For being so angry with drunk DP

[raymama]

....not that he knows I'm angry, the state of him!! This will probably be long but I need to vent.

DP and I have a 4 month old DC. He quit his job before xmas, starts a new one next week (this is relevant later). He went to the funeral of an old friends parent. He was "just showing his face".

2pm he texts me saying he's at the wake. Will stay for an hour. Fine, no problem.

Come 6pm, I try to call him to see if he wants dinner. No answer. He calls me at half 7 and says he's coming home soon. 8.30pm he texts saying he's on his way. a bit annoying but im still fine with this.

11 o fucking clock I hear "no you go first its your house" from my hallway. Im in the kitchen washing bottles for our DC, fresh out the shower, in my shittiest (but comfiest) pjs, very obviously braless when in walks DPs friend supporting DP. I am not dressed for visitors!!

DP staggers around the kitchen asking what he can do to help, I told him to go to (spare) bed, he's then passed out on the sofa trying to take his shoes off.

I tried to wake him to take him to spare room and he fell off the fucking sofa, mumbled something incoherent, half got back on the sofa and passed out again.

I've got work tomorrow as I've been doing one KIT day a week since DC was 3m to bring in more money whilst he was jobless, but he obviously wasn't thinking about childcare when he was out.

I've tried moving him and I can't so had to leave him down there with a sick bowl.

I'm so angry I can't sleep. Mainly because of the blatant disregard of the fact he has responsibilities. He clearly won't be looking after DC tomorrow. AIBU being so angry or should I give him a break as he was at a funeral?

Oh kitty ! Lots of mitigation there though

@HeronLanyon

Still no excuse for that behaviour though cringe!!!

The thing that struck me was that he was supposed to be doing night shift with the baby, which should start before 11pm when he got home. Getting so paralytic had vomits isn't clever, but if he's confirmed it's a heavy drinking night with his wife then fine. He hadn't though, he was vomiting drunk while he was already supposed to be responsible for the baby. I'd be very angry.

I wouldn't throw water; nobody should be throwing anything in anger ever, what an irresponsible suggestion. Flick water as a joke in hot weather, even use a water rifle, but never in anger. Do you think it's ok to throw other stuff around the house too?
A cushion, a plate, a table - where does that kind of behaviour end? Nothing can be done but let him sleep it off, I wouldn't think he's fit to have the baby until midday.

I'd leave the house with the baby leaving no note, then text him at 10am to ask how the baby is; the initial panic and confusion would be a decent punishment. Depending on work and other options, I'd take the baby elsewhere or delay the KIT day or go in late. (in which case I'd probably lie and say the baby had a bad night, or say DH was ill). We'd be having a long and serious conversation about responsibilities and the impact of what he's done in the evening, when he's well enough to focus.