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Is there anyone who just eats normally?

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Peanutss · 22/01/2019 13:46

I can't believe the amount of threads where the OP claims to eat only a boiled spinach shake for breakfast, plain cous cous for dinner and a salmon fillet with veg for tea. With of course, only an apple as a snack in between.

Is there anyone like me who just has a bowl of cornflakes for breakfast, a meal deal for lunch and then whatever I can be arsed putting in the oven for tea? I'm beginning to wonder if I'm massively unhealthy in comparison to most or whether people are just making this up.

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BadlyAgedMemes · 22/01/2019 18:05

Giving them healthy meals, great. Making them feel that huge swathes of food are "off limits", not great. My mum definitely came into the latter category and the child will just grow up and rebel by eating all the crap they can!

I definitely agree. DM has been on one diet or another her whole life, and always involved me in them (not DB, for whatever reason), and there were so many foods that were just seen as bad. It's probably not the sole reason why I developed an eating disorder, but it can't have helped. I was buying sweets in secret and hiding them in primary school already, and then having a guilty binge when parents weren't at home...

BadlyAgedMemes · 22/01/2019 18:07

Giving them healthy meals, great. Making them feel that huge swathes of food are "off limits", not great. My mum definitely came into the latter category and the child will just grow up and rebel by eating all the crap they can!

I definitely agree. DM has been on one diet or another her whole life, and always involved me in them (not DB, for whatever reason), and there were so many foods that were just seen as bad. It's probably not the sole reason why I developed an eating disorder, but it can't have helped. I was buying sweets in secret and hiding them in primary school already, and then having a guilty binge when parents weren't at home...

@Peanutss -Thank you. Sorry, I didn't mean to have a go at your choice of words! I'm much better these days, thankfully.

Iownabigvase · 22/01/2019 18:09

don dd has a sandwich every day in her lunch box, but she also doesn't go to lots of party's or eat cake and sweets (whatever) every weekend at various outings either.. We all have our own way of balancing these things.
Tonight we had a roast chicken dinner with loads of veg and mash. Sat down at a table, no less. 😮

BadlyAgedMemes · 22/01/2019 18:09

Hmm, clearly not better at being patient at waiting to see if a webpage actually took your first post or not, though.

DonCorleoneTheThird · 22/01/2019 18:14

Iownabigvase to be fair, I would be bored if I had to have a sandwich every day, so I'd rather give more varied food.

I can't refuse a party invitation because of the food! I can't ban them from having sweets when given in class either. Well, I could, but that would feel wrong. I mainly don't want any of our lives to be around food.

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Peanutss · 22/01/2019 18:15

*the cheek of someone who started a thread designed to mock people and is trying to get approval on looking down at others who don't agree with you!

If you think it's unpleasant to have people disagreeing with you, don't start a judgmental thread. It's amazing that posters are laughing and trying to make someone feel bad when they are trying hard to give healthy food to their kids*

Sorry I can't really accept this from someone who had the cheek to call people shit parents for something so ridiculous.

I agree you shouldn't be feeding children chocolates and pastry with every single meal but that isn't what you said or implied.

And again, I'm really not being judgmental about people's food choices. That is you.

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Peanutss · 22/01/2019 18:16

BadlyAgedMemes thats okay I hold my hands up it was a poor choice of words. I'm glad to hear you're doing better!

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Peanutss · 22/01/2019 18:18

I definitely eat better on the weekend

I'm the complete opposite! I always eat worse on the weekends as I'm not distracted by work. Although I do more exercise on a weekend so probably balances slightly!

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IfNotNowThenWhy · 22/01/2019 18:20

I sold our table to buy more cheesy Wotsits.Wink
Whoever mentioned peanut butter on toast, I bloody love that. It's the food of the gods.
I do think being active generally helps you regulate naturally. When I am on the allotment I am working quite hard so if I get hungry and have a bacon and egg butty after I'm OK with that. At the same time, I have had loads of cavalo nero this year and will sometimes just munch a leaf of it raw. I eat broccoli raw too with salad dressing.You can not be diet obsessed and still like vegetables.
And I have honestly never bought a ready meal in my life BUT a sandwich for lunch is kind of the norm.
I just cant stand the angst about it all on MN. Our bodies are not so fragile and delicate they can't withstand a pork pie. Eat when you are hungry, don't when you are not, enjoy food, celebrate having enough to eat. That's it. And I could stand to lose a few pounds but that's all wine weight ( am currently abstaining).

MissConductUS · 22/01/2019 18:23

Plain non-fat yogurt with blueberries and strawberries for breakfast, a ham and cheddar sandwich on Italian bread with Dijon mustard for lunch, and no idea about dinner as that's DH's responsiblity. Smile Oh, and a Honey Crisp apple (do you have those in the UK?) and some baby carrots as snacks.

