To ignore this face book check in to hospital?

[marymarkle]

I have just had a status come up on my face book of X feeling worried, and a check in to the local hospital. There are lots of comments saying - are you okay x, what's up X, but there is no answer from x.
AIBU to totally ignore this status?

Have you still got him insured?
Might be worth digging out the insurance documents

I have a friend who does this, regularly. She's been at death's door so many times - as have her children, according to her whinging posts on FB - that I've literally lost count. There's never anything actually wrong with any of them; she just likes the attention of everyone "aw, you okay, hun?" and the like on her status updates, before she starts ranting about "stupid NHS drs/nurses"...

Conversely, I broke my ankle very badly in July and have been on crutches ever since, and have a genetic neurological condition. One person on my FB account knows any of this - and that's only because he's my older brother. My old friend would know - but I know from past experience that if any of us confide in her about our own health, she has to "top trump" it somehow (usually by fabricating illness in one of her young children, horrifically enough). And I can't be bothered with the drama of it all anymore.

Because that's all it is. Drama-mongering. Attention-seeking. I no longer buy into it as truth (ie, I don't believe anything she posts), and I know others in our social circle feel the same, because they've moaned about it to me (quite recently, in fact: another friend was diagnosed with cancer two months ago, and lo', the attention seeker was in hospital being investigated for a worse form of cancer...).

'Peter & The Wolf' does spring to mind...

Attention seeking.

Just like posting a thread about it on mumsnet to get the affirmation of people you KNOW think it's attention seeking.

100+ comments - lots of likes for you OP!

Yanbu, I always ignore these posts, so unnecessary! I’ve had to take one of my dcs to hospital before and was far too busy worrying to check in! Attention seeking. Sure she’ll finally respond with lots of “ill inbox you” or “pm me”. Really irritates me

Wish FB/smart phones had been around when my children were born as I spent far too much time being bored in hospital before and after.
I had to contend with a hired TV and all the crappy magazines. I’d never been so upon celebrity gossip.

This is similar to the fb post of
‘I’m leaving all social media and deleting my fb account’
To which everyone replies oh no hun what’s up? Etc etc etc
All attention seeking rubbish
As the person is then still on fb the next day

YANBU, it annoys me too. Fair enough if you want to check in, but for goodness sake, say why! If you don't want to say why on FB, then don't post the check in!

Ugh. I have a couple of fb 'friends' like this but I just can't bring myself to unfriend them because I kind of enjoy cringing at their latest attention-seeking post. For the record I think fb is mostly a load of nonsense and I can't understand why people put their entire lives on it & seem to have their identities wrapped up in it but I like it for keeping in touch with people I never see irl.

I want to know what they went to hospital for now!

I had a friend like this, I unfriended her because she’s lovely in real life but her fb was making me not like her very much! It was hospital ones that clinched it. The “ouch” message with hospital check in followed by the many “you ok hun” comments being followed by “just a check up”, then a few days later “pre op done” check in but very vague answers to the questions about the op. I’m fully expecting to find out it’s an ingrown toemail when I see her.

I know someone who does this all the time.
A couple of weeks ago she posted with s link to her blog and gave some cryptic message about "I've written this blog to stop the stigma"
Turns out she had a miscarriage just before Christmas and the blog was an over dramatic account of how she had told her husband whilst he was having a number 2!
I felt really sorry for her and I know it's good to talk about these things, but do you really need to tell the world over Facebook and what stigma? Is there really a stigma about miscarriage?
All the replies were along the lines of " hope you're ok", "good for you for speaking out", "do you need any help"
She has firm for telling her whole life on FB and I'm afraid I didn't reply!

Someone I know checked their daughter and themselves into hospital with the caption “pray for us” and loads of crying emojis. She eventually, after lots of cryptic shit, revealed her daughter had meningitis and it was “touch and go”
She was given a huge outpouring of sympathy. Except, it was viral meningitis, which is almost always just a nasty virus. Most people don’t even know they have it. It’s bacterial meningitis that kills. The kid was literally given a bed while they waited for the paediatrician and then paracetamol and sent home when her temperature was stable. Almost immediately, mum changes her Facebook photo to one with a filter over it about meningitis awareness, calls her daughter a survivor and every day is posting about how close they came to losing her and how she can’t sleep when she remembers her daughter at deaths door. One of our mutual friends did lose a child in a horrible accident and this woman was all over that like a rash, calling the child her honorary son and stuff. She only met him a few times!

