To ignore this face book check in to hospital?

[marymarkle]

I have just had a status come up on my face book of X feeling worried, and a check in to the local hospital. There are lots of comments saying - are you okay x, what's up X, but there is no answer from x.
AIBU to totally ignore this status?

I always ignore the hospital check in. I spent two weeks in hospital a few years ago, it didn't even cross my mind to check in. I had plenty of people in real life who were there for me I didn't need a load of false concern from facebook.

My friend (love attention) updated her status aging she'd fallen but was fine. The amount of 'awww poor you' and 'hugs' 'please take care' I nearly vomited, she was fine!

Last year had an urgent Ovarian Cyst removal which could have been malignant, luckily for me wasn't but the last thing to occur , no matter how painful the waiting, would be to invite general social media in on it.

Closest family and friends already knew and were anxious for me, It's not essential for Dave from accounts and my hairdresser to know also.

Forgot to say YANBU.

Absolutely ignore, it's total attention seeking. Facebook is so shit most of the time. I was on it when it first became popular 10 years ago & I just hadn't thought that it was kind of around forever. The thought of mindless posting for decades more fills me with horror. I came off it 3 years ago, I'd seen one too many attention seeking check ins & 'share if you care' posts about animal cruelty etc. It's not about caring but it's all about attention!

MaryMarkle that could actually be mu mum.. Also slagging me off for being the worlds worst daughter.

I cant see her profile as she has blocked me.

Admitted on Wednesday. And has sulked with me ever since.

As we have very little family and I have asked that we coordinate so she gets a visit from immediate family myself & DN just us local a day rather than us both rushing there every day after work which will take us both with traffic upto 2 hours.

Sending us both texts asking us both to get things from a certain store so instead of just 1 us going into shop she had us both doing it.

A list of very particular pet care instructions that include fresh food to be bought every other day. In the end got a pet sitter in too look after as I am stretched to the max.

Has refused any of the after care help she will need dealing with stairs/toilet etc. This has been offered by the Hospital free of charge.
But no she wants just my and niece to take care of her.

Just me who lives in the same town And I have to leave for work at 7.30am dont get home til 6.30 the next 6 weeks are going to be hard work.

'You ok'
'Inbox me'
🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

When I was in hospital I was too bloody ill to be messaging people or posting.

t's not essential for Dave from accounts and my hairdresser to know also.

but why on earth do you have Dave and your hairdresser as "friends" in the first place?!

GUM clinic again? You really need to be more careful.

Yeah ignore it, it's cryptic as she wants attention. I have a friend who is literally in a
Hospital one a week with herself, a hold of family member. I'm astonished and I'm not exaggerating. She is in now about one child saying how worried she is about his chest and they better do something (doesn't help she smokes in front of him) and in the same post is saying how excited she is to take the children to see the football tomorrow. I honestly think she has nothing better to do than sit for hours at hospital. It really infuriates me as the amount of wasting resources weekly, she never seems to go to the doctors, just straight to A&E.

I realise I sound really judgy and I'm actually usually really accepting but it really annoys me. She's been up three times this week, two different children and her mother. Boys always discharged sent home.

Some people may not be able to use social media if admitted to hospital, but I can. I have a stupidly high pain threshold and have been known to use a phone in a HDU because I was bored.

But just checking in without even a brief description is attention seeking IMO.

They're acquaintances, not necessarily not friends but not someone I'd share the fear I might have cancer with. Do you understand now?

Someone on my friends list did this - on Christmas Day - then proceeded to live update her miscarriage

Ive been admitted to hospital several times over the past year or so for up to a fortnight at a time. I admit i do post in fb but explain whats going on. It saves me having to update numerous people with the same story. It also means that when people know ive been hospitalised again i get a number of them arranging to come and visit.

Posting on FB can certainly have advantages

On a related note, am I the only one who hates the phrase “blue-lighted”?

Ignore. I have an FB friend who also does it about their children.

I also have a complete over sharer on fb, posts every little tiny detail of their lives on facebook, even posting pics of the digital thermometer saying shes worried about her temp (9/10 times it's totally normal) always asking people to copy and paste various shite, shes a colleague so to avoid any awkwardness at work unfollowed her rather than remove her

Its so peaceful not seeing that stuff all the time, tho i did find out through a quick nosy on her timeline that she's come into work with conjunctivitis 😡

I do check in so I have somewhere to post all my annoyance about the people in the waiting room who think its a family day out and take up all the chairs whilst an elderly lady is lying on the floor/fighting the receptionist because a baby that's gone blue in the face has been triaged ahead of their paper cut.

Someone did this on my wall recently. She just posted "at hospital with (childs name)". Cue loads of concerned comments hoping her child was ok.

Turns out they were just visiting a relative who was in having a minor routine operation

Oh the "vague booking" drives me insane!

For those saying you can't be that ill if you're posting, I've updated friends and family from ICU and HDU.

On a related note, am I the only one who hates the phrase “blue-lighted”?

Oh Yes! I thought I was the only one who inwardly cringes.

I posted when I was in hospital but it was more detailed like
"Spinal surgery done"
"Gore photo in comments" (my friends LOVE gore/pimple popper stuff)

And everyone says "you can't be that unwell", I was waiting for surgery that needed to be done in the next 48hrs otherwise I would be paralysed so yes, I damn well needed to be there, it's a blue light emergency

Oh dear... Is she one of those people who goes to the emergency department a lot for very vague reasons and can't ever tell you what's really wrong with her?

As everyone has been saying IGNORE. she won't get any better with this attention seeking nonsense if people keep giving her attention for it.

Seriously, who the f checks in on FB if there is a medical emergency? That's ridiculous