AIBU to expect my mother, dad or brother to look after my baby for half an hour?

[Battler1126]

So.. short version is..
Its my father in laws funeral on Monday (he died on Xmas day) my fella really needs me and I want to be there to support him but none of my family will look after our baby. I hardly ever ask them. They've had her 3 times in 10 months.. but this is important! It's not like we just want a bit of time to ourselves or want to go drinking. ITS HIS DADS FUNERAL!!! We wont even go to the wake so we don't put on to anyone.
We've sorted everything and had to empty his house with the baby there. Not with ONE offer of help. She won't stay with anyone at the minute so I can't even ask friends cause she just cries for 20 mins after ive gone, but surely I should be able to rely on my parents at a time like this? Am I being selfish to want them to have her so I can support my other half at this horrific time?

You can choose your friends but not your family...

YANBU in the slightest OP. And I'm appalled people think you are! It's her FIl's funeral, she needs to be there not only to pay her own respects but to support her grieving DP. You shouldn't even have to ask for help, it should have been offered without question.

OP. My own maternal GP's were like this, never ever offered to look after the grandkids in times of crisis and would refuse if asked. They were however very quick to expect everyone to drop everything to do stuff for them.... Don't do what my DM and siblings did and drop everything if they ever need you in the future.