To say £300 is too much?

[jade19]

So my Boyfriend has this mobile game he likes playing. Over the past few weeks he has asked me a couple to transfer him £5 here or £10 there, so he can buy stuff on here. ( I'm not exactly sure what stuff, but im assuming it's lives or something like that.) Today he sat and asked me to put £300 from our savings over into his account so he can buy this " limited addition" thing on this game. And I immediately said no way.
He persisted for the rest of the evening, continuing to ask me and I said no.
In the end he asked me why he couldn't have it and I essentially listed why.

1. £300 is a lot of money to take out of our savings for a mobile game.
2. We have 2 children and we cant just spend £300 on something like.
3. I'm a few months time he will be bored of the game and it will get deleted from him phone and that money will be gone!

He claims if we take it out of our savings that we will get it back because he has a bonus coming later on in the year. But he bonus isnt guaranteed. I then also made the point that £300 can buy alot of stuff I mean that could buy loads of nappies for the kids or that could be a weekend away. And he some how, said that I said he was selfish.

AIBU for saying no? Did what I say come across as if I was saying he was selfish? (if that's the case then I need to think about how I say things in the future.)

Just incase your wondering, the reason he asks me for the money is because his wages go into his account and go out on bills and I claim any extra bits we get for the kids.
Also I know that you may be wondering why I agree to £5 or £10 but I won't agree to the £300. An that's becaus he works hard and I want to do things he enjoys and if that is £5 every now and then that's fine but £300 to me is just accessive.

Thanks x

Sort out an amount of squander money you both have after paying bills and savings transfer it monthly to him and stop treating him like a 10 year old asking for pocket money. He has no relationship with This money therefore it is no concern if he spends it, if it comes out of his finite money he will think twice.

He is being ridiculous wanting £300 for a mobile phone game any game!! You need to stand your ground here. How would he feel if you said you wanted £300 for a dress or shoes. YADNBU HE IS .

YANBU - it’s a lot of money

We are very comfortable financially, enjoy games, and would never spend that much money on a video game.

Work out how much money is left each month after bills, and put that into an account for each of you. No questions asked what is done with it. But if you can't afford to do that then there's your answer, and imo if there is a bonus that is not immediately needed then save it for emergency home repairs or other unforeseen costs, or knock a chip off the mortgage - but not video games!

Err, is he deluded? Thats a ridiculous amount of money! Answer No

Its not great that he has to ask you for money in that way, but I agree that £300 is a ridiculous amount.

I suggest you open a joint account, all wages and benefits are paid into it and all bills, including shopping, nappies, kids clothes, household stuff, transport, savings etc comes out of it. What is left is split between the two of you 50/50. then he can spunk his money on what he likes, on the understanding that you will not be subbing him if he spends it all on his game and then has no money to meet his mates for a pint (say).

I like the idea of splitting any left over money. it's definetly something I will do in future.

Omg! £300 That is obscene! We live very comfortably but if either of us were spending that on a fucking game? 😱 expect to be smothered with a pillow!

Are you sure it’s for a game and not a slot machine style game?

£300 on a stupid mobile phone game!! No way. I would have said no too.

Not sure about setting up joint accounts with someone who wants to spend such a ridiculous amount on a game. Those things are so addictive, I'd be worried they might go and just take it from joint funds anyway, and this guy has already called you selfish for saying no to this twattery.

Many families with young children just do not have £300 to squander on luxuries. If this is the case in your situation, then say NO without compunction.

What bloody mobile phone game costs £300!?

There's no WAY I'd spend that on a game holy shitfuck! 😦

PyongyangKipperbang

Its not great that he has to ask you for money in that way

Why should he not discuss with OP before spending £300 on something trivial?

I meant asking for £5 and £10 here and there. Thats the kind of money I would expect to have available without having to ask my partner for it.

I would discuss it before spending it on something big like a fridge, never mind a bloody mobile game!

"It" being the £300 by the way...... I really need to explain myself better :o

@Baby1onboard11 is going in the direction I was thinking. He may have an addiction OP. Even if it’s not a gambling game, he may be addicted to a casual Candy Crush type of mobile game as well.

Maybe it’s time you both sat down and reviewed the budget together so he can see which line item would suffer if he took out the £300. That would also be a good time to talk about spending money for both of you and his game addiction.

Yanbu I'm shocked

My DP wastes money like there is no tomorrow on complete and utter shit and it makes me mad as hell - but this? I'd be in a cell I'm sure of it. And I'd be asking him to show you some kind of proof that it's the game that requires £300 because it smacks of bullshit to me!

i take it your very comfortable because spending 300 pounds akes me feel sick(forget that I cant even do that because its not there!) so spending on a game make me feel faint!
im thinking if I was a millionaire id be comfortable with giving this much away without fear.buuuut no nope nope nope Id still never spend this ON A GAME. oh how different we live our lives.

Sorry OP but as mentioned above, are you sure it's not a betting site rather than a 'game'. Have you researched what sort of games require £300 deposits? I'm sure they're very rare. Do you know what the game is called and can you check this? If he's secretive about that, i'd be concerned.

Unless you have a very healthy income and lots of disposable money to flit away. I suppose to some lucky people out there £300 isn't much (it's a HUGE amount to my family!) But from your post it sounds like it is a big amount to you too?

I occasionally agree to give my kids 10 pounds credit for their phones to squander on games, maybe a few times a year, but 300 pounds is just crazy. You are totally right to say no.

You were financing his gambling?
And your beef is what?

My first thought when I read this was 'addiction'. Do you know what game it is, have you seen him play it, do you keep a close eye on finances?

What game needs £300???? I play a lot and go on casino sites but I’ve never known anything that requires that sort of money.