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Original poster

To ignore this face book check in to hospital?

189 replies

marymarkle · 25/01/2019 10:50

I have just had a status come up on my face book of X feeling worried, and a check in to the local hospital. There are lots of comments saying - are you okay x, what's up X, but there is no answer from x.
AIBU to totally ignore this status?

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Imsosorryalan1 · 25/01/2019 10:51

Bloody hate attention seeking shit like this

BlackPrism · 25/01/2019 10:51

Of course you fucking ignore it. I'm technically in a hospital right now... but I'm not going to bloody check in because it's attention seeking and sad

RiverTam · 25/01/2019 10:51

I'm afraid I think you can't be that unwell if you can FB 'check in'.

ThanosSavedMe · 25/01/2019 10:52

Nope not at all. I hate shit like this.

I had to go to hospital last year and was sooooo tempted to check in at the hospital and post my status as #attentionseeking

I didn’t though.

Unambitiousme · 25/01/2019 10:52

YANBU. I always ignore those attention-seeking posts.

BlackPrism · 25/01/2019 10:53

Plus, no one needs to hear about my routine eczema appointment lol

PookieDo · 25/01/2019 10:54

I’ve been twice this month as an emergency and didn’t check in either

Sexnotgender · 25/01/2019 10:54

Ignore, ignore, ignore.

Like a tantrum it requires attention. No attention given hopefully they’ll stop posting inane shit on Facebook.

Hisnamesblaine · 25/01/2019 10:56

What relationship are they to you?

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marymarkle · 25/01/2019 10:59

Relative, but not an immediate one. Not someone I would be face book friends with if we were not related.
Anyone see the episode in My Country where the main female character goes to A and E with a suspected broken limb? Her limb is not broken. But while in the waiting room she face book checks in, takes phone calls from worried people and tells them her leg is totally mashed up, and posts ever more attention seeking status updates. Made me laugh so much.

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RiverTam · 25/01/2019 11:01

I would 'unfollow' them, then, if you're not actually friends.

LordPickle · 25/01/2019 11:04

I absolutely hate when people do this. My DS was blue-lighted to the hospital last year and we were there overnight and it never crossed my mind to post about it on social media. It's such a bizarre and desperate thing to do.

Original poster
marymarkle · 25/01/2019 11:05

Yes good advice. I don't actually go on face book that much mind you. Might keep following them until I find out what actually happened though. More people asking what has happened and still no answer. She has either died, in intensive care or surgery (VERY UNLIKELY), or is enjoying the drama.

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CantWaitToRetire · 25/01/2019 11:07

I'd either completely ignore, or post a reply saying "Oh no, are your haemorrhoids playing up again?"

spiderlight · 25/01/2019 11:09

I love love love that episode - so typical of the horrendous attention-seeking all over FB.

Original poster
marymarkle · 25/01/2019 11:10

Yes spider I love it too. It is so spot on.

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SummerGems · 25/01/2019 11:14

I doubt that they’ll notice that you’ve ignored it though will they? Since they probably have another 700 friends? Wink.

Someone I know died recently. The news appeared on facebook where family read it before they could be told. Within an hour of the person’s death. Angry Angry Angry fb is the work of the fucking devil where it comes to that kind of thing, and no, I don’t buy the “people need to grieve in their own way” line, we managed perfectly well without it until ten years ago. Such personal information does not need to become public social media fodder. Hideous.

EarthboundMisfit · 25/01/2019 11:14

God no. It's attention seeking bullshit.

MasonJar · 25/01/2019 11:15

Wht would anyone think you were unreasonable? Especially if you don't go on facebook much.

RiverTam · 25/01/2019 11:15

you can still go on to their profile to see what they're posting, it just won't clutter up your News Feed. You get to choose to see what they post, if you like, rather than having it imposed on you.

TadaTralala · 25/01/2019 11:15

Oh goodness, is nothing sacred anymore. TMI

zzzzz · 25/01/2019 11:16

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TadaTralala · 25/01/2019 11:16

one of the reason I've come off FB, too much rubbish being published.

Walnutwhipster · 25/01/2019 11:17

I do check in when I'm admitted but have a life threatening condition that requires regular hospital stays. I wouldn't do it for an appointment. I do this because it saves 50 sets of private messages and only have good friends and family on FB. I only do it once when I go in and don't post about my illness otherwise.

SummerGems · 25/01/2019 11:18

Incidentally, I knew someone who posted every detail of her personal life all over facebook. She was pregnant and used to post shit like “the bubba is jumping up and down on mummy today, must be the coffee I had for breakfast.” Or “bumpy wumpy is so excited today, mummy can’t wait to meet him,” you get the picture.

Anyway so many people got so sick of her updates that they unfollowed/blocked etc. Except when the baby was born he was seriously ill and rushed into scbu and very nearly died. As was her way she posted it all over facebook. Except so many people had unfollowed her that they didn’t know and she had literally no support.