Phone bugged

[Beingspiedon]

(Posting for traffic) I would really appreciate any help or advice anyone can give me as I don’t even know where to start right now.

Have a very bad relationship with PIL. Found out a few years ago they hired a private investigator on me. I found out because I overheard a conversation between PIL when they were drunk but they don’t know I’ve heard them.

Over the years since our relationship deteriorated, I’ve had a few cases where they’ve said things they shouldn’t know. I’ve always put it down to coincidence but recently my fil has word for word quoted two of my telephone conversations with my sister and he should have absolutely have no way of knowing any of it. He also got warning “looks” from mil when he said these things.

I can’t speak to anyone IRL about this in case I am being paranoid or I look crazy. If my phone is bugged then a lot of things that have happened over the last few years make sense. Is there anything I can do to find out if someone has access to
Personal information on my phone? Can anyone give me advice on this?

Have they ever bought you any house gifts/ presents that may be bugged

Have they ever bought you any house gifts/ presents that may be bugged

There's a hand knitted bear from the MIL sat in a box in the lounge. Alas for OP, people seem to have missed this and there have been no calls to tear it open to reveal recording equipment...

I wouldn't even try to be too clever, would just say that there have been a couple of conversations with people who have information they can't possibly know about; so am concerned that 'phone or house may somehow be bugged. DH & I have agreed to get some professionals in to have a look, if they find anything it will go straight to the police.

Would be interesting if PIL turn up unannounced.

Have they ever had access to your sisters phone?

OP Why would he give himself away like that?
He's accidentally letting it slip?
He wants to use the info to gaslight/confuse her like before?
It makes him feel powerful?

I suspect that pil will pop round soon.

I would not be letting them in again.. Ever.

I wonder what happened about the 8.30 phonecall?

The fil rung and op ignored it, told him to email/text but he didn't

I believe you OP and I am glad that you have spoken to your DH. It could be listening devices or worse, camera filming devices. I have no advice but to search every inch of your home for something unusual. Good luck.

Yesterday 22:20Beingspiedon

Sorry to leave everyone hanging - I didn’t answer. Instead I suggested it would be more convenient for them to email or text to which I got no response.

FFS, they are bugging you?! Gosh, it puts my clingy MIL in perspective!

I agree that the bug is likely in your home, not your phone. Unless you know they heard both sides? They sound like nutters, this must be awful for you.

I would discuss it with DH when out somewhere isolated and see if you can agree to sweep the house (and car/s?) for bugs in silence and avoid private conversations until this is done. You can always agree ways to test it between you by setting up a sting as you suggest. Once sure you are clear I would be tempted to go NC and set up security cameras on all access points.

Any update @Beingspiedon

I was intriuged by the idea of bugging a cellphone (sorry Op), and googled it. It's much easier than you might think:

bestcellphonespyapps.com/can-you-spy-on-a-cell-phone-without-having-access-to-the-phone/

If they did this, then it would account for their knowledge of your life. It's really creepy. Hope you get to the bottom of it and find a way to keep them out.

Only on page 4 but op it's something I have wondered about myself.

It's not widely out of the ordinary and if people had a the funds to do this

God OP, you must feel like you're always on high alert in your own home. This is so awful.

I remember a poster a few years ago who suspected her husband or partner of bugging her. She found it hidden in a socket if I remember rightly.

Really feeling for you op. Glad your husband is onboard.

Littlechocola I remember that thread it was horrifying!

IAmRubbishAtDIY

thank you.
Don’t know how I missed that update.

I hope you can get this sorted ASAP. I thought my in laws were awful, they actually seem OK compared to this.

They haven't given your DC an electronic toy recently have they? Or a teddy bear with a strange hard lump in it's belly? (Only half-joking!). Sounds awful op. In your shoes I think I would have to test my theory.

Keep up, Sanjelli although I think OP is waiting for some cheerleading before this goes further:

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Yesterday 17:34Beingspiedon

Gifts are all things like Lego. Although come to think of it when first dc was born she knitted him a stuffed dog so will be checking that later - it’s in a box in our living room where it’s been since we moved. I think that’s a long shot though

Jeez @Beingspiedon this is horrific. Good luck with trying to find out the truth.

What a horrible feeling for you all and how awful for your husband to have grown up in that environment.

Jesus I can't believe PIL even think this is a sane thing to do

Have you tried that teddy bear yet OP?