To use my phone as an alarm clock?

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It occasionally goes off on a day off because of how the settings work (and obviously my failing to check it every night). I would say this happens once every two months absolute maximum.

It went off this morning and DH flipped out at me. He insists that I should use a real alarm clock. He separately wants to ban my phone from the bedroom, which probably heightens his anger about the alarm.

I really prefer to just use my phone, in part because I am a very heavy sleeper and I am able to set my phone alarm to go off twice. AIBU?

posted too soon. That was because he too didn't want my alarm ringing in the morning so we settled on me not using my phone and him waking me up. And I have had other alarm clocks as well. They are worse than phones as on phones you can chose not to have the alarm on certain days but can't on a clock. Tell him that you have to wake up an if he doesn't want you to use your phone then he should take responsibility of waking you up.

but I don't think he is emotionally normal. Yes, he is very controlling. We also have to go to bed at the same time(I can't come later), he gets very worked up about small expenditures, etc etc

Seriously?

Let's not worry about the phone alarm

Lets talk about how happy you are with this man and how you feel about the relationship

Love how people are skipping over the signs of emotional abuse in order to tell op she BU!

No op, you are not unreasonable to use your phone in any way you wish.

You later posts are very telling with regards to your dh's control issues, and I hope you know that telling you that you have to be in bed when he is, and that you have to do things his way, and his way onlyis NOT right or fair.

Everyone uses their phone as an alarm ffs!
We use them as a calculator
Torch
Timer
Camera
Diary
Notebook etc etc etc
Your problem is that DH is giving you grief about your alarm going off and disturbing him and him behaving like an absolute twat.
Seriously if you are having to deal with him being arsey about something so trivial you’ve got control issues going on there

Omg I’ve just read the post that says they have to go to bed at the same time?!?!
Wtf?
No no no nooooooooooooo!
This is wrong

I use Alexa and my phone... v normal

I have RTFT. But if someone wakes me up unnecessarily on a Sunday/Saturday, I'm like a sleeping lion awakened.
Same goes for getting amorous and waking me up. My ex used to call it 'the asses kick'. He'd start feeling me up, and I'd kick him with the hind leg.
I also love my sleep.

If it was me, I’d be using the travel alarm but setting it to go off at all random hours of the night. Because I know how to set my phone alarm, but this new clock is so fiddly! I must be doing something wrong! Silly me, best go back to my phone.

But then DH knows better than to try to force me into doing something I don’t want to do. Your DH sounds like a bully, and that would immediately make me dig my heels in. It’s just a fucking alarm, nobody died.

You know he's a dick head op, hoe many threads are you going to do before you actually decide your life would be better without him?

Pack your bags and run like the wind. He's a bully.

Ugh. If he's so controlling and EA, why are you still there?

Strange one, I think YUNBU using it as an alarm but I think YABU having it in the bedroom. Both DP and I leave our phones outside the bedroom. For one thing it removes temptation to fiddle with it.

wombat how effective is it likely to be as an alarm if it is outside the bedroom?

Dh is one of those, who has to be woken gradually. He often doesn’t get up on his alarm. We have separate bedrooms as I need my sleep, he wakes me coming to bed. I’m chronically ill. His alarm used to go off on his days off sometimes when we shared a room. That was awful.

Now it does sound as though your husband is perhaps abusive from the few points raised here. So you need to decide if you want to continue to live with him. What are you getting out of it?

Why does your husband think a clock would be better? Does he prefer the noise of an alarm clock?

Fromwhst you have described, YANBU to use your phone as an alarm. However it doesn’t sound very effective. How about a wristband as mentioned by a pp, whose son wakes for a paper round.

It sounds like you have other problems here op

Go to bed after him tonight. Just do it.

Fwiw I say keep the alarm, lose the twat

Strange one, I think YUNBU using it as an alarm but I think YABU having it in the bedroom

wombat please think about what you've said, so your saying set it as an alarm and leave in a different room. What on earth is the point in that, how is that going to WAKE HER UP! Leaving it in another room wouod defeat the object of using it as an alarm.

OP, i think you have bigger things to worry about than the alarm clock issue. Just to point out as many have that actally a proper alarm clock would be worse as they tend to go off every day where as phones can be set for set days.
If hes this angry about it going off on a day you need to go off then there's issues.

@LtJudyHopps Bedtime is on the clock settings in an iPhone.

You set it to show how much sleep you want and it wakes you up with very gentle music, getting louder if you ignore it.

It also shows how much sleep you've had etc.

If he’s so controlling then split and use your phone however you want?
No one should be telling an adult when to go to bed or being financially controlling.

the problem is that he is like this about a lot of things and I find it too exhausting to follow every single rule he tries to set

I really hope you read this sentence back to yourself OP. Its teally not right or ok

OP, I'd just get rid of thus controlling guy and then you can use your phone as an alarm whenever you want.

There is a body of opinion that believes it is unhealthy to have a phone beside the bed due to some eemissions

YANBU

I use my iPhone as my alarm clock, but I set it every night before I go to sleep- no chance it would go off on a weekend morning unless it was needed!

Do you all pre-set the alarm clock on your mobile phone?

Ideally I wouldn't take my phone into the bedroom- my sleep is definitely affected by staring at the screen in the dark etc but as it is my alarm I always have it with me. it's an annoying habit now