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What would YOU do if YOUR child had been making theretning phone calls?

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kimi · 29/06/2007 21:57

I would go bloody mad but alas not the pond scum parents of the little shit that has been bullying my DS.

BIT OF HISTORY.......
DS1 is 11 very bright but has tourettes, for the past 4 yes 4 years one of the children in his class has been picking on him and the school seem unable/unwilling to do anything about it.
He has beaten my child up,held him under the water at a swimming class, takes the p* out of him, stops other children playing with him, tells lies about him and is just an out and out evil little shit, he has hit my younger child, been abusive to my several times in and out of the school playground, and has no respect for adults at all.
His parents were friends of ours, but when this all started the mother took the oh no "not my darling child he would not do that (despite by her own admittance being thrown out of 3 yes 3 pre schools).
The father (on the occasion my DS hit him back ) cane round our house shouting and swearing and kicking the door, he has also come to the school play ground with his half brother and threatened to "have me done over" as i am a lying, ck sucking fg w**e, (key stage one learnt such lovely words from him that day). It got to the point I have had to call the police 4 times .

ANYWAY..... Wednesday evening DS1 gets a abusive and threatening phone call, we do 1471 and this "child" answers the phone, so I tell him we are reporting him to the police again and I do.
The next day I take DS2 to school DS1 does not want to go, and this "child" stands 3 feet from me telling a class mate "Mrs Kimi can't do nuffin, my dad cut up the sim card and said let her proove it son" I know this will be true as the dad is a thug with a record and thinks his son is a hard man like him, and the mother is so far in denile it is unreal. Anyway at lunch time DS2 see's this "child" messing with his scooter ( the scooter DS2 wanted for weeks and did jobs round the house for to get the pocket money to bye himself and was proud of ) and tells him to leave it alone, only to be pushed over and told to f* off, come home time DS2s scooter is nowhere to be found .

This "child" has also phoned 2 of DS1s friends and left threatening messages on their answer phone pretending to be DS1.

I spoke to a friend of mine today who works at the child mental health unit at great ormond street and they seem to think this "child" needs help ( I agree) but when the parents are encouraging it what the hell can you do, I mean we were offered mediation from the school and they told the school to f* off aint nuffin wrong wif our kid"

And before you all say I should not call the "child" a evil little shit and hold such contempt for him, meet my child, and walk a mile in his shoes.

Sorry this is a long and angry rant but I am fit to burst with rage, what I want to know s if your child did this would you cut up the sim card and pat them on the head with a well done? Or is this really pond scum parenting at its best?

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runkid · 30/06/2007 18:27

You are doing a great job i would definately talk to ss this is having a terrible effect on your son its disgusting. That school needs to buck its ideas up

kimi · 30/06/2007 18:37

Well as I said before there are only 3 term weeks left (thank god) and I have told DS1 I will not force him to go, I will replace DS2s scooter but I have told him that he will not be able to scoot to school until September when this boy has left. My sister has told us to pack a bag for the boys she has booked a week off and wants to take them on a last minuet booked holiday.

I feel so sad though that DS1 has had so much of his school time violated by this boy.
I still feel so much hate as well and that is so unhealthy.

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anorak · 30/06/2007 18:38

Hi kimi, so sorry this problem has become acute again. For everyone else I know kimi well and her DS1 is such a relaxed and well intentioned boy, I'm impressed by the way he copes with all this.

kimi one day your son will be a scientist or a writer or something equally prestigious and the other boy will be in prison. I wonder which of them will be thanking the parents for their advice?

I know all too well how a child can go off the rails but no way would I encourage that, these parents have an incredible amount to answer for. If education is the future of our country they should be charged with creating a lethal weapon.

Gingermonkey · 30/06/2007 18:54

cooeee, kimi!!!!! I'm here - did you get my email????? Fill me in briefly on this thread coz I can't be arsed to read it all ....do you need me to come down and beat up an adolescent????? Little b-stard.

kimi · 30/06/2007 18:58

Hi Anorak, Yes it has all hit the fan again, Still only 3 weeks to go as far as school is concerned. DS2 was heart broken over his scooter and I will be going in to the school Monday to have a word with the deputy head and state my displeasure, I'm quite sure as always she will say ooow and arrr then do sweet FA.
I am so bloody cross.

DS1 says he wants to go on Monday as he will get his SAT results so I will take him in then see how it goes, I am not gong to stress him with it because he has been ticking like mad the last few days.

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kimi · 30/06/2007 19:00

Hi GM sorry my bleeding hotmail is screwed, I will have to get other half to hit it with a shoe again.
You could always run him over in heeleys if you wanted too , no joking aside I am so cross/sad/worried at the moment.
Will be speaking to the SS on Monday for sure though.

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Gingermonkey · 30/06/2007 19:08

I've read the thread now - what an absolute f-ing nightmare!!!! You are being far calmer than I would be, God I admire your control and composure! Like you say, only 3 more weeks and then you (fingers crossed) should have a nice calm summer. Deffo go to SS about the boy, he needs some guidance and help before he ends up in some serious trouble. What I don't get is how parents can't parent. I suppose it's a vicious circle - and his own kids will be the same. So . Like anorak says - your DS1 will be destined for greatness and this kid will end up in prison or worse.

I sent you a pic BTW - get your hotmail working - take your frustration out on it and bash it about a bit . Been missing you xxx

MrsBigD · 30/06/2007 19:11

Kimi, don't have time to read all the responses but my heart goes out to you!

