how would you feel if a man did this?

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Would you be offended or flattered if a man wolf whistled at you?

Are you joking? Please don’t tell me people still think this is flattering.

No, I wish I were joking - somebody I know commented on a link about wolf whistling and several women replied to say they would be flattered by it

I would ignore and walk away. But I wouldn't be offended.

When I was 18 and someone wolf whistled me I turned around to see who he was whistling at because it couldnt have been me. Then I realised there was only me and was just really confused. Now it would really piss me off.

I wouldn’t say offended but it makes me feel uncomfortable and I wish they’d just leave me alone to get on with my day. Last week my friends and I had the worse version where men are in a car and beep their horn multiple times and shout out the window as they whizz by. That makes me angry as it gives me a fright and makes me jump!

Ignore it and walk away, leave the saddo to go home and wank into his pillow.

Some people seem to have never matured emotionally.

I’d think he was taking the piss.

I would just ignore it but, as long as that was all it was, wouldn't feel upset by it. I did laugh a few weeks ago when a man in a van coming up behind me tooted and shouted 'sexy ginger' at me. I laughed because I am over 60 and have four grandchildren, I bet he wouldn't have bothered if he'd known that.

I remember going to a mates house one time and she was upset and I asked her why and it was because she'd just been down the shops and no one beeped her

Eww. I think it’s a bit creepy. You whistle at dogs, not people.

Wouldn’t bother me.

To clarify: I wasn't flattered but felt, somehow, I'd got one over on him.

I’d be neither flattered nor offended.

I’d think what pathetic arrogant dinosaur he was and assume he had no mates smart enough to tell him off for being a dick.

I didn’t use to mind it at all and probably would have said it’s flattering BUT last week some disgusting man in a car honked and made a blowjob symbol at my friend and me (with our babies in prams) and that made me question my feelings about the wolf
Whistling etc as I felt so disgusted/violated by it

Not offended more like a bit self conscious

Not offended but not flattered either.
More "meh.. cheers pal " than anything else.
The way I see it, guys that walk/drive past women and wolf whistle probably do it to 95% of the women they pass, hardly special or worth feeling flattered over. It's harmless compared to "Oi! Nice tits/arse!"
^That. I take offence to.

I would feel like a sheepdog, his to command. I hate wolf whistling and catcalls. I am now at an age when it rarely happens to me and I am glad about that .There will be women who love it, but I assume that they need some kind of validation due to self esteem issues. (Last year on holiday in Cornwall my DH was going back to where our car was parked to get something and a man in a van shouted out to him - Oi, you have got a lovely arse....to say he was bemused was an understatement....)

I'd be flattered! Used to happen all the time, now I'm old it never does!!! :)

I appreciate I'm in the minority, but I have.low self esteem and my self esteem largely centres around my appearance (and I'm a bit ugly these days :( !) So a wolf whistle would brighten my day :)

Sad...but true!

crispy urgh thats awful! I would be feeling violated too after that.

Once I was walking dd down the street and two guys were in a car parked on the side of the road, they said something about "bouncy tits!" and stuck their tounge out.. it was so gross but it was with me having dd, a baby in a pram that I was so shocked at. You'd think these creeps would think twice when someone has a child with them but they don't care.. I was even chatted up and followed on a train once when I was heavily pregnant.. wtf as if!?..

Sorry for derailing op.

I feel sad for anyone whose sense of self worth and self esteem comes from being heckled at by strangers. Especially when those strangers are misogynistic men.

They're not giving compliments, they're making themselves feel big and powerful for being able to harass and intimidate women without consequence. It's quite obviously never intended to be a compliment when they laugh at your discomfort or turn aggressive if you don't smile or you dare to actually tell them to leave you alone.

They're massaging their own egos, not yours.

I wouldn't be flattered or offended i would just ignore and get on with my day. Someone wolf whistling says more about them than it does me. I have more important things to occupy my brain with rather than whether or not it offended me.
I think if you ignore the behaviour and not give them a rise it's more likely to become boring and they stop.

I had this yesterday morning, walking to work. Car full of men beeping the horn and shouting. Made me jump and made me angry.

Nothing flattering about it, they didn't choose me because I'm special, any female would do. It's about power and pack mentality.

The wolf whistle is never about the woman it’s directed at. It’s done to impress the other men they are with for status. It’s the equivalent of a dog cocking it’s leg. You aren’t even seen as human when they do it. Just an object to make them look better to other men.

I would normally assume it was intended for someone else - they don't normally do it to fat, middle-aged women with cystic acne. But even if it was aimed at me, I wouldn't find it flattering. Low as my self-esteem might be, it's still not so bad that I need to be bolstered by men whistling at me as if I were a dog. And as pp have said, it's not intended as a compliment anyway. No man ever wolf-whistled a woman in the expectation that she would be overcome by lust for him and ask for a date.

I think the men who do it are doing it to take the piss not because they think you are attractive. They think it's funny. A normal person who found you attractive would not do that....