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WIBU to get pizza delivered to DD's school for her birthday lunch?

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PizzaMom · 12/01/2019 19:51

I apparently am known as 'that' parent and have been given the side eye the few times I've gone in since!

It was DD's 16th last month on a school day. I ordered a few pizzas to be sent to school at lunchtime so she could share them with her mates in the common room. Teachers were not going to let her have themHmm and when they relented (by the time they got cold) made her and a few friends eat them in a separate meeting room when she had planned to share them as there was enough for about 20 people!

I don't see it as being that different from me bringing in a forgotten lunch box?

I also ordered flowers and a balloon to be delivered and school refused to let her have them until after school had finished.

I was trying to make DD's day special. I really didn't think would have been that much of an issue which ruined it a bit for DD.

WIBU?

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ButtonMoonLoon · 12/01/2019 20:21

Is this really for real?
It is such an odd thing to do, it really is. The most worrying thing about it is that you don’t realise what odd behaviour this is!

PhilomenaButterfly · 12/01/2019 20:22

DD says YANBU. I say YABU.

Hwory · 12/01/2019 20:22

Ridiculous odd tacky entitled behaviour.

A 16 year old walking around with flowers hanging out of her bag with a ballon?? Fucking hell do you not give her attention at home or is she generally a attention seeking brat day to day?

Cat1nthehat · 12/01/2019 20:23

No way would we allow this in the school I work at.
Who is responsible for clearing up the pizza slices that inevitably go on the floor and putting every last scrap of rubbish in the bin.
Not very many groups of people 16years olds....

LagunaBubbles · 12/01/2019 20:23

Was it really that odd?

Yes.

jessstan2 · 12/01/2019 20:23

I thought my mother was embarrassing. By comparison to you she was invisible!

Are you completely bonkers???

Could you not have taken your daughter and friends out for a pizza after school?

I am blushing for you and only reading about it.

thatsmycoat · 12/01/2019 20:23

Well who normally clears up at lunch time?

It’s all a bit OTT but I don’t see ordering pizzas as the big deal some of you think it is.

Heismyopendoor · 12/01/2019 20:27

I think pizza is fine, as long as dd was onboard with it. But the other things are too much!

drinkygin · 12/01/2019 20:27

I agree that you are being unreasonable in that it’s very OTT and a pain in the arse for teachers...don’t understand the dairy allergy argument though? It’s impossible to keep dairy out of a school completely, surely?

Jezzifishie · 12/01/2019 20:28

That's all too much!! People don't even do that for an 18th birthday round here, let alone a 16th...

EspressoPatronum · 12/01/2019 20:28

😳 yes, it was really that odd.

Lovingbenidorm · 12/01/2019 20:28

My experience has been for the birthday girl to take a box of Krispy Kreme in to share with her class.
To order balloons and pizza to be delivered to school.........
I think not

ChrisjenAvasarala · 12/01/2019 20:29

In our school the 5th and 6th years had a common room for breaks. We used to order pizza all the time. Ordered it during 4th period to be delivered at a certain time at the office side door entrance. We'd go get it when lunch started, and take it to the common room. The teachers only stopped us if they wanted to ask for a slice! I don't see the problem with the pizza, but the flowers and balloons... was she meant to carry those around all her classes? That seems a bit idiotic.

Lovingbenidorm · 12/01/2019 20:29

Oh and flowers
Just no

manicinsomniac · 12/01/2019 20:30

A 16th birthday is a special one within a family and definitely worthy of extra celebration.

But in a school year 11 ... no, it isn't special at all. They all have a 16th!

I think some children could pull off the attention well and others would drown in a sea of shame.

Figgygal · 12/01/2019 20:30

Yes it was that odd!!

How. Mortifying

Cupcakey · 12/01/2019 20:30

Can't be real HmmConfused

shpoot · 12/01/2019 20:31

YABU but you know that surely? She's at school!! Have a pizza and friends at home

lazyarse123 · 12/01/2019 20:32

Omg sweet 16 my arse. No wonder there are so many entitled folk about these days. How SPECIAL does she need to feel. Just because the teachers do it doesn't mean children can, it's an important life lesson.

AhoyAhoy · 12/01/2019 20:32

Can’t you see it from the schools POV? Every member of staff is insanely busy. Even going to get bin bags is another job they would have to fit into their lunch break. At what message does this send to every other child about to turn 16,15, 14....

zzzzz · 12/01/2019 20:33

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BarbarianMum · 12/01/2019 20:33

Wow yes, turning 16 makes her pretty much unique. Esp in Y11. Everyone needs to know.

O4FS · 12/01/2019 20:33

I quite like the idea.

But then I give my DCs the day off on their birthday, which is obviously horrific to most on here. Grin Grin

Butterflycookie · 12/01/2019 20:34

Could have just waited till she got home. Seems a bit ott to me!

MudCity · 12/01/2019 20:34

Bizarre attention-needing behaviour.