To feel incredibly sad that I can't get close to my teen dd

[Fudgecakes]

I feel cheated. My dd went from 10 to 19 in 3 yrs...she's only 13 but, like a lot of teens, is trying to be older than her years.

As a result she's pushing me away. Endless nights in bedroom on phone or playing music. Not wanting to engage with us at all. Or dollying herself up and taking pouty selfies.

And her attitude....how long have you got? Vile . Confrontational and angry most of the time....we don't rub along well at all I guess because we're at loggerheads over what she wants to be/do which a lot of the crime I feel she's too young for.. but all her peers are allowed.

I adored my mum at this age....I guess I want what I had with her....but I appreciate it's a different world for teens now with a lot if peer pressure. I know you cant stop the wotld turning but sometimes i think we need to slow them down a bit. To help them all get back to being kids we i wish i could ban:-

smartphones and social media
Victoria's Secret
Pretty Little Things
Drill music
Crop tops
Bodycon
Nail bars
Full on make up

Am I alone in how I feel?

@Cory....yes...I need to accept she is her own person and appreciate she has a right to her own opinions and likes. I just find it hard not to comment If I don't like it...I know that's bad cos my dad used to have an opinion on everything....usually negative....and it really used to bug me. All the more reason to reign myself in!

Give the new stuff a chance. Remember my parents ended up really liking some of our music (pet shop boys) and they continued to like it after we had moved on from it . Same with our 2 dh and I are still Taylor swift fans though dd1 has moved on!

I also have a daughter who is nearly 14 and our situation is exactly as you have described. She is pretty impossible to communicate with most of the time. She shouts and snaps and stomps around the house annoyed by anything and everything.
She spends hours with her friends and when she is not with them they are facetiming eachother. She is obsessed with her eyebrows and has a better makeup bag than I do. She thinks regular visits to nail salons are essential but doesn't want to do anything to help pay for all these luxuries. She is now obsessed with the Vampire Diaries and I've said I would live to watch it with her but she thinks I'm too old! It's really tough and thankless at the moment but I know it will pass!