:14

Nooope

Delatron · 04/02/2019 17:16

I can’t believe you’ve asked this. You must have seriously low self esteem.

gottastopeatingchocolate · 04/02/2019 17:19

I am laughing in disbelief at someone who thinks that's a line to attract a mate (She was out of my league, but you're not!)

I'd reply:
"She and I play in the same league".

Dieu · 04/02/2019 17:23

Christ, no.

MostlyBoastly · 04/02/2019 17:27

Look up negging.

And no.

EnglishRose13 · 04/02/2019 17:31

Don't even reply.

He doesn't deserve any acknowledgement from you.

Jengnr · 04/02/2019 17:32

One word reply.

‘LOL’

Not another word to him.

WalkersNonsuch · 04/02/2019 17:33

If in his mind she was out of his league then what does that make you? I wouldn’t be happy to be second best knowing he’d still be with her if she hasn’t dumped him. Please don’t give him a second chance!

yesyouareyouare · 04/02/2019 17:37

Tell him to do one.

ImNotKitten · 04/02/2019 17:38

Hope you’re ok OP Flowers

This reflects on him not you. He doesn’t deserve a second chance because he’s shown he can’t be trusted and will ditch you when he feels there’s a better offer on the table. He didn’t even have the decency to let you know? You deserve much, much better.

BulletWithABun · 04/02/2019 17:38

I wouldn't even waste time replying to him. Just delete and block. He doesn't deserve a reply from you.

fibonaccisequins · 04/02/2019 17:40

Not RTFT but negging my love, that's what he's playing at there. It's a dick move.
If you choose to reply, then the laughing, crying eyes emoji, and a 'hell no!' should suffice.
FlowersCakeWine

SilverySurfer · 04/02/2019 17:45

Definitely not. I would text back 'in your dreams' and block.

dangerrabbit · 04/02/2019 17:46

“You sound like a lovely person. I hope you find someone in your league soon.”

toddlepod · 04/02/2019 18:03

No. What a wanker.

He was making do with you until he got a better offer?

Raise your bar - be somebody's dream not somebody's comfy slipper.

hellosummerishere · 04/02/2019 19:48

Only if you're desperate

RelaxDontDoooIt · 04/02/2019 20:55

Everyone on here is mad! Of COURSE you should give him another chance! You text him back right now and arrange a date with him! Then don’t turn up...send him a message while he waits saying “sorry, a bloody hot bloke asked me out and I couldn’t say no. I knew you would understand though”

sonjadog · 04/02/2019 21:20

So this is that negging-thing I have read about on here? Never experienced it in real life and I really have trouble seeing how it would work.

ellesbellesxxx · 04/02/2019 21:27

The only answer:

Who dis?

Knackeredmommy · 04/02/2019 21:33

You're joking right? What a CF!!

MostlyBoastly · 04/02/2019 21:34

Yeah it’s negging. It’s an insult dressed in a compliment. It’s the beginnings of being grateful even for scraps.

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