Do your teenager's bedrooms look like this?

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Just that really. My teenage DD lives in an utter shit pit.

So, aibu to care? For context, DP encountered our dog with a used sanitary towel in his mouth a few weeks ago, from DD's shit tip.

I'm no clean and tidy queen, I promise you that, but to me this is unacceptable. Aibu?

My 13 year old sons room is a palace compared to that, and his is a tip

Why?

For real!? That is vile...

Also, it is YOUR house so why don't you insist she cleans it!?

To those who say their rooms were the same at that age- are you or would you be OK with your DC doing the same now?

Does she pay rent?

Dd's was like this. She was overwhelmed and didn't know where to start so we did it together. We also cleared a lot of clutter so that she could manage it.

No, my teenager's room does not look like that.

He knows that the expectation is that he cleans it once a week, bed linen changed once a week, dirty clothes put in the laundry basket, and that the room is kept more or less tidy.

My room used to be like that. I have experimented with every way of living and have finally come to realise clean is easier. My DM never said a word and left me to grow up my own way. She simply shut the door. (Personally I’d have a word on the used pad though)

yep that was DD. She's 21 now and a lot tidier.

We did the clear it together thing a few times but it never stayed looking immaculate for long. Some teens are messy, some aren't. Came to the conclusion it was a battle I wasn't willing to keep fighting and kept the door shut.

Well it certainly makes me feel better about my dds rooms!
The first photo of the bedside table I though oh yes theirs looks like that...but that really is a messy room!
The sanitary towel would top me over the edge though that's actually disgusting.

Mine was like that at her age, if not worse. Cess pit my mum called it.
My own dds is not quite as bad.

She pays money from her part time earnings. She's still studying a levels.

I've tried everything so far that's been listed apart from the WiFi. I'm going to try that next, I just hate the thought of it. It seems so puerile, though her behaviour is hardly mature, I'll grant you.

I have reported the thread but MNHQ seem reluctant to pull it thus far 🤷🏻‍♀️

My daughter is v into interior design-wants to work in that field

Wow no my room was never that bad as a teenager, how does she live or even sleep in there lol. Hope I don't have all this to come when my daughter becomes a teenager lol.

I had a massive floordrobe and left cups lying around until they got mouldy. Would not have left sanpro about though, I found anything to do with periods gross and embarrassing so maybe I was too far in the other direction.

That’s revolting
I would not be willing to let her live in my house if she refused to make even a token effort to sort it out

Is she generally looking after herself in terms of washing and hygiene?
I assume she doesn’t have a boyfriend who goes in that room?

Is that a bottle of dettol behind the juice bottles on the side cabinet? 😂

Oh my, that is messy - and I’ve seen very messy rooms when I was housesharing as a student. Maybe spend a couple of hours tidying up with her and then every day check she’s maintaining it?

Mine was similar as a teenager. Floordrobe and cups galore.

Also once had a dog that did regular bin dives which resulted in everyone getting lidded bins. We realised he was getting into the bins when sanpro were found on the stairs. So not necessarily due to being messy or disgusting if the dog stole it from the bin.

18??? Jesus! Thats not messy, its dirty and unhygienic.

I cant believe people are defending her saying its ok at 18?!?!

That is absolutely not normal.. it looks like something they'd make a TV show about.

My room never looked like that and I'm not a clean freak by anyone's standard and my mother definitely wasn't.

My teenagers rooms are bad, perhaps not quite that bad, but they have half drunk bottles, overflowing bins and blood stained pants lying around ( despite having been bought a laundry bin to prevent embarrassment). I just don't go in their rooms now unless we run out of crockery.

Has she always been like this? I think good habits need to start much younger rather than trying to impose a regime on a teen which is an uphill battle. I would also worry that at 18 she should have some sense of personal hygiene and self respect. Does she ever have any friends over and does she care about what they think of her dirty stuff everywhere.

My dds have all had messy bedrooms but that is worse than any of them I think. They always had a clear piece of floor to get into the room at least. Generally I just close the door and ignore, but I don't allow food in the bedrooms and discourage drinks too so that helps.

Looks like my DD's room (unfortunately).

Those who have successfully banned food and drink (other than water) upstairs: how do you enforce it? This is a serious question. I have had a ban on food leaving the kitchen since mine were tiny. They stuck to it religiously as small children/pre-teens. Yet it now finds its way upstairs. It drives me insane.