AIBU to think that most women over 35..

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Are a size 10 or above?

My friend has suggested that my new year resolution should be to slim down and tone my body - st first I was offended, but I actually think she was genuinely trying to be helpful or perhaps, motivational?

She’s a size 6 having focused on exercise/diet last year and lost 2 stone! I’m a size 10 and eat whatever I like she thinks that once I’m 40 it’ll be hard to maintain my weight unless I join her as a fitness fanatic

AIBU to think that most of us over-35s are a size 10 or above though. She’s the exception not the norm - her lifestyle seems tedious as she lives at the gym.

@sizzledrizz I wish I had your gargoyle face! You are absolutely gorgeous!

Cat and aero you both have stunning fingures too

I think the comments about gargoyle faces, words like gaunt and hollow, asking who would want to be ‘thin’, references to Botox and fillers in smaller women are ridiculous and insulting. Lots of perfectly ordinary women are 6-8 in today’s sizes.

I agree IamIwas. There seems to be a huge amount of vitriol aimed against women who say they are slim.

And as someone said above, the reason we're saying it is to counter the OP. Of course the OP is going to draw out women who are older and slim. Just as if the OP had said she never saw anyone bigger than a size 8 and didn't believe that there were many of these people around, people would be falling over themselves to say they are bigger than that and so are all their friends. People aren't coming here to boast, they're coming to say YABU. That's the point of AIBU.

@Timmytoo I remember in the 80’s a “perfect 10” was bust 34, waist 24, hips 34; so smaller than a size 4 today..

I'm 5ft 11 & when I was very young & size 10 got constant comments I was 'too thin'. It really knocked my self esteem as I ate like a horse & just seemed to burn it off. At 50 I'm a size 14 but want to get to size 12, which to me was my best:slim, but shapely with it. What height is she, as size 6 is miniscule? I work with a very petite girl that size but she's had food issues for years. (starving for 2weeks then binging for days).

@CSIblonde. Have you seen my picture above? I'm a size 6 in today's bonkers sizing. Am I miniscule? Or just normally slim? And I have no food issues and eat a lot. I do eat healthy food, and don't drink, but I eat huge portions and do not control my food in any way.

Having said that if you're 5'11 then size 6 would indeed be miniscule, but at average height it certainly isn't.

I'm 42, 5 foot 9 and a size 10. It doesn't all have to go downhill as you age

@TheDirectorIsIn We’re not being thin at you.

That's one of my two favourite quotes from this thread, along with the one about making comments on a men's Health and Fitness board.

Timmy, you're a 4 up top & a kid's clothing size for trousers. Primark or other teen/tween shops might have the right size trousers for you (skinny waist & long legs) -- but you'll still need a belt since you're an hourglass & few clothing items are cut for hourglasses nowadays.

I am 8/10 in trousers & 14/16 in tops. A simple hourglass in the era of mostly pear-shaped women.

Thanks @lljkk I appreciate your response. You're correct in saying my legs are very
very long, maybe too long proportionally. Attached pic to to give you an idea of what I mean.

This, I think is the main reason I'm not buying clothes that fit appropriately. As all the 4's have short legs so they come above my ankles. So I've automatically always gone for size 8's and wear a belt. But I find they're also a bit baggy on my bum.

Never occurred to me that I was smaller than a 6! Neither did it ever occur to me to perhaps try kids size pants. Think I will do a bit of window shopping tomorrow and experiment!

You & me are in perfect proportion, Timmy. It's almost everyone else who is a lardass, (I'm dead meat now, aren't I)?

I have a lot of belts, too. Without belt today, I have decent fit out of some M&S size 10 long jeans that could well be 20 yrs old. Slight flare at bottom...

I have a lot of belts, too. Without belt today, I have decent fit out of some M&S size 10 long jeans that could well be 20 yrs old. Slight flare at bottom...

You mean they are boot cut?

I agree that a slender hourglass is a difficult shape to dress, my measurements are waist 26 inches and my hips are 37 inches, don't know what my bust measurement is currently as I'm breastfeeding so it's expanded but usually it's about the same as my hips. I'm a size eight usually but if it's something that fits my waist only like a high waisted skirt that isn't fitted, I'm a six. I'm 5"8.

I don't wear boots, so I don't know about 'boot cut'. Charity shop buy.

I don't like flares but since good fit on waist + hips, usually tuck them into my socks to get legs looking fine.

I spent £48 for skinny high rise jeans in Next last year. I shouldn't need a belt for those either. But sheesh. £48!!

Where does this myth come from that we are all starving ourselves and gym bunnies ? I am 47 years old, 5ft 9, and have always weighed 58 kg except when pregnant and then only gained a tummy, no bragging intended. I eat what I like and have never dieted although I would say I eat healthily. I sporadically visit the gym. Since my last child my tummy is softer but still flat. I have always been the same size in clothes between an 8 and 10. My mum is very similar, maybe it is genetics.

over 40, 2 children and a size 8 -standard hour glass. I can still wear most of my clothes from my twenties. No gym but I don't eat huge portions and I don't really drink. I think genetics is also a factor.

Huge difference between UK and US size 6! I'm a US size six but tend to be a UK 12. I've realized that when I was a UK 6, I was skinnier than a 12 year old girl...

I am still about 80 pounds and I am 35, I have put on a tiny bit of weight, but mostly wear size 6 in trousers now. Some size 6 is too tight but I can't fit into a size 8 either. but your friend doesn't sound very nice.

I'm 35 and can only aspire to be a size 10

I am over 40 and size 8

Sounds like you need some new friends.

Size is a weird way to judge health/fitness.. really varies according to natural build/ body type.. that said exercise is not a bad thing!! Having better muscle : fat proportion will keep you stronger/fitter with better posture and less likely to break bones..
But yes I wouldn’t purely judge health based on dress size!!

I am still about 80 pounds and I am 35

That's 5.5 stone - how tall are You?

5.5 stone?? That must be a mistake.

I thought about this thread today when the Banana Republic sale ad popped up on this site. I like the looked of a skirt and clicked on it. Their smallest size is a size 4 (and they claim these are UK sizes not US ones). According to the size guide size 4 is a 25 inch waist! That's still too big for me! A size 10 is 29.5 inches - that's really rather large. Which all goes to prove, once again, that clothes sizing can't be relied on as a measurement of anything.