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Original poster

Phone bugged

404 replies

Beingspiedon · 13/01/2019 07:43

(Posting for traffic) I would really appreciate any help or advice anyone can give me as I don’t even know where to start right now.

Have a very bad relationship with PIL. Found out a few years ago they hired a private investigator on me. I found out because I overheard a conversation between PIL when they were drunk but they don’t know I’ve heard them.

Over the years since our relationship deteriorated, I’ve had a few cases where they’ve said things they shouldn’t know. I’ve always put it down to coincidence but recently my fil has word for word quoted two of my telephone conversations with my sister and he should have absolutely have no way of knowing any of it. He also got warning “looks” from mil when he said these things.

I can’t speak to anyone IRL about this in case I am being paranoid or I look crazy. If my phone is bugged then a lot of things that have happened over the last few years make sense. Is there anything I can do to find out if someone has access to
Personal information on my phone? Can anyone give me advice on this?

OP posts:
HeebieJeebies456 · 13/01/2019 22:27

change the password for your router, router settings and wifi.

AuchAyeTheNo · 13/01/2019 22:35

Majority of the staff in mobile shops won’t be able to help with this, you need someone more qualified with better technical experience. They probably could give you more advice though.

When they have mentioned bits of your conversation has it always been things you have said? If its always been what you have said then I would go along the lines of a device in your house hidden somewhere, perhaps more than one! If they have said things that your sister has said then I would agree it’s more likely your mobile.

Original poster
Beingspiedon · 13/01/2019 22:42

My sister told me she had a new job and then told me the address. He later told me he’s been near where her new job was so he’s somehow heard her say that - or possibly I’ve repeated it back to her? I really can’t remember although I wish I could!

OP posts:
ScrumptiousBears · 13/01/2019 22:46

Is your sister on social media and could she have mentioned the job in there and PIL is just having a snoop?

LannieDuck · 13/01/2019 22:47

I would factory reset your phone first - probably much cheaper than the other options.

Doyouavocado · 13/01/2019 22:52

Wtaf, I need popcorn with this thread

Somewhereovertheroad · 13/01/2019 23:09

This is a very unsettling thread. 

Beingspiedon and Dh Thanks

LMDC · 13/01/2019 23:11

I hope you get to the bottom of this OP

HirplesWithHaggis · 13/01/2019 23:12

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StoneofDestiny · 13/01/2019 23:30

Get police involved and don't let in-laws near your home until you have an investigation done - a normal phone shop can't help with this, you need a proper investigation done.

AgathaF · 13/01/2019 23:51

Horribly creepy, I hope you get to the bottom of it.

joanmcc · 13/01/2019 23:53

Wtaf, I need popcorn with this thread

As honest as it is crass.

whatifI · 14/01/2019 00:52

I'd ring 101 and log all this or pop into your local police station, if it's still open, and tell them everything

Mia184 · 14/01/2019 06:33

OP, should your PIL come over, I wouldn’t leave them alone in a room. They hopefully don’t have a key?

MrsJDornan · 14/01/2019 07:25

I'm so glad that you and your DH have spoken, it's nice to have the support in RL rather than just on here however I'm glad some of the comments have been helpful Thanks hope you get to the bottom of it

Comenext · 14/01/2019 07:39

He later told me he’s been near where her new job was so he’s somehow heard her say that - or possibly I’ve repeated it
OP Why would he give himself away like that?
It seems as if he is proud of having insider knowledge and wants to brag by letting you know that he knows.
Definitely a nasty piece of work.
But try to pin it down. Is it happening only in the house or is it happening when you use your mobile outside? Does it continue when you are away on holiday?

AornisHades · 14/01/2019 07:49

They know your WiFi key? Get that changed immediately and change passwords etc once you've done that, or from another network (work/library).

placebobebo · 14/01/2019 08:00

Go no contact with them completely.
Get your phone and house checked.
Take all of this to the police and let them deal with it.

There's no point in confronting them as they will try to deny it as you have already found.

SurfingGiantess · 14/01/2019 08:01

Omg. I have no advice but feel for you.
This sounds absolutely crazy. I'd love far far away too.

ivykaty44 · 14/01/2019 08:06

Blinking well dreamt about my house being bugged last night, must have been this thread playing on my mind

Goodness knows how you feel op

SusanneLinder · 14/01/2019 08:08

www.onlinespyshop.co.uk/blog/10-quick-steps-to-completely-sweep-a-room-for-bugs/

Not as uncommon as it seems!

Aprilshowerswontbelong · 14/01/2019 08:23

I suggest that you look for cameras in your bedroom.

Mix56 · 14/01/2019 08:24

If you do find something, don't remove it in fury. go to the Police, & they will need to see it, take it from there.
The fact FIL wanted to call tells me knows you have suspicions, & will ask to visit, or check when you will be home.
Do they have a key to this house?

TougheningUp · 14/01/2019 08:56

I would definitely change your WiFi password and not give them the new one. And I would get someone in to check your house for concealed cameras and microphones. It does sound like there's something going on. Just awful.

RandomMess · 14/01/2019 09:07

Having read that link I'm a bit freaked, any gift you've ever received would be going in the bin, key loggers checked for, phones checked!!!!

Makes my skin crawl.