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To give him another chance after he ghosted me?

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snowydaynewc · 04/02/2019 15:20

August last year I met a guy and we went out on 3 dates.
He dropped me back home and rang me to say he had a great time and really liked me and then I never heard from him again.
He kept me on Facebook.
A week later I noticed he kept tagging a woman in things etc.
Last week he messaged me apologising and told me the night he left me a woman who he thought was out of his league messaged him on Facebook and he began a whilwind 3 months with her but she dumped him.
He apologised and said he thought we got on well and would I give him a chance?
Should I ?

OP posts:
Travis1 · 04/02/2019 15:31

Ha ha ha ha! Nope. Adios amigo! And remove him from FB.

MrsTommyBanks · 04/02/2019 15:31

The girl in question is really pretty but I actually thought I wasn't bad myself ..I guess not

His behaviour is absolutely not a reflection on you, either looks wise or in any other way. So stop that nonsense.
His behaviour is only a reflection on him and his attitude towards others. Particularly towards women.

Someone who treats you well and deserves your time will come along. You've dodged a bullet with this one Flowers

Justgivemesomepeace · 04/02/2019 15:32

No chance. Youll be worrying he'll always be looking for something better.

ChariotsofFish · 04/02/2019 15:32

You should message him back laughing. He’s been so rude to you, why would you even think about it? You’re definitely out of his league and you should tell him so.

thecatsthecats · 04/02/2019 15:32

"Lol, no, hehehe"

That should do it.

CruCru · 04/02/2019 15:32

He’s probably sent the same message to several women and will go for whoever replies and is friendly. Time to block and delete.

HalloumiGus · 04/02/2019 15:33

I was going to say the same as others - reply with a lol and nothing else.

theWarOnPeace · 04/02/2019 15:33

Oh, hell no. In those three dates he would have measured you up well enough to have made a decision. The fact that he’s now been dumped doesn’t take away from the fact that he chose someone else, and I don’t think even if you got past it for now and pursued a relationship, that it would end well. You’ll always remember this and he has form for ghosting and just dropping you like a hot potato. You’ll have no trust and that isn’t a good way to begin at all.

restingbitchfarce · 04/02/2019 15:33

If it was me I'd string him along and do the same back. See how he likes it but I realise I'm a bit of a bitch at times

Original poster
snowydaynewc · 04/02/2019 15:33

No I'm deffo not now.
After thinking it's obvious he finds her more attractive and I really don't want to date someone who's not really into me

OP posts:
stevie69 · 04/02/2019 15:34

It's a 'no' from me too. I'm practising to be a judge on X Factor Blush

SassitudeandSparkle · 04/02/2019 15:38

No!

applesisapple5 · 04/02/2019 15:43

'New phone who's this?'

MissLanesAmericanCousin · 04/02/2019 15:45

My God, no.

Suziepoozie · 04/02/2019 15:46

What a shallow tactless prick he sounds. Men just have no clue do they 😂

NeverHadANickname · 04/02/2019 15:48

No. You are out of his league.

Bluntness100 · 04/02/2019 15:51

I'm sorry but I actually laughed at that. How offensive. He's outright told you he dumoed you like a steaming turd because someone he felt was much higher up the leagues showed an interest, and now she's dumoed him he's wondering if you're up for it? 🤣🤣🤣

The sad part of it though op is why you're not posting and sending this viral saying what an offensive piece of shit this guy is. and instead are considering it😔

The answer to him is " lol, jog on mate 🤣"

statetrooperstacey · 04/02/2019 15:52

Omg absolutely not. A thousand times no!! Cheeky cheeky bastard! Can't believe he actually told you he buggered off with someone he thought was better than you . How very dare he actually say that out loud!! The nerve of the man!

ShatnersWig · 04/02/2019 15:54

@Suziepoozie said What a shallow tactless prick he sounds. Men just have no clue do they

Sorry, but this behaviour is not exclusive to men. I've been on the receiving end of almost identical behaviour from a woman.

StoatofDisarray · 04/02/2019 15:55

no!

Bluntness100 · 04/02/2019 15:58

After thinking it's obvious he finds her more attractive

Op, yes, that's what he has just told you. That he thought she was out of his league, but you were either in it or below it, so he dumped you for the chance with her.

It's as offensive as it gets.

Seriously just respond with lol and block him, delete him from face book. He's being horrible to you.

MrsSpenserGregson · 04/02/2019 15:59

Please respond with that crying-with-laughter emoji and then block him, what a twat

Movinghouseatlast · 04/02/2019 15:59

Christ, how awful.

Many years ago I was in this situation and with a total lack of self respect took the guy back.

After 6 months he did exactly the same thing. By that time I was crazy about him and I was really hurt..

TaimaandRanyasBestFriend · 04/02/2019 16:00

The fact that you a) kept him as a contact on SM at all and b) have to ask if you should give this twat another go is proof that your self-esteem could do with a lot of boosting before you consider dating.

The only answer to this guy should be 'Go away, twat' and block.

AgathaF · 04/02/2019 16:01

Well he's a right little charmer, isn't he?

You weren't good enough before (in his eyes), you're not going to be good enough now once his head gets turned again. And it will.

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