Would you inform the police if your child committed a serious crime?

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This is a hypothetical question. But just wondering what others would do if you knew or suspected your child had committed a serious crime such as rape or murder?
I would inform the police for rape or murder. Not so sure about theft though.

My mum rang the police when she found cocaine and heroin in my jacket pocket when I was 19! I wish she chose to of gotten me help instead of making the situation worse. Her throwing her own kid under the bus made me hate her so much that I didn’t speak to her for 10 years.
I would turn my kids in if it depended on the situation Like others are saying, but her turning me in for drugs made me lose my mind, felt like I had no one to trust anymore.

that's very sad dinodizzy, maybe she genuinely believed she was doing the right thing for you.

Yes

There are some seriously immoral people on this thread - it's astonishing.

For all the people who say they wouldn't turn their kids in, your an absolute disgrace to society. Vile human beings who I am ashamed to share this ever disregarding world with.
Everyone should be held accountable for their actions no matter how small or how big the consequences are. You as adults should be teaching your children exactly that.
What are you teaching them by allowing them to do what the want and never deal with the repercussions of their actions because you cover it up.
This is the reason so many people get away with crimes, because they have absolute tossers for role models who condone their behavior and never make them face the consequences of their own actions.
What about when this person goes on to commit another crime, you are putting innocent people at risk, your allowing their behavior to continue and that makes you just as guilty as them.
Despicable.

Yes rosemarysbaby my life would be ruined because I would be ashamed of myself. It’s called a conscience.

depends
if child murdered to defend, no
if child murdered because hes a sicko, yes

if child raped, absolutely yes because there is 0 excuse for rape

that's the difference between you and me MsTSwift, my life would be ruined because my child has committed a crime. The reporting it or not pales into comparison.

Purpleboy you are talking absolute rubbish. Not informing the police is hardly condoning someone's actions and encouraging them to do what they want
Don't worry, with your attitude, it's unlikely your children would even feel safe and would bother telling you anything because they know they can't trust you, so you should be safe and way out of any problem they ever face. That's one way to raise them.

I would love to say of course I would call the police on them, but in all honesty I'm not sure. I would love them whatever and would want to protect them in someway.

The fact a child commits a crime is not necessarily the parents fault at all. Some kids are born bad or have something wired wrong and little the parents can do. Choosing not to report a rapist though is entirely within a parents control.

Rape or murder definitely. Lesser crimes, I’m not sure. It totally depends on the type of theft. Think I’d let shoplifting slide but not burglary.

Rape, pedophilia, serious animal abuse, serious domestic violence, anything that involves the abuse of any type of vulnerable person (elderly, disabled, children) then yes.

Minor fraud, dishonesty, petty theft without violence - much less likely.

Murder - depend on the circumstances.

Self defense - no
Serious provocation - not sure
Murder of innocent/vulnerable person - yes

To all the people who wouldn't turn their kid in for a violent crime, I'm assuming that if your child was raped/attacked,murdered you'd be forgiving and understanding if the attacker's parents stayed quiet?

With rape it’s extremely hard unless you were there to witness the act or they admitted it to you. the accused can say they have been falsely accused and it was consensual, I have actually helped my friend when he was accused by helping pay his fees and I gave him a place to stay when he was being ‘looked’ for by the police. I believed him that it was consensual as he was my friend who I trusted. There wasn’t enough evidence and it ended up being dropped. This was a very long time ago, but now looking back at it I know he is certainly capable of rape but I will never know, but at the time I was addicted to drugs so I believed everything. I think with rape it depends on the situation entirely though, especially if you’re being lied to by someone you love/trust.

@RosemarysBabyDress I think she believed she was doing the right thing at the time, but she knew I wasn’t going to act ‘nice’ towards her for her decision. If it was my child, I’d be arranging for help, not calling the police.

I'm assuming that if your child was raped/attacked,murdered you'd be forgiving and understanding if the attacker's parents stayed quiet?

what stupid question, forgiving: of course not
"understanding": I would be more surprised about parents selling out their child than parents being quiet.

One more time, you do understand that people are talking about informing the police AFTER a serious crime, not talking about being involved in the crime or letting it happen? Not stopping it when you could have done is a completely different scenario,

This thread is actually depressing. How anyone could not turn their child in is beyond me. Particularly for rape which is so hard to get a prosecution for and then to not help these victims get justice is shocking.

And for all those who wouldnt for drug dealing consider how much violence and murder is involved in the drug industry. Whole communities in countries that have a high manufacture rate are in tatters. It would be a no brainer for me to hand my child over to the police.

@RosemarysBabyDress what would you call it then actively knowing your child had committed a crime and doing nothing about it? Are you not showing them that their actions are excusable and they do not need to face consequences?

My attitude of thinking that everyone has the right to not be a victim of crime yeah your right that's pretty bad of me, must obviously be a terrible parent for raising my children to be aware of the consequences of their actions and knowing the difference between right and wrong. Warped world we live in.

This thread is actually depressing. How anyone could not turn their child in is beyond me. Particularly for rape which is so hard to get a prosecution for and then to not help these victims get justice is shocking

Has ANYONE said they wouldn't turn their child in for rape? Anyone at all??

My (19 year old at the time) brother raped me when I was 8 years old and when my parents found out they supported me without hesitation and reported him. I know how hard that must have been for them to face up to their own son doing that but I can't even imagine how I would have felt had they decided to try and cover for him

Has ANYONE said they wouldn't turn their child in for rape? Anyone at all??

Yes... Anyone who has said they wouldn't turn their child without qualification in is including rape...

My attitude of thinking that everyone has the right to not be a victim of crime

so you are once again not reading my posts, or choosing to ignore my points.
Once the crime is committed, it makes no difference to the victim if I call the police or not, a dead body is still dead. We are not talking about knowing that your kid has plans to commit a very serious crime and you deciding to cover for him before it even happened.

It doesn't matter if you don't like posters answers, you are not going to change anybody's mind!

The question was :But just wondering what others would do if you knew or suspected your child had committed a serious crime such as rape or murder

Responses from the first page alone:

I don't think I could, even though my rational mind would be screaming out to do it.

No. I couldn’t do it.

Nope. Unless for murder maybe.

I can’t imagine ever shopping my DD for anything (not that I can imagine her doing anything arrest worthy anyway) but if she did I think I’d be more to help her cover it up

Jesus Rosemary, fuck me .