To use my phone as an alarm clock?

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It occasionally goes off on a day off because of how the settings work (and obviously my failing to check it every night). I would say this happens once every two months absolute maximum.

It went off this morning and DH flipped out at me. He insists that I should use a real alarm clock. He separately wants to ban my phone from the bedroom, which probably heightens his anger about the alarm.

I really prefer to just use my phone, in part because I am a very heavy sleeper and I am able to set my phone alarm to go off twice. AIBU?

YANBU to use your phone, YABU to leave an alarm set on days off. Just get into the habit of checking every night, in the same way you check your alarm is set for the next morning.

No I use my phone as my alarm too, just pre set the times / days.

I normally do check, but last night I was out for drinks and I think I forgot

What @Cheby said

Although, how loud is your alarm? I'm on maternity leave and I never hear DH alarm going off. First I know about his being awake
Is when he's looming over me to kiss me goodbye (or when the baby wakes)

Id have another look at the settings. If youre such a heavy sleeper you could consider getting a light alarm clock.

Can you not set it to only go off on weekdays or whatever you need? Most phones allow that these days.

Thanks, I have just looked at the settings. Not sure why Saturday was set, anyway. It was obviously an error because I don't make it a habit to get up early at the weekend!

YANBU I always use my phone as an alarm and often snooze for an hour solid (which my OH hates) but meh if that’s the only thing he dislikes about me I’m fine with that.

My ex used to have a rule about not taking phones to bed (because he was a cheating lying bastard - not saying your husband is btw) but take your phone to bed if you wish I say!

I don't think the alarm is that loud. It wakes me, the main problem is that I need to be woken several times to actually truly wake up.

My phone is off overnight. I wouldn’t use it as an alarm as I don’t want it pinging if I get a text or email and waking us all up.
Get an alarm clock or two!

I have it set on do not disturb, alarms only, so it only makes noise if the alarm is going off.

I hate phones in the bedroom. I'm with your dh, but realise I am in the minority

But despite these things, DH thinks I am totally unreasonable to use my phone as an alarm clock. He gave me a light travel alarm clock that he insists I use instead.

The real question is whether I am unreasonable to use the phone despite his protests.

My phone wakes me, an alarm clock does not. I'd say it's your choice which you use.

YANBU and he is being worryingly controlling about this!

You should be apologetic. I really struggle with sleep (and pain) so any extra few minutes are sacred. DH drives me made with super loud alarm and then not getting up. So I’ve woken with a racing heart as adrenaline shoots up and he’s still in bed ten minutes later and I could’ve had half an hour more sleep. When you share a bedroom you HAVE to be more considerate. I had to stop falling asleep with the radio on like I had for many years.

I have many more problems with alarm clocks my dh uses, as they can go off when they seem to decide....generally in the middle of the night!

Your DH is unreasonable to order you around. Check the settings properly and make sure it only goes off when it's supposed to, and no problem.

Sounds like your DH is using the accidental alarm to try to browbeat you into keeping your phone out of the bedroom. What difference does it make to him if your phone is on DND?

Of course you use your phone. An alarm clock could just as easily gone off on a day off.

Use do not disturb to avoid calls and texts

Although an actual alarm clock isn’t gonna help prevent this morning happening again is it?

Some people don’t like mobiles in the bedroom for various reasons. Again it’s a compromise, you have to figure it out between you. I wouldn’t like it - crap sleeper so need the distraction.

Lots of people use phones as an alarm clock. I do sometimes, as I CBA to take my alarm clock away with me when I travel.

And you say it only goes off about once every couple of months. That's not a lot, certainly not enough to be getting upset about.

My DP is the heavy sleeper (needs several alarms and often forgets to turn alarm off the days he isn't working)

Drives me nuts to be honest. I'm awake on the first alarm call (an hour before I need to be up if it's a weekday! Several hours early if it's the weekend) whereas he sleeps through it.

I sometimes relegate him to the sofa, for some peace.

ShastaBeast I am apologetic, but he gets extremely bent out of shape over it and goes for the jugular. This morning when it went off, he immediately yelled at me, complained it had gone off the day before (I had to work), angrily told me that he has given me a normal alarm clock that I should be using, and bitterly complained that we had stayed up watching a show because I wanted to (I didn't make him do this).

This came up again this evening because I told him that his reaction was too extreme and nasty. He just blamed me and insisted again that I should use the alarm clock instead.

even if you had an alarm clock, that could have gone off on a saturday.
you choose op.
i use my phone and once or twice it has gone off on a saturday but that was my mistake and i dont expected to be chided for it!

Are you hitting snooze or using multiple alarms? If so you need to stop - it's really really not fair on the other person.