A bit off topic, but can someone please explain to the Yank the difference between tea (the meal, not the beverage) and dinner? Or are the terms interchangeable?

TIA.

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Peanutss · 22/01/2019 18:26

MissConductUS tea is your evening meal and dinner can be either the evening meal or lunch.

I personally call lunch dinner but some people call their evening meal dinner

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MrsMarigold · 22/01/2019 18:27

Hmmm Blush I was going to have mackerel but DD aged six popped it in the preheated oven in all the packaging. She is so helpful, I can't tell her off apart from being careful with the oven.

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Peanutss · 22/01/2019 18:30

MrsMarigold mmm mackerel with a melted plastic dressing Grin

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MrsMarigold · 22/01/2019 18:33

It's garlic prawns now...

TheDarkPassenger · 22/01/2019 18:34

Everyone has a different normal. I have friends who live on apples just to stay a ‘healthy weight’ and others who easily eat 3000 calories and stay slim.

I’m coeliac so my choices are different, I can’t just go and buy a sandwich and sometimes if I forget my dinner I just have to go without because there’s nothing to buy that I can actually have. My appetite isn’t huge either and I can’t gorge on things people usually gorge on (try gorging on a freshly made loaf of gluten free bread 😂)

Today I’ve been at a meeting since the crack of dawn where I got fed specifically so I’ve had
A gf muffin for breakfast
A chicken sandwich on gf bread and a side salad
A peanut bar and fruit

The other people’s buffet was huge and they ate a LOT more than I did

itssquidstella · 22/01/2019 18:35

@Peanutss it's delicious! I actually had half a slice with peanut butter and half with my grandma's homemade lemon curd, which is incredible 😋

DonCorleoneTheThird · 22/01/2019 18:37

Sorry I can't really accept this from someone who had the cheek to call people shit parents for something so ridiculous.
give it a rest Peanuts, I am bored of being the bad guy when you use my replies but completely ignore the actual comment I was replying to. Out of context, it's easy to do but it's getting annoying.
Would I take off the comment "shit parents" about the ones too lazy to bother giving their kids a healthy diet? Absolutely not.

Why did you start this thread if not for making judgements about other people who have other habits than you exactly?

My daughter, and son, fit and happy and growing up not bothered about their weight is all I need to look at to know I am right. The youngest are too young to care thankfully.

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Peanutss · 22/01/2019 18:39

itssquidstella oh wow, why is grandma's home made anything always so much better!

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Mummadeeze · 22/01/2019 18:39

I WISH I could eat normally but if I don’t restrict my diet I consistently put on weight. I am not exaggerating, if I ate a sandwich and crisps for lunch like you I would probably put on a pound a day. It is extremely unfair but I have two very obese parents and it just seems that my sister and I are both pre-disposed to putting on weight at the drop of a hat. We both exercise a lot and restrict our diets and are around a size 14 (which is slim in comparison to the size we would be if we ate ‘normally’)

Kikipost · 22/01/2019 18:41

If you eat shit then you’re going to think that people who don’t eat shit are “boasting”.

The reality is, there are lots of us that do have salad and chicken for lunch, salmon and cous cous for dinner etc.

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Peanutss · 22/01/2019 18:41

try gorging on a freshly made loaf of gluten free bread 😂

Dark passenger, my mother is the same and she always moans about her gluten free bread, tastes like cardboard she tells me 😂

I feel for you though, I see how much she struggles sometimes with food choices or the symptoms. It's not a nice thing indeed!

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blueshoes · 22/01/2019 18:44

I could eat normally 3 meals a day until I hit 40.

How old are you, OP?

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Peanutss · 22/01/2019 18:44

Kikipost it's not that I don't believe people do eat like that, it just seems rather competitive on MN at times and I'm often left shocked at how extreme/how many people take it based on some threads.

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Chocolateheaven123 · 22/01/2019 18:51

Typical day for me at the moment would be:

Porridge with banana and honey for breakfast or toast with marmalade, and some tea
Lunch is usually soup with some fruit, and crisps I'm in work
Dinner: varies but typically spaghetti Bolognese, chilli + rice, pasta + sauce with garlic bread + salad, sausage, mash and peas, etc.

In the summer, I eat various salads, pasta salad, wraps and so on. I rarely eat sandwiches, prefer stuff like soup/baked potatoes, salad. I love toast for breakfast so prefer to have bread then.

Snacks are yoghurt, fruit, occasional crisps. I eat way too much chocolate. Currently pregnant but before that, I was nearly 11st. Want to lose 1.5-2st after baby in born. Meals are fine, it's the chocolates, biscuits, cake etc which I eat too much of and portion control.

goodwinter · 22/01/2019 18:55

I enjoy food. I don't really care if I live a few years less because I don't eat mung beans for lunch

It's not about your life span though, is it? It's about your quality of life, especially in the later years. It's very short-sighted to think this way.