I have friends that do this on fb

Or say ahhhhhhh. People rely what’s wrong and poster says I will message you

If you are not going to say what’s it’s about don’t flaunt it on fb

I just find the judgmental nastiness a lot worst than the original posts you dislike.

Yes. It's vile.

For some unknown reason I expected to find more people capable of empathising with other human beings and understanding that not everyone is a carbon copy of themselves. My mistake.

I was hoping to find out what happened but it seems that the op has vanished.....

Nothing wrong with checking in if you give the info. Everything wrong with checking in if you say nothing - same as if you post things like “omg worst day ever”, “can’t believe what they did”, crap like that in the hope that people ask “you ok, hun”? Worse, they then say “I’ll PM you” to those who reply. It’s like the bitchy school kidswith the in-jokes

I only ever check in for me or dp as our work can be a bit arsey and I have my managers on Facebook so when I/we phone in sick they know we're not lying. It seems stupid but there are so many people who fake being ill at our job being able to prove we were at hospital due to our ilness helps. (We both have severe health issues put actually let people know why we're there).

I've two sorts of fb friends and treat them accordingly. The 'Are you ok, hun?'s I ignore. But I have a few friends who are horribly ill, and do need support, who are shouting out that they are in distress..... It does help to know which is which

only ever check in for me or dp as our work can be a bit arsey and I have my managers on Facebook so when I/we phone in sick they know we're not lying. It seems stupid but there are so many people who fake being ill at our job being able to prove we were at hospital due to our ilness helps. (We both have severe health issues put actually let people know why we're there).

Seriously how do you employers know this is genuine?

I know someone who does this. "Feeling worried at local hospital" cue lots of well wishers asking if they are ok and the person says "I don't really want to talk about it!"
Makes my blood boil, which is more than is happening to their blood. attention seeking malingerers. No sympathy I'm afraid.

I remember when Michael Jackson died. A friend (no longer on my FB Now) had put up something like 'RIP Michael, we love you and will miss you forever, can't believe it, heartbroken' etc etc etc and I was so tempted to write back so everyone could see 'I'm so sorry for your loss, I didn't know you knew him personally?' I didn't have the bottle, I just unfriended her. Can't deal with that level of bollocks, to be honest.

I always ignore these posts. I had a nasty accident a year ago and had 9 breaks in my body and a punctured lung never posted I was sitting in A&E was taken by ambulance to hospital a few weeks never put a status up. It’s attention seeking nonsense that needs ignored.

Hate the feature regardless of where people are, it's very me me me.

Yes fine to check in with details but if it is private why bother. No point publicly checking in then hours later telling concerned/nosey friends to inbox me hun.

We have a relative like this.

It started with a very serious illness. We were all very concerned about her, rooted for her getting through it and genuinely hoped for the best outcome possible. She underwent months of gruelling treatment and frequently posted on fb about. Nobody minded, we assumed it was her therapy. We all liked and commented frequently.

After months of treatment she eventually came through it. Battle scarred, but to all intents and purposes, very much alive and well. We were all thrilled.

But she had become addicted to the the fb attention. Even though it's been well over 2 yrs since the all clear, the incessant fb posts (averaging about 5 a day) and hundreds of pictures, relating to her every minor twinge, gp appointment, hospital check up, emotions, how her digestive system is behaving today, the anniversaries of finding out about her illness/the first cannula/the first surgery/the first overnight hospital stay/the all-clear etc etc has just become truly tedious and blatant attention-seeking that it's repugnant.

The likes and comments have taken a serious nose-dive as you can see her fb friends getting sick of it.

She's now become so desperate for the attention she's now resorting to just being rude and obnoxious... Such as racist & bigoted posts or overly sweary nasty posts criticising people's physical appearances... posts she knows will antagonise her friends to get any form of response.

The serious illness we were once all concerned about has now created an attention-seeking fb monster.

And it' spread into real life too. Parties and get-togethers where she's invited are completely dominated and taken over by her 'me me me' manner, to the extent many people will no longer attend if she's there.

I can't remember the last time I liked or commented on one of her fb posts as I refuse to fuel the fire.