To ask how often your DP plays on his Xbox/PlayStation?

[chxjw]

Just curious.

My DP is on it every night, I often find myself retreating upstairs just to watch a bit of telly in the bedroom

I understand occasionally but this is every night and he's often talking loudly on the headset at all hours to his friends.

AIBU?

Few nights a week at the minute due to new Christmas game, but previous to that hasn't used it in months. Doesn't bother me I go on it too on different things. I don't see him spending an hour or two on that as much different to me reading a book or posting on here. It's a hobby. The whole concept of people saying oh I'd put a stop to that or if I'd let him baffles me. These are grown men and women, not school children. If they want to spend time on their game surely that's their choice.

The whole concept of people saying oh I'd put a stop to that or if I'd let him baffles me.

Nothing baffling about it; abusive, controlling arses are as old as relationships themselves.

Most nights for a couple of hours

On a Wednesday night whilst I’m at Guides or if I’m just messing about on my phone he might ask if I mind if he plays it. But that’s pretty rare. Sometimes we play the Switch together.

3 nights a week but also goes to the gym 3 nights a week as well!

Obviously I understand speaking about it if it's a problem in your relationship but to outright say put a stop to it or if I'd let him like you say just sounds so controlling like you say jeanmc

Sorry joanmcc

Omg @chxjw are you me??? My DP is the exact same.... and we're expecting our first child too.

He never used to be like this but the last few months it's out of control! And every night I'm kept awake by him on that bloody headset, he thinks he's being quiet but I can hear him from upstairs. I hate it.

Surely, your husband is allowed a hobby and friends that also enjoy that hobby.
Saying "i'd put a stop to that!!!!" is abusive, controlling behaviour. Do not do this. Or if you can't stop yourself, find someone with similar interests to you.

Have you tried talking to him about it, instead of searching the internet for a whinge session?

Dh - occasional Rocket League with Ds2.

Gives “helpful” insight into my Fallout/Elder Scrolls shenanigans.

He has his amateur history research which takes up 85% of his spare time, so he views gaming as my outlet and let’s me get on with it.

I only play when it’s not a school night.

You have my sympathy with the shouting on a headset problem. I have this with my 12 yo ds. The best way to deal with this happening is to embarrass him by telling him off so the other people can hear me. Had to switch the wifi off once.

@supermariossister if I left it to him to choose he's gaming time we wouldn't be together still.

We have 5 children he can't play it every second of everyday because he needs to do his share of parenting, I didn't start a family with him to do it single handily im afraid.

So yes I do have to put my foot down because he can't just game when he's needed elsewhere

My DH used to play Xbox constantly when we first met but now my DS has one so DH doesn't play at all. He is constantly on his mobile though! When I asked what he was doing on it the other night he said I'm catching up on FB as I've been working all day, my reply was how about catching up with your wife as you've been working all day 😂😂

Every day. We don't have kids though, and it hasn't bothered me that much in recent years because I've been out of the house so much (working 9-5 and studying).

I like to watch (and advise ) when he plays Fortnite or games like Hitman, Tomb Raider, etc. One that I can't stand is FIFA but he's pretty good about playing a couple of games a night and then turning it off.

It’s a bit anti social in shared space - I mean how would he feel if you started video chatting loudly or doing yoga while he was quietly reading in there? Should be some negotiation of what you do together in the evening and when you don’t mind him doing it.

Most days, if he can. Doesn’t bother me one bit. It’s how he chooses to spend his down time unwinding after work, he’s made some great friends over the years from around the world. I get to watch what I want or read. Win win

Never. I wouldn’t have married someone who was a gamer.

You're lucky he lowered himself to marrying someone with an immature hobby like posting on the internet, aren't you?

Ah I dunno we've all got our dislikes. I wouldnt marry someone who was right into sports. Running or any other crap like that which takes up loads of their time. Rowing especially turns a man into a seriously selfish twat I've seen. Everything revolving around the thing.

It doesn't matter the hobby as long as theirs balance and that applies to everything.

Not at all

AS THE XBOX IS MINE!!!!!!!!!!! (and i am a grown woman with responsibilities and a job and if i want to set aside a whole weekend for a new game, i can)

Never.

Every weekend night until about 2a.m (unless he's night fishing).
I don't like it but he hasn't listened to a damn word I've said for 22 years so that's that.
I'm biding my time.

joanmcc I don’t think it’s that strange to not want to spend my life with someone who had a hobby that takes a lot of their time that I have no interest in. Lots of women on here complain about their husbands spending hours every weekend cycling. I married a man who is outdoorsy like me. I like to spend my free time outside cycling, walking, climbing, running, etc,. If I loved to game and hated the outdoors then I would have married a gamer.

All these people saying they would never marry a gamer. Guess I'm screwed then. Ah, well.

Never - we don't have one.