To ask how often your DP plays on his Xbox/PlayStation?

[chxjw]

Just curious.

My DP is on it every night, I often find myself retreating upstairs just to watch a bit of telly in the bedroom

I understand occasionally but this is every night and he's often talking loudly on the headset at all hours to his friends.

AIBU?

Never, he's not interested in gaming. He does watch some sport on tv but not football., he's more rugby and cricket with a dash of tennis and athletics kind of man He's currently watching Countryfile which I find mind numbingly boring.

My DH plays probably once a week - usually pre-organised games meeting up with friends online. He has a lot of friends spread all over the place and it's a way of keeping in touch and chilling together. I don't mind at all, in-fact I positively encourage it as it gives me a free evening to either work without feeling guilty, or do my crafty hobbies or watch TV that just I'm interested in. Sometimes dd or Ds jo8ns in with him, sometimes they jo8n in with me (teenagers). But he's v aware of noise, and the day is always discussed to make sure it suits. Consideration and balance. Your situation sounds like you have neither and I think you need to talk to him and together come up with a plan.

Never. We all occasionally play DD's Wii, but that's about it. Couldn't be doing with being in a relationship with a gamer tbh.

My husband doesn't play Xbox or PS4.

Once a year. He always has an evening playing when he's off over Christmas. And that's it!

He has a ps4 but he only uses it occasionally and he doesn’t play against others so no chatting on a headset etc.

I went out with a gamer for 3 years and it drove me up the wall. He would stay up hours every night playing games, swearing non stop and getting really wound up about it. One time I phoned him as I was feeling really down and needed to talk, he didn’t even pause his game and barely listened to me
Tell him if it’s bothering you and see if you can work something out. The thing with being with a gamer is that it really helps if you are a gamer as well.

Never

He's a grown man

Thanks all, envious of all those who's DP isn't interested in gaming!

We're expecting DS1 soon, he's going to get a shock when he realises he won't be able to play it every damn night.

Dh has had a few phases where he’s dusted it off and then played every night for a couple of hours for a week or two to complete a game. Then doesn’t touch it for months again.

The last time was about 6 months ago.

4-5 times a week. He saved up for a new one a couple of years ago, having hardly ever played on his old one in all the time we'd been together, so I thought the novelty would wear off. Sadly not.

"Never

He's a grown man

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Surprised that took until page 2.

DH plays computer games most nights after DD has gone to bed. But quietly. In his office.

I have always refused to have consoles in the main living room because I didn't want to feel pushed out.

He is also making an effort to stay off the games at least a couple of nights per week, so we can spend them together watching tv or even just reading in the same room.

I don't mind the games. There are far worse habits a man can have. He can't complain when I spend hours on MN

It did get a bit out of hand during his world of Warcraft phase. He tried using a timer so he didn't waste hours on it, but eventually he quit altogether as it was still taking up too much of his life. Now he never plays games that involve other real-life people, he knows it is harder to leave those games because of the sense of letting people down. When only himself (and computer generated avatars) is affected, it is easier to quit in the middle of a quest.

Games are only a problem when they start making other people miserable. If you are miserable, then it's a problem, and he needs to sort it out. If he won't sort it out, the he is the problem, not the game.

DH plays every night while I watch the tv programmes I like that he doesn't.
Not sure why so many people are horrified by the idea of being married to a 'gamer'. He enjoys it, I enjoy other things. We still spend time together.

I like putting our toddler to bed so he usually plays it then or if we go for a nap. Maybe about 3/4 hours a week.

@MissWilmottsGhost I snapped at him and asked him could he not just put something on the TV?

I think he got the hint, he's been asking me ever since if there's anything I want to watch on TV/catch up..

I felt guilty for snapping but then why should I? I should be able to watch TV in my own front room.

It might be an idea to ask if he can move the console elsewhere

Hardly ever at the moment as I’m playing Assassins Creed Odyssey every night. For a few hours at a time. DS in bed and I’m pregnant and he wants be to rest so I am!

@itneverrainsitpours yeah sometimes it's fine if there are things I want to watch or if I have anything else to do.

I think it's the loud talking/laughing that really gets on my nerves

It's like he doesn't realise how loud he's being!

@Shantotto maybe I should take up gaming and play him at his own game!

Daily but only when our small children are asleep. I have my own hobbies and if there’s something I fancy watching on TV he’ll always do something else. He’s always happy to watch a film or episode of something some evenings, and we’re always in the same room chatting so it’s really not an issue. It would only be a problem for me if it was at the expense of us spending time together or family life. I don’t get why some folk on here have such a massive issue with it!

@chxjw Just read up the thread that you’re expecting. DH realised he got a good chunk of game time in by doing the wake ups from 3am onwards and taking the baby downstairs and playing while DS dozed on his chest. Just throwing that out there as an idea

My ex was all day and night, every day and night.
And btw yelled at the toddler and baby for causing any distraxtions.

My husband now doesn't play these games because the children having grown a bit tend to play on them, or the content isn't suitable and he won't put them on in front of the kids.

I upgraded partners, obviously!

He doesn't have a console.. Very seldomly ds will ask him to play a match of fifa with him but thats about it. Maybe 3 times a year?
Our evenings are spent together 99 percent of the time. Unless one of us has made plans or work

Hmmmm....never...because he is a grown MAN who has responsibilities and a job and DC’s and because he doesn’t have any gaming systems 😬😂

Every day, usually after I am in bed, but much more casual now we have a 18m old. Pre baby I used to play every day too but with so little free time these days I have to pick between a few hours of gaming, tv, or a good book.

Most nights when I've gone to bed. He moved away from his friends to be with me, so I won't begrudge him a couple of hours catching up & playing with them. I get to catch up with my TV shows & have a bit of time to myself... Win/win for us.