To expect bf to want to sit next to me on a plane?

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My boyfriend said that he wouldn't spend £100 for a seat next to me on an 8 hr plane journey. He said he'd rather spend that on something else we can do together.

He is very practical in this kind of way a lot but I'm starting to think he actually just doesn't care about me that much?

There are other factors as well making me think this - he never opens up emotionally to me and that's bothered me our whole relationship. He also isn't very interested in sex and we haven't had sex for nearly 2 months but he says it's not because of me. Hard not to worry though and it makes me feel crappy.

We have been together for nearly 2 years.

What would you make of this sort of comment? I asked my sister and she said that her bf would always want to sit next to her as it's part of the fun of travelling, especially for such a long flight.

Can you split it £50 each?

Completely misses the point of the thread.

Could you book him in first online with his free randomly allocated seating and then book in online and select the seat beside him if its still available?

Don't have time to read full thread so sorry if already suggested.

Another who wouldn't pay this - a complete waste of money.

I hate the way airlines (and, indeed, many other service providers) are forever finding new ways to winkle money out from their customers.

Don't pander to them.

We regularly have to make long flights and, despite not having money to burn, always pay the extra to choose our seats (around £100).

Partially because, when flying solo, we've each experienced being stuck between strangers you wouldn't want to be stuck next to (overly chatty or falling asleep on your shoulder), you actually feel like you have more space (you don't mind brushing up against each other which you'd avoid with a stranger) and, obviously, for company. I imagine most 8 hour flights are quite pricey; another 100 won't break the bank.

I don't like paying extra for airline services that should be included, but I wouldn't expect to travel without checked in luggage for a 2 week holiday.

Is he very tight with money normally?

I would pay the extra to travel with my partner. I've travelled on my own, and hate having drunk, smelly, coughing people around me. At least if you are with your partner, that is one reasonable person near you.

Is he planning to put everything he needs for a fortnight into a cabin bag?

I am going to say something completely different from the norm here but so what!

I would never want to go on a plane and not sit with my husband. For one, its the start of the holiday and I want to experience that together. But thats just me but again I know my husband would never want to be separated from me also. In regards to the £100, we would not book that flight if that was the case. We would look over the information beforehand and plan our trip so we could sit together on the way to the destination and the way back.

I have never come across this before with an airline where you need to pay extra for assigned seats together without a checked bag. I often fly with Ryainair, Jet2 or EasyJet and they all let you pick your seats or assign you joint seats together. I can also completely see where everyone else is coming from by saying they would not spend the £100 but I get thats from people who are mostly likely confident in their relationship where you come across as if you are not?

I think this not sitting together thing is just another thing on a long list of things that has happened to make you doubt his love for you. I don't think this incident is in isolation because if your relationships was completely healthy and happy and then this one thing happened it would not have worked you up so much to say other comments about your sex life or those leading towards the idea he doesn't want you anymore.

I would talk to him and ask him openly if everything is okay. Just be clam and relaxed and ask him if he is still into this relationship. If you act calm about it all then he should open with you or ask him if he is getting what he wants/needs from you and if anything could be changed in your relationship? There might be something bothering him that he is to scared to talk about and you guys can resolve it easily if you communicate. Yet again prompting this discussion may show you thats it all in your head.

I would though try and put some fire into your sex life as you deserve to have one.

Is he planning to put everything he needs for a fortnight into a cabin bag?

This is actually possible and not everyone needs 10 bikinis and 15 pairs of shorts and 5 pairs of shoes

If people traveled lighter we’d all make some savings in our pockets and the ozone layer

No yanbu although I wouldn't settle for noses etc but we are all different x

*The £100 thing - I would be surprised if anyone else would spend that to sit next to another adult (unless it was a honeymoon or something)

The rest ... different story*

^^ this