To ask how often your DP plays on his Xbox/PlayStation?

[chxjw]

Just curious.

My DP is on it every night, I often find myself retreating upstairs just to watch a bit of telly in the bedroom

I understand occasionally but this is every night and he's often talking loudly on the headset at all hours to his friends.

AIBU?

My husband doesn't play computer games..,

I play on PS4 it most days, Dh wont go near it

Ummm....never!

Hell no! Put a stop to that. Right now. Every night sitting on a computer talking to his friends on a game? That's not normal.

He doesn’t own one.

Never, he doesn't own one and isn't interested in playing computer games. He also hates footie. I loves him.

My husband plays on his PlayStation most nights, I go to bed about 9:30 and he spends about an hour on it from there. If there’s not much on tv he’ll play on it from a bit earlier, but only if I suggest it first. We don’t have a tv upstairs but by 9:30ish I’m ready for bed anyway. I also hate it if he comes to bed at the same time as me so it works well!

You can't really judge if you're just watching telly. Playing games is more intellectually stimulating. You should strike a balance though as you need to spend time together and you also don't need him on his headset all the time.

Never but he plays a lot of online pool on his phone.

Doesn't have one, he plays on his dj decks most weekends though. Reliving his youth.

@Upthepong I'm jealous!!

Thanks all, wouldn't mind if there is a bit of balance but there isn't!

And I'm in the middle of studying for an exam so sometimes would like some peace and quiet without hearing him shouting on the headset..

DP doesn’t have one. He plays a game on his iPad sometimes when we’re watching tv (like I mumsnet) but it doesn’t take hours and exclude anyone else. I’d be really pissed off with someone occupying the tv every night and essentially spending every evening taking over our living room so I was excluded.

My husband doesn't play games. When he's not on shift we usually sort the kids bedtime together, then I'll make dinner. We'll then eat together and afterwards watch some telly on the sofa together or listen to & talk about music. We have separate interests - so his equivalent of gaming would be a dog walk then a pub visit.
Just tell him it's too much and you miss interacting with your husband.

Mine plays most nights for maybe an hour or so whilst I catch up on tv or do a bit of reading, and a few hours on weekends. He doesn't have a headset but does shout at tv when it isn't going his way. I think u need to have a wee chat with him and try to agree on a compromise.

chxjw Don't be, he farts for England.

Most days, but always checks with me first and doesn't put his headset on more than a couple of times a week (having pre-warned me so I can go into another room). I don't really mind, I'll happily sit with him while reading mumsnet or articles, watching Netflix on my phone or reading a book. At least we're in the same room and can talk to each other and I often watch what he's doing or pass on juicy mn thread details. It's no less sociable than sitting in silence watching the same thing on TV (if he's not got his headset on talking to his friends that is).

Ugh I managed to cut something out .

We have separate interests too - mine is being arty/doing nails and nail art. It's good to have time alone, but every night is not good. Tell him it's too much and you miss your husband.

Never, he’d not still be here if he did

The issue appears to not be the gaming but the disrespectful noise making. Not all games require this. The real problem is that he is socialising with other people noisily in your presence, not that he's playing a game per se. And socialising should be more scheduled and not every night.

In all seriousness, there is nothing wrong with couples having their own individual hobbies and activities, but as you already note, there has to be a balance. Time for a serious talk.

Never. He doesn't game. For which I am grateful.

DH plays every night except Saturday for an hour whilst I go out for a run. He doesn't use his headset for chatting anymore as he never realises how loud he is and wakes the kids! He used to play all night before the kids came along but we came up with the compromise of most nights for an hour and about twice a month he'll usually stay up late until 2ish playing (but this is on hold atm until our 4 month old starts sleeping better at night). I don't mind because I get equal time in return and he still gets up with the kids etc. Gaming is a great hobby but I think you need to find a compromise that suits you.

Mine has a gaming room so he's in there if he's playing games. Sometimes I join him and play with him, sometimes I just sit in there with my book and the dog while he plays and offer 'helpful' advice, sometimes I watch stuff downstairs while he plays, sometimes we watch stuff downstairs together. He doesn't do a great deal of stuff that requires headphones, so it's not really antisocial in that respect as we can chat normally.

But we met through gaming so it's a shared interest!

Too effing much I wanna play elder scrolls online!