To ignore this face book check in to hospital?

[marymarkle]

I have just had a status come up on my face book of X feeling worried, and a check in to the local hospital. There are lots of comments saying - are you okay x, what's up X, but there is no answer from x.
AIBU to totally ignore this status?

Wait for it....

"U ok hun?"
"I'll PM u hun"

Urghh!

I checked in at the doctors surgery because I was taking time in the morning before work. I wanted to ‘prove’ i’d been at the doctors in case colleagues thought I was being sly.

Probably worried she won't get a parking spot.

I left fb years ago, but I remember a friend 'checked in' at the hospital. Cue loads of worried messages. No response for hours. Later that evening she finally updated to say the malls parking was full so she had used the hospitals because it was big and close to town.
Attention seeking bollocks.

You need to put up a RIP post.

I pm if its immediate famy, ignore otherwise.

I do know someone who checks in at hospital using the ‘feeling pained’ thing or posts ‘these painkillers better start working soon 🙄’ think I unfollowed her as her grandson cane along and it was too much. The whole pregnancy was played out on Facebook and on the wee guys first day in the world sgenoisyed 130 photos!

Someone on my fb does this, she has a similar auto immune disease to me and I will admit she is suffering a lot more than me.

But, she photographs every hospital visit complete with a sad face selfie, a photo of the cannula and then a photo of of her meds. There is also a daily pic showing every tablet she has to take. I haven't told her I also am affected on case she tags me, I dread ending up on the same ward as her

What is it about people that makes them compelled to splash this stuff over FB. We don't want to know this level of detail! An old family employee is doing this atm about her new baby. No, I don't want to see pics of the umbilical cord FFS! Yes I blocked her. Now DD is grumbling to me about the same poster and TMI. I am so thankful my DCs are not avid FB/Insta/Snapchat over-sharers, it's so crass

i know someone who does this its usually/always nothing actually its not even worth an and e visit they endup saying oh i had earache

I have a friend who genuinely does have some medical issues and has recently had yet another operation (it will have been something orthopaedic) which she posted about on FB. I just replied asking if she was single handedly trying to bankrupt the NHS. She had the grace to laugh.

Why do you need the approval of random strangers to ignore?

However I disagree with posters, some of us might not go on FB when in hospital for yourself or a friend, but others might be needing some kind of support. It's a much less intrusive to post a general post and let people respond if they want to, than sending an email or making a phone which put people on the spot.

If you don't like facebook or have "friends" that you don't like, don't moan because you don't like their status.

Someone I know checked into the hospital with “concern” with her DS.

Many hours later it turned out he had a sprained toe. . I could hear eye rolling all over town.

If you are 'checking in' to hospital on Facebook, you don't need to be there.

It depends who tags themselves but those people who do it for attention annoy me.

There's a girl on my FB, she's the ex of a friend and she posts attention seeking status all the time, but they're always cryptic! People will comment (as she wants them to) and her reply is always 'I'm DM you' ... DM them? Well now I want to know what's going on! Good job I actually don't care that much about her, I should probably De-friend her 🤷🏽‍♀️

If you are 'checking in' to hospital on Facebook, you don't need to be there.

utter and complete bollocks, there are hundreds of very valid reason to be in hospital - and in A&E - without being unconscious. Many people blue lighted could still manage to make a call or text their partner - if others prefer FB it's a choice.

If someone posts - gone to hospital as I suspect I might have broken my arm playing sport, fine. Its the checking in and no details that is attention seeking.

I checked in with DH once, something along the lines of sharp tool 1 - hand 0. Because he had been a numpty, and made sure it was lighthearted, but anything over and above that is attention seeking shite.

DON'T COMMENT.. They won't even know you saw it.

Hate this attention seeking shit too!

Yanbu, this kind of thing bugs the hell out of me, as after getting a load of likes/worried comments the poster will usually just say "dw" or "inbox me hun" i mean for gods sake, if your going to go all public with a check in and say something like "feeling worried" why then go all coy and want to take it to inbox!!

A couple of years ago i had to go off sick from work and loads of my colleagues asked me to let them know how i was getting on, next day i was admitted to hospital and told i would be having an op first thing in the morning, but due to the pain i was in i didn't feel up to messaging personally all those who had asked me to let them know what was going on, so on this occasion yes i did do a check in, but i didn't put a vague status with it, just simply said "been admitted, having op tomorrow, on the good drugs now, so pain is better"

But in the case of your relative they are just vaguebooking for likes / sympathy, totally annoying, very annoying

Oh I totally agree. Worse is where they actually link to the hospital. Why? If it is something serious, you tell family off facebook if an emergency. A phone call or something. And then person, who apparently can use Facebook to tell people they are at the hospital, but refuse to answer anyone's queries. Again, why? It just seems like attention-seeking to me. Much like the drama llamas who post vague passive-aggressive Facebook statuses 'I finally learned who my real friends are, thanks a lot, jerk!' or 'before you start spreading lies about me maybe get the facts. You will get what's coming', 'come near me again I'll smash you' etc and NEVER reply to people who ask what's going on and who they are talking about. If they reply it's 'oh just stuff that happened today'. No elaboration, no explanation. It's like; what was the point of all that then if you won't be specific? Address it to the person in message and deal with them, if you don't want to answer questions after writing a passive-aggressive bomb.

It’s attention seeking of the highest order and bloody pathetic. I don’t think I’ve ever asked anyone “are you ok?” when they check in to hospitals.

If they are genuinely ill, they will not check in as they will too busy.

Yanbu. Attention seeking in it's lowest form.
Usually followed up with picture in hospital gown with bottom lip sticking out. One of many reasons I avoid FB.

The thing is that it is purely attention seeking if you’re not checking in with a reason why.

Similarly the “I’ll pm you/don’t want to talk about it,” responses when people respond.

As much as people can check in on fb and have the right to if they crave attention that much, others have the right to think that it’s only for attention that they’re doing it.

Absolutely loathe this. Don't mind people actually doing it if they would give some info about why they are there, it's the mystery of it all, they never say and then disappear as if they are in the operating theatre or something. Ignore.

It's the most attention seeking act I think social media has to offer!

It's frankly pathetic and is never a real emergency because if it was, you wouldn't be messing around on social media!