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AIBU to think the Duchess of Cambridge should be better advised

152 replies

viques · 22/01/2019 19:19

Because ok she has three kids and I think her life is pretty foul, but to whine to a group of women who are facing huge financial, emotional and physical problems in their lives daily that you find things " so hard" when you have solid family support, a full time nanny, housekeepers, cleaners, gardeners, two huge houses with no worries about mortgages repayments, paying for the weeks shopping, not having enough cash for the electricity etc etc is a tad insensitive.

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FevertreeLight · 22/01/2019 20:10

Her DH- 3 kids and a massive environmental footprint is in Davos speaking about the environment.

Perch · 22/01/2019 20:11

FFS leave the woman alone.

HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 22/01/2019 20:12

They don't just have one Nanny, there is a daytime nanny, night nanny and weekend nannies. There is always a Nanny available.

I'm sure the Royals do have there own difficulties and challenges, but their experience of raising children is completely different from ours.

brizzledrizzle · 22/01/2019 20:12

When did she say this?

Aragog · 22/01/2019 20:12

She was just empathising.

What do you want her to say in response in that situation?

"Meh, I'm fine, got loads of help." ????
It's normal for someone to empathise with others, We see it on here all the time!

Fightingfit2019 · 22/01/2019 20:14

I agree she may not have all the worries regarding money that the rest of us do.
But I bet she has plenty of worries about other things. The poor women is scrutinised each time she comes out, her babies are paraded for the world to see. If news reports are right, she has issues within her immediate family (Harry and Meghan). Her whole life is broadcast to the world.

Yes she knew what she was getting into by marry Will. But there’s one thing ‘knowing’ and another actually experiencing it.

I bet there are days she wishes she could be a ‘normal’ mum, throw on some jeans and a jumper, and take her children to the park for a runaround, then go and get a hot chocolate and cake, before strolling back home. She’ll never experience that side of motherhood. There will always be a protection team anywhere she goes, always people with a camera.

Then she also has the worry of the safety of her children. They are such high risk.

Fuedsandfury25 · 22/01/2019 20:14

Tbh I’m a single mum with a disabled child living on benefits and apart from wanted me daughters health to improve I would NOT want her life I wouldn’t swap places for even a week.

meow1989 · 22/01/2019 20:14

Poor love, such a hard life.

MaisyPops · 22/01/2019 20:15

I'm no royal fan club member but she surely can't win on This.

Empathises about the struggles of being a mum - oh what is she whining about poor little rich girl etc

Talks about how much she loves motherhood - well it's ok for her with all her staff

Nothing she could have said would please people who like to actively scrutinise everything she says or does.

elfies · 22/01/2019 20:16

Poor Kate , everything she says and does analysed ...............as we're doing here .
I wouldn't have her life for all the tea in China . She has to be perfect, and her kids and husband have to be perfect every time they're on show . She mustn't show off her wealth, or appear penny pinching . Must have suitable clothes, but not spend too much . Must appear at all state occasions but we don't want her having nannies . Give her a chance , her life must be full of rehearsals, hairdressers , dressmakers when she must have times she wants a cuddle from her kids and a hug from her husband and just relax without being on guard in case somebody reports something she's done, said or spent

Sparklesocks · 22/01/2019 20:18

I don’t particularly care for the royals. But it’s clear everything they do is scrunitused and there will always be people who find fault (there are often threads on here criticising their behaviour/outfits/weight/attitude. Very much damned if they do, damned if they don’t etc

TSSDNCOP · 22/01/2019 20:18

That wasn’t the way she put it. Even the Fail reported it in a way that showed she was empathising.

She may not live on a sink estate in Salford, that cannot be denied, but even if she packed all this RF bit in tomorrow her children would always be prey for some wackjob for the rest of the lives.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplands · 22/01/2019 20:21

This thread feels just like the one where the SAHM was telling her friend how down she was (apologies not sure how to link). Apparently because she was able to choose her life she couldn't ever have a bad day and should just suck it up

YenZen · 22/01/2019 20:22

I totally agree with you. It is utterly patronising and frankly inept. I'm fed up of the extremely privileged having no insight of whatsoever of those that really struggling.

Aragog · 22/01/2019 20:26

and TBH all the money in the world won't stop some normal parent worries:

Is my child happy?
Is my child doing ok at school?
Is my child making friends?
Is my child eating enough veg?
How can I make them feel better? (if child is ill or sad or have fallen over or for some such reason)
etc.

Money doesn't stop all worries.

Wildcate · 22/01/2019 20:26

I'm happy to hear she finds things 'so hard'. It gives me a, 'fuck, even Kate Middleton finds it hard and she has all the support' rationale - so I can give myself a break and be okay with my own parenting struggles.

This.

I think she was empathising. Better than shrugging and saying, ‘Piece of piss.’

And this.

BadPolicy · 22/01/2019 20:26

I think one of the biggest changes when you become a mum, is the worry. No matter what's happening you worry. Child goes off their food for a few days, you worry they're not eating enough, child finds their appetite again, you worry they're eating too much, next day you worry they're eating the wrong thing.

Kate probably worries about different things to an average mum, but the worry is still exhausting.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 22/01/2019 20:28

People would criticise her whatever she said. Those who are saying she's patronising, what do you think she should have said as I'm sure you'd have handled the situation so much better than her?

ohdearmymistake · 22/01/2019 20:28

She may not have the problems that most have but she definitely has a different set of problems.

People that win millions on the lottery think it will solve all their struggles and problems, for some though it brings a whole lot of other issues and that's with being able to remain anonymous.

Wildcate · 22/01/2019 20:28

I'm no royal fan club member but she surely can't win on This.

Empathises about the struggles of being a mum - oh what is she whining about poor little rich girl etc

Talks about how much she loves motherhood - well it's ok for her with all her staff

Nothing she could have said would please people who like to actively scrutinise everything she says or does.

And THIS.

Dongdingdong · 22/01/2019 20:28

What should she have said in that situation then, OP?

WeneverownedaniPad · 22/01/2019 20:30

I think she's an incredibly happy and fulfilled woman.

CatnissEverdene · 22/01/2019 20:32

There are quite a few people I would have sympathy for but Catherine isn't one of them.

I think she's a very driven and determined woman who does what she wants and on her own terms.

She may have struggles yes but Christ they are different to yours or mine.

Villainess · 22/01/2019 20:35

'What do you want her to say in response in that situation?

"Meh, I'm fine, got loads of help." ????'

Quite!

'sounds crap, babe. I can't imagine not having staff to run around after me'

That would have gone done great.

Villainess · 22/01/2019 20:35

*down