To ask how often your DP plays on his Xbox/PlayStation?

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Just curious.

My DP is on it every night, I often find myself retreating upstairs just to watch a bit of telly in the bedroom

I understand occasionally but this is every night and he's often talking loudly on the headset at all hours to his friends.

AIBU?

Apparently mindless TV trumps gaming in the maturity stakes for most of the snobs around here

Gaming industry is now worth more than the film and music industries together (4.65 billion ), it was on the news very recently. It’s the future of him even entertainment. Well, the future is now.

Well, if like us you don’t have Sky telly and can’t choose what to see on Netflix because there’s too much choice, and terrestrial telly is full of the same old repeats every night ....can take only so much Alaskan Chef Midwife Bailiffs On Celebrity First Date Benefits...then a games console is often entertainment of choice.

My partner plays on his 3 or 4 nights a week, and I’ll play on mine from 10pm until 6am sometimes a couple of times a month. It’s highly immersive, but also sociable if you don’t wear a headset you can still chat to your partner as you play.

Mine never does - we don’t have any gaming things and he’s never shown any interest in getting one. He also doesn’t particularly like football. 2 of the many reasons I married him.

@TerriTummyTowels no we don’t watch tv either 😬 maybe the odd movie on Netflix

Usually 1-2 hours per night at the weekend. After dc in bed he goes to his 'den', has a play while I watch my programmes (he's up there now). Then we come back together to watch a box set together about 9pm fir an hour or two. My dh works late during the week so not an issue then. Can you come up with a similar arrangement to mine?

Never. Don't have one. Biggest turn off ever. But then we don't actually have a TV either.

Meangirls36 yaay another ESO player

We are a gaming household so DH plays most days, (Whilst running a company with staff, being an active father and doing more house hold chores and cooking then me) He's playing Red Dead redemption 2 now, whilst I MN I often sit in with him and watch his games as the story lines an scenery is as good as watching telly. he doesn't play multiplayer stuff so doesn't have a head set and doesn't shout at all though.

DH, never. DS13, on the other hand, is almost never off his. I have played for a couple of hours this afternoon too. No worse than wasting hours on MN.

A few times a week, sometimes I will go in the bath but the rest of the time i sit in the same room and chat to him while I do something else. He makes sure I have time to go out and do things that are important to me- go to the gym, do driving lessons, see my friends- so I always make sure he has time to do what’s important to him, which includes gaming.
I would miss him if he was off in another room every evening though!

Never, he's a grown man

Said unironically by someone shitposting on a messageboard.

Apparently mindless TV trumps gaming in the maturity stakes for most of the snobs around here wink

Or all the mindless posting on Mumsnet

Hmmmm....never...because he is a grown MAN who has responsibilities and a job and DC’s and because he doesn’t have any gaming systems

Say the grown WOMAN wasting her evening on a messaging board! Why is Mumsnet in ANY way superior to video games?

Mine goes through phases of not playing for weeks and then playing for an hour or 2 a day if time allows. Teen DS plays a lot and they sometimes play together online. Doesn't bother me. If he makes too much noise I just go to the bedroom and read or play mobile games. We don't have a TV so no competition there.

Don't get the snobbery around gaming, it's just another hobby/form of stress relief

Once every few months.

I’m usually the one playing it! I favour long open world games. Think I was well over 100 hours at Red Dead Redemption 2. OH was watching boxsets. He’s playing it now I’ve finished it though. We’re a gaming equality household!

There are some weeks, especially with a big game, that he'll spend probably 4 evenings a week - particularly those I'm out of the house if it's a gorey game or one I'm not interested in - plus the nights after I go to bed when he's not working on it until completed or to help keep him up, other times we have weeks at a time when neither of us feel like gaming.

He's never spent a night shouting into a headset though. I'd find that really difficult to live with I think. He's pretty open to doing other things if I suggest them, certainly not either of our favourite hobby but it's something we both enjoy whether one of us is playing or both.

Well he spent 4 hours playing today until he begged for mercy because he's actually playing through a game I'm struggling with so I can watch, coz he's mint like that

I dont have littlies though and was child free, plus it's a shared thing.

If you have a baby on the way then he's going to have to find some balance. I wouldn't dream of playing a game around none gamers if it's dominating shared living space.

Or you can ask him to teach you how to play so you can play together occasionally if you're open to it.

I don't know because he only does it when I'm in bed

Hmmmm....never...because he is a grown MAN who has responsibilities and a job and DC’s and because he doesn’t have any gaming systems 😬😂

Being a grown up with responsibilities means you don't have hobbies now? No way to blow off steam?does your posting on mumsnet therefore indicate you have no responsibilities?

Gaming is the same as any other hobby, if you take it to the extremes and it cuts into important stuff, thats a failing of the person not the hobby.

Were both gamers so we do it as a joint hobby lots at weekends. But he does twitch streaming 3 nights a week, so that's solo on his own.

Yanbu if he's spending no time with you. Ask him to keep it to certain days.

When there’s new DLC for one of his games he might play in the evenings. I might sit with him or I might stay downstairs and watch tv.

He often plays it before I wake up on the weekend.

He plays about 1-3 hours a night. I play it about 6-7 hours a day but usually in the day time.

I mean, my husband is 38 so he is usually pretty good at limiting his own screen time...

In all seriousness, he doesn’t play anything like that, thank god, my ex used to play all day every day, it used to drive me nuts

Me and dp dontlive together but I know he plays on his once every 2 months or so. He’s constantly saying he should sell it, but then enjoys it for an hour or two, but then it gets put back away for several weeks.🤷🏻‍♀️

My husband plays with the PS4 everyday, he wakes up earlier than me and our son so we don't notice and it doesn't affect our time together. We spend time together, not just as a family but as a couple. There has to be a balance. You need to talk to your partner and tell him how you feel, explain what you want.

Buy him Red Dead Redemption 2 It's mainly a solo game so no annoying loud laughing, or a better headset and mic so he doesn't have to be so loud. Or take up gaming yourself, you might enjoy it.

The average age of a gamer is 31, so hardly a children's pastime.

If he is playing to the exclusion of all else, that is a problem, have you tried talking to him about it? Tell him it is a bit lonely for you.