To answer your question... if either of our kids would dare even attempt such a thing they would regret the day they thought of it.

If they were on the receiving end I would probably have 'quiet words' with the offender along the line of 'do that again and you'll have to deal with MrBigD' and if the parents were anything like what you've described dh would definitely pay a visit... saying that dh can be very civilised but also very threatening ...

I hope the last few weeks of the term are bearable and you can avoid that horrible family!

Good luck!

kimi · 01/07/2007 10:23

Thank you MrsbigD.
There is really no point in myself of Mrkimi going to speak to these people because they think they are the perfect family unit, (despite him leaving her for another woman a while back then going home when the said other woman would not leave her hubby) that their children are wonderful but misunderstood and persecuted by all and sundrey and we and everyone else are in the wrong.
The father is too thick to have a convosation without every word being a swear word and thinks he is a big man (despite being all of 5 feet 6 ) and that violence is the answer to everything

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MrsBigD · 01/07/2007 14:22

kimi, that family sounds like the reverse Brady Bunch! Awful!

violence can be the answer sometimes , if I set dh on anybody that person would wish the police got to them first . Generally dh is quite harmless unless his family gets threatened... meet Mr. Hyde

kimi · 01/07/2007 16:29

MrsbigD I can tell you here and now I am at the point where I could happily beat 9 colours of shite out of the lot of them, however I do not wish to set that as an example to my kids and descend to their leval. (but oh my lord it is soooooooooooooo tempting).
I am using EVERY fibre of self restraint I possess and it is getting harder by the day I just keep telling myself 3 more weeks 3 more weeks, also the fact DS1 will end up
running Microsoft and this child will end up sweeping streets or asking do you want fry s with that between stints in prison make me smile.

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MrsBigD · 01/07/2007 17:20

@ 'do you want fries with that' you are probably sooooo right.

We wouldn't let the kids know that dear papa has clobbered the other family ... there are ways m'dear there are ways

As for ds running microsoft... if not then he can always try and become a rival to Branson .

kimi · 01/07/2007 17:23

Temping to as for a loan of your DH

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bev1e · 01/07/2007 17:47

kimi, your school has a care of duty to protect the emotional and physical wellbeing of your sons whilst they are attending. They have completely failed your sons, I'm afraid, and although you've said you have spoken with the Governors and the LEA your DS1 continues to be tormented whilst in their care.

I would definitely speak to SS and, if you've got the energy for it, take it up with the Director of Education at your Local Authority. Then send a posse of mumsnetters round to break the little shits legs!

kimi · 01/07/2007 17:55

Thank you bev1e, both my children have been affected by this so much.
I am going to be so pleased when DS1 leaves there in 3 weeks and of coarse as the other boy is leaving DS2 will be ok from September.DS1 is going in to school tomorrow to get his SAT results, and I will be having yet more words with the deputy head. [kimi goes to talk to wall as more response].

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bev1e · 01/07/2007 18:01

Good luck to your son on his SATs results. He's lucky to have such a great mum to look out for him.

kimi · 01/07/2007 18:03
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Celia2 · 01/07/2007 22:11

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MrsBigD · 02/07/2007 10:09

kimi sure dh wouldn't mind being lent out LOL at least he'll be able to use his 'special training' received whilst in the airforce yonks ago evil

ratclare · 02/07/2007 12:27

to be honest i think we should have a mumsnet whipp round and get his father kneecapped ,its the only language he is going to understand . I reckon £50 should do it

ratclare · 02/07/2007 12:41

ok on a serious note ,you should go in to the school and explain that your child is in danger from assault from this child ,get them to make a note that is what you are saying ,explain that if anything happens to your child you will sue the LEA for not protecting your child when they are responsible for his safety . Send a letter stateing the same to the LEA ,be quite clear that when he is in school they are acting loco parentis (sorry crap at latin) and if he comes to any harm as a result of the bully , your only option would be legal action as you have attempted all other avenues to address the situation.

kimi · 05/07/2007 16:18

Thank you everyone sorry I have not updated for a few days but here we go.

I spoke to the SS and they are going to look in to if/how they can approach the parents. The lady I spoke to was very nice and did seem to think the boy needs help.

DS2s scooter was found on Monday, it had been well hidden, he is very happy to have it back, however I will not let him scoot to school till September when the boy has left.

DS1 spent 2 days this week at his new school so as to know where everything is in September, and He loved it.
I went on the bus with him just so as to check he knew where he was getting on and off, on the second day we were a bit early and so I said I would wait with him if he wanted but when we go to the school gates he was met by two boys he had got to know the first day and off they all went (I walked back to the bus stop in tears as I was so happy to see him go off with some friends).

He went back in to his current school again as well today and got his SAT results (can I just whisper he got all 5s and I am so proud of him). Thank you again for your support and mumsnet good vibes, please keep them coming his way. Celia2 I hope you are ok and your child is getting help from the school to deal with the bullying, it is shocking how much of this goes on.

So where do I add to the whip round

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kimi · 21/07/2007 09:50

YAYYYYYYYYYYY DS1 walked out of his primary school yesterday and I let off confetti blasters and could not contain my joy.

I was talking to one of the staff at the leavers assembly and saying about the bloody boy, and this woman of over 30 years teaching experience turned round and said "that child is evil" and I had to agree.

So now its summer holidays, and then god willing a happy new start in high school for DS1.

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