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WIBU to get pizza delivered to DD's school for her birthday lunch?

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PizzaMom · 12/01/2019 19:51

I apparently am known as 'that' parent and have been given the side eye the few times I've gone in since!

It was DD's 16th last month on a school day. I ordered a few pizzas to be sent to school at lunchtime so she could share them with her mates in the common room. Teachers were not going to let her have themHmm and when they relented (by the time they got cold) made her and a few friends eat them in a separate meeting room when she had planned to share them as there was enough for about 20 people!

I don't see it as being that different from me bringing in a forgotten lunch box?

I also ordered flowers and a balloon to be delivered and school refused to let her have them until after school had finished.

I was trying to make DD's day special. I really didn't think would have been that much of an issue which ruined it a bit for DD.

WIBU?

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Schuyler · 12/01/2019 20:08

You’re not in the UK, are you? Utterly bonkers.

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PizzaMom · 12/01/2019 20:09

Teachers order pizza in according to DD for themselves and also for revision sessions so what's good for the goose......

Pizza, chips, burgers all served in canteen. Its a secondary school Hmm.

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ASAS · 12/01/2019 20:09

Peter Andre, is that you mate?

EmUntitled · 12/01/2019 20:10

You're being ridiculous. It being a Friday makes no difference. If your daughter is 16 she must be studying for her GCSEs- her teachers have more important things to do than pander to you and your daughter. Having pizza and balloons is also really disruptive in a classroom environment.

As others have said you were basically showing off. If all the kids had pizza and balloons it would be a daily occurence.

Bamchic · 12/01/2019 20:11

This is ridiculous for a plethora of reasons

  1. allergies: I teach and I know we have kids with anaphylactic dairy allergies as well as others.
  2. equality: the same reason kids all wear uniform and have the same rules, if your dd was eating pizza in the common room and shared with 20 people in a common room of 30 and used the selection process of who she’d share with it to excersise her power and popularity by actively or passively excluding people from sharing her party lunch that would be a dick move verging on bullying and schools can’t have that.
  3. distractions, junk food and a general party vibe teamed with flowers and ballon delivery is a recipe for classroom carnage and kids bouncing off the walls. Not what you need in y11.

YWBVU Stop.
I was spoiled incredibly as a child and young adult by my parents, so I am not saying don’t do it, I’m just saying there’s a time and a place.

AWishForWingsThatWork · 12/01/2019 20:11

Entitled parent raising the entitled, child ... fantastic ... just what the world needs more of.

iklboo · 12/01/2019 20:12

Seriously?

kateandme · 12/01/2019 20:12

are they saying your UR for sending in pizza because of health reasons or because your disruptive showy mum?
if for junk food reasons they need to get a grip.its healthy to have a pizza lunch especially for birthday.
but if its to like pp for being "that mum" then im unsure.

Zoflorabore · 12/01/2019 20:12

My ds is 16 soon and there is no way hiw school would allow this and rightly so.
He would never suggest it himself and if I did it as a surprise he would disown me Grin

ResistanceIsNecessary · 12/01/2019 20:13

Welcome to Mumsnet OP - I see that this is your first post.

Cool story.

CalamityJane10 · 12/01/2019 20:13

If you wanted to make her day special, why not invite friends round for pizza after school and decorate your house with balloons? School isn’t the place for an impromptu party.

AhoyAhoy · 12/01/2019 20:13

This happened where I work! On the last day of term. Absolutely ridiculous.

Troels · 12/01/2019 20:14

That is rediculous. There are more students in a high school than there are days in a year. This could turn into a complete nightmare for schools if every parent did this. It's way OTT. Take her and her friends to pizza on a weekend.

GrammarTeacher · 12/01/2019 20:14

You are not going to accept your unreasonable. Why even ask?
But why on earth did you expect the school's support staff to run around after your daughter to handle her delivery. Will you send these treats to her on her birthday when she's at work? This was just you and her showing off.

GrandTheftWalrus · 12/01/2019 20:14
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funnylittlefloozie · 12/01/2019 20:16

Cool story, bro...

Lovemusic33 · 12/01/2019 20:16

My dd would be mortified if I did that. They are not allowed to go out of school to get a take away so ordering them pizza during school time is just wrong. Why couldn’t you just invite her friends over after school and order pizza?

SuchAToDo · 12/01/2019 20:16

Op please tell us this is a wind up and that you didn't really do this?

How embarrassing, why didn't you just give her the flowers and balloons at home and have her friends over after school for a pizza...I would have died of embarrassment if my parents had done that to me at school...it's hard enough for kids to.fit in without parents doing something humiliating to make you stick out like a sore thumb

ILoveMaxiBondi · 12/01/2019 20:17

Pizza, chips, burgers all served in canteen.

Yes, all cooked according to allergies guidelines. You know this. Don’t play dumb.

user1473878824 · 12/01/2019 20:17

First thought...

WIBU to get pizza delivered to DD's school for her birthday lunch?
radiometer · 12/01/2019 20:17

You still haven't got the hint from the school. Please to stop ordering things to be delivered to your child in school thank you please.

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PizzaMom · 12/01/2019 20:18

The flowers would have fitted nicely in her tote bag, sticking out of it. Balloon she could have tied to the handle. She would have got attention, yes, it was her birthday she deserved it.

Fucking killjoys!

It was her 16th. I wouldn't have done it for any other birthdays. We couldn't afford a proper sweet 16 (bloody reality TV) so she had to make do with a house gathering in the evening. It was just a bit of added specialnessGrin.

Was it really that odd?

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MummyofTw0 · 12/01/2019 20:18

Sorry poster, I think it's a little over the top and not really fair for the teachers/cleaners who inevitably would have had to clean up the mess

Raindancer411 · 12/01/2019 20:20

Very odd... sorry

showmeshoyu · 12/01/2019 20:20

No, keep upping the ante. When an authority figure asks you to stop, you break them.

Start sending round Michelin starred chefs to do a popup canteen takeover, hordes of army surplus tanks to fire a 100 cannon salute in the playground, the entire population of the Bhutan to serenade your daughter with close harmony singing as she sits in class on a throne made of stuffed badgers. Keep going and they'll wish for pizza by the end.