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Would you inform the police if your child committed a serious crime?

321 replies

partinor · 14/01/2019 22:30

This is a hypothetical question. But just wondering what others would do if you knew or suspected your child had committed a serious crime such as rape or murder?
I would inform the police for rape or murder. Not so sure about theft though.

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MRex · 16/01/2019 13:58

That isn't what people are saying though @FinnegansWhiskers, you're making an assumption.

Smotheroffive · 16/01/2019 14:04

I need to make this really clear, it wasn't the McCann's that abducted their DC and stayed silent, as bloody seems to be asserting?

I was talking about the parents of the sick individual that abducted little Madelaine, that [hypothetically] if they knew what their offspring had done, and kept quiet about, were equally as complicit in the crime.

I hope that's clear.

Smotheroffive · 16/01/2019 14:07

Yes, agreed Finnegan's I would expect that a very high proportion would do that, demand their DC hand themselves in and if not turn them over to the police themselves.

Its is pathetic and criminal not not do so.

Smotheroffive · 16/01/2019 14:07

*to not do so

cushioncovers · 16/01/2019 14:09

Depending on what it was as others have said rape murder definitely also vicious hate crime, preying on the vulnerable and elderly yes I would.

Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 16/01/2019 14:10

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Smotheroffive · 16/01/2019 15:07

Naturally assuming the information we have been given is the true story, there wouldn't have been much point in saying it otherwise would there?! That's not nothing to do with the thread whereas considering those parents of that supposed abductor is on point...I did deliberately use the hypothetical for good reason.

Its an interesting point Thesnobbymiddleclassone but unrelated to the thread. Start a thread on it as its an interesting point but doesn't belong here really does it?

FinnegansWhiskers · 16/01/2019 16:57

If you dealt with bullying by completely misreading the situation and making things up as you went along, no wonder you didn't help your poor child. It's not fair on them

Rosemary you are clearly ill or deluded. Do you seriously think any parent would not help their child, who is constantly bullied, and hospitalised, by the likes of some precious little snowflake, who is much more loved (obviously 🙄) by their deluded mother, than anyone else's child?? So much so their mother would defend them whatever they did.

You would go all out to "Hush, hush, keep your murdering child between the family". You go ahead...

Your precious little snowflake would learn how to become a socially accepted member of society if you taught them some basic values and morals.

Most bullies, who are not given consequences for their actions, at a young age, go on to commit bigger, and more horrific crimes when they have not been taught appropriate boundaries. It's BASIC parenting! Very basic!

Most parents have to deal with something untoward their child has done in the early years. Most deal with it effectively. Parents like you are not liked, will never be liked, and when your little very much loved snowflake ends up in jail nobody will give a crap for you or your child.

My DS bully is now in jail. Unfortunately we had to move to my DS from the toxic environment mummys little snowflake created. Otherwise we could have joined the party our previous neighbours held when little snowflake was, eventually, jailed - as an adult, when his adoring mother no longer held his reigns!

DonCorleoneTheThird · 16/01/2019 18:02

wow how many times can someone use the word snowflakes in one post Grin

sorry, as you were...

Smotheroffive · 16/01/2019 18:48

Please let me know MNHQ how my post contravened rules?

I posted about a real situation in respect to the parents of the criminal in that situation [hypothetically].

I am really sorry if I've caused offence or upset, but it was very on topic relative to a real situation/example. It wasn't me who called the McCann's into doubt, as I literally didn't.

Smotheroffive · 16/01/2019 18:49

BTW I did search for an email from MNHQ first, before posting here @MNHQ

Seniorschoolmum · 16/01/2019 18:51

Yes, if they had hurt someone innocent, and they might do it again, I like to think I would.

darkriver198868 · 16/01/2019 19:08

Yes I would.

Smotheroffive · 17/01/2019 21:56

I am so sorry...Blush Sad

I really didn't think my pp could be misinterpreted and it has upset me that it was deleted for contravening guidelines, because it was intpreted by some other than my intention, as I had been talking about hypothetical parents of the abductors, some have taken that to mean I meant the parents of the victim [even though its not what I said]

A huge fat apology, that's horrible, and very upsetting to think about.

Smotheroffive · 17/01/2019 21:56

*any pp, not 'my'

NottonightJosepheen · 17/01/2019 22:03

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Smotheroffive · 17/01/2019 22:22

Oh thank you Josepheen yes the who parents of the abductor was hypothetical, as in, I they knew and never said anything, bearing mind the awful suffering that's brought, which is what we had been talking about, I used it as an example to demonstrate the awful effects of protecting such a crime, the damage and harm it brings. One the many are so aware of and a reason to not hide such crimes even I perpetrated by your own DC, their crime doesn't trump the victims suffering.

Smotheroffive · 17/01/2019 22:28

So fed up of the preemptive crap, so posting that again as its important to come across v accurately here...

Oh thank you Josepheen , yes, the parents of the abductor was hypothetical, as in, if they knew and never said anything, (bearing mind the awful suffering that's brought, which is what we had been talking about); I used it as an example to demonstrate the awful effects of protecting such a crime, the damage and harm it brings. One that many are so aware of, and a reason to not hide such crimes even if perpetrated by your own DC...

... their crime doesn't trump the victims' [and family's] suffering.

NottonightJosepheen · 17/01/2019 22:35

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Smotheroffive · 17/01/2019 22:38

Thanks. MN have refused to see it and I have felt horrified as a result, no it was reported by many. I read and reread and couldn't see what was being seen, but then I wrote it! I really appreciate your comments, especially the alliteration Grin

NottonightJosepheen · 17/01/2019 22:56

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