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WIBU to get pizza delivered to DD's school for her birthday lunch?

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PizzaMom · 12/01/2019 19:51

I apparently am known as 'that' parent and have been given the side eye the few times I've gone in since!

It was DD's 16th last month on a school day. I ordered a few pizzas to be sent to school at lunchtime so she could share them with her mates in the common room. Teachers were not going to let her have themHmm and when they relented (by the time they got cold) made her and a few friends eat them in a separate meeting room when she had planned to share them as there was enough for about 20 people!

I don't see it as being that different from me bringing in a forgotten lunch box?

I also ordered flowers and a balloon to be delivered and school refused to let her have them until after school had finished.

I was trying to make DD's day special. I really didn't think would have been that much of an issue which ruined it a bit for DD.

WIBU?

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DewDropsonKittens · 12/01/2019 19:52

You are so far beyond unreasonable... you're embarrassing

GertrudeWilloughby · 12/01/2019 19:53

Really? Hmm

Sexnotgender · 12/01/2019 19:53

You can’t be serious?

nottakingthisanymore · 12/01/2019 19:53

Imagine if every parent did that? Every day. Nightmare. YABVVVVU

nottakingthisanymore · 12/01/2019 19:53

Don’t know why I put a ?

Hortuslover · 12/01/2019 19:54

Can you imagine if every parent sent flowers and balloons, place would turn into a florist 😂 yabu

Not the time or the place

dementedpixie · 12/01/2019 19:54

Yes you were OTT and very unreasonable. What a disruption to everyone's day

2cats2many · 12/01/2019 19:54

Of course you had good intentions, but, yes, YABU.

There's something kind of showy about it that I don't like either. It sets a precedent that ends up being a massive pain in the arse for other parents further down the track.

You could have given her flowers and balloons at home and packed her a special lunch that didn't involve all that palaver.

FiveNightsAtMummys · 12/01/2019 19:54

YABU - great idea for after school tho, invite friends round and have suprise pizza and flowers / balloons turn up.

Nanny0gg · 12/01/2019 19:54

Wasn't she mortified?

My kids would have killed me if I'd done that!

And you can't supply food to other people's children in a school setting. You don't know their dietary needs/allergies

Namechanger445 · 12/01/2019 19:55

This has to be fake, surely?

Imknackeredzzz · 12/01/2019 19:55

Cringe!!!!

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 12/01/2019 19:55

I think that provided your daughter was meeting the delivery person at the school gate and dealing with her pizzas herself you were not unreasonable.

If the pizzas went to the school office with no warning then that was very UR.

Catmum26 · 12/01/2019 19:55

i’m surprised your DD was okay for you to do that it sounds highly over the top and embarrassing sorry. of course a delivery of pizza enough for 20 people is different to taking in a forgotten lunch box.

winsinbin · 12/01/2019 19:55

It’s a great idea but my DDs would have been mortified if I’d done that.

OTOH a very rich, posh, eccentric friend of ours used to have his family wine merchant deliver cases of wine to his boarding school and his house master would sign for them on the condition he got a few bottles for himself.

BritInUS1 · 12/01/2019 19:55

Wow !!! Please tell me you didn't actually so this !

user1473878824 · 12/01/2019 19:56

What embarrassing performance parenting.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 12/01/2019 19:56

Flowers and balloon were UR though I think

WhatwouldCJdo · 12/01/2019 19:56

You really did this?
You thought this was a good idea?
You didn't check with the school?

Can you imagine if every parent did this ? School reception would be bursting with pizza deliveries every lunch time and balloons floating to the ceilings. Grin

BrieAndChilli · 12/01/2019 19:56

Are you fucking serious??
The main reason you can’t just take in things to be shared is due to allergies, then there is the fact that someone has to receive the delivery, find the child it relates to, and then probably clear up afterwards!
Imagine if every child had stuff sent in!!!
Plus kids can be allergic to latex in balloons and if they are filled with helium the school won’t aant kids messing around inhaling a potentially fatal gas, flowers also pose a allergy risk.

JoeLycettsSparklyArmSling · 12/01/2019 19:56

Just out of interest what does your daughter think of it all?

Lwmommy · 12/01/2019 19:56

You had good intentions for your daughter but yes you were unreasonable.

The staff at school have enough to do without accepting deliveries and getting them to the student.

They would inevitable have had to dealt with arguments and resentment from the several hundred other kids at the school who werent part of the 20 being catered for.

FLowers/baloons in the classroom would have created a huge distraction to the other kids.

In addition all it serves to do is highlight to all the other kids that they didnt get that stuff for their birthdays.

marmeladerose · 12/01/2019 19:57

If children aren't allowed to order pizza to the school normally, then you should not be able to. There is also probably safeguarding issues around having delivery people come on to the school ground. I know everyone who comes in to my local school needs to be properly signed in even if its just for a few minutes, which takes time. Imagine needing to do that constantly if children were allowed to order to school.

alansleftfoot · 12/01/2019 19:57

WTF ????!!!!

Vonvon222 · 12/01/2019 19:58

Oh god, cringy. I hope you're on the wind up.

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