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To be sacked due to sick children?

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Spamup · 28/01/2019 18:56

Regular user but have NC for this!

My children, DS and DD both under 3 have several bouts of sickness before christmas and today my DS is not well which has resulted in a hospital admission - my employet has casually mentioned before about how i would probably be better off not working but nothing has been written down regarding this - ff to this evening, it has been sent to the HR department for formal disciplinary process to start and i am in bits - i am a lone parent and no family or friends to support me with emergancy childcare as they all work full time - can i really lose my job over this? I have bills etc to pay and worked a long time in this field to get to where i am now :(

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IrmaFayLear · 01/02/2019 18:12

I think I'd go for a decent settlement option which looks like it may be on the cards.

I have a relative who had a lot of time off sick, some for looking after dc and some for a whole host of his own (dubious) ailments. He was in a senior position with a high salary. The company was so desperate to be rid of him that he was in the driving seat regarding demands.

Schuyler · 01/02/2019 19:10

I’m so sorry your little one is poorly. You have a lot to deal with, I have a lot of empathy. Hope you get home soon. Flowers

WatcherOfTheNight · 02/02/2019 10:22

I hope your Ds is in the mend @Spamup & that you feel a bit better about things now Thanks

I wanted to address this comment,I can't remember who posted it though Blush

" I genuinely don’t understand enough about domestic violence to even attempt to comment on it. I’m commenting on other aspects of the relationship, staying for years, having children with him. But I accept I don’t know enough about DV to understand the ins and outs. I would assume I would leave a man if he ever hit me, but I’ve never been hit so I don’t know for certain how id react, I’d hope I’d see sense and run. "

But you are commenting on it ,Domestic violence is so much more than the Physical act of violence ,the perpetrators are manipulative ,controlling ,use emotional & financial abuse and many other tactics to keep their victim in a state of constant fear .
Often this done over a period of time & the victim isn't aware they are being abused at first .
How long they stayed and if they have children doesn't matter one bit .

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Spamup · 10/02/2019 19:50

So i have a nanny starting next week and i have come to a mutual temporary arrangement with my employers!

My ex has decided to up the abuse this weekend so i now have the additional stress to deal with :(

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Aridane · 10/02/2019 20:52

Good for you - and I take it that you've got a temporary reprieve from your employers and won't be parting ways for the moment?

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Spamup · 10/02/2019 21:21

Yes not parting ways just yet - we had a very open and honest conversation and i am also looking to change one of my days as well now , i am extremley grateful!

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Poodloo · 10/02/2019 21:48

I hope it works out for you op. I just read the whole thread. A nanny will be your best option :)

hopeishere · 11/02/2019 08:28

That sounds really positive (apart from the ex). Hang in there!

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