To know it's all gone wrong night before 12 week scan?

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I've had such a good gut feeling this entire pregnancy. Now my 12 week scan is tomorrow and I feel so numb because I just know the baby's dead. I know it's gone wrong. I can just sense it. All the threads I've read about mmc say that they just knew and that's exactly how I feel. The day before my scan. What a sick joke :( can these feelings ever be wrong? Sorry I know it doesn't belong here but posting for traffic I need answers or I'm going to do nothing other than cry all night. This can't be happening.

Yep, me too! I was convinced I was going to miscarry. All the way through my pg. I didn't.

I'm sure you're fast asleep, but I used to read books to my bump (I'm a complete nerd).. It might calm you in the months to come. Because I'm sure baby is fine. xxxxx

I had no inclining anything was wrong when I had a MMC. Then I was convinced my baby was dead in my next pregnancy and he was 100% fine. Try not to over think things.

It'll be fine OP

My "this bleed definitely means the baby is dead" is turning three soon, and my "I'm sure before the scan something's horribly wrong and he's deformed or something" is a healthy 9 month old sleeping in my lap.

I've been thinking about you so much. Hope its all okay.

I was exactly the same and I'm currently sitting in bed feeding my 11 week old. Thinking of you

I had the same feeling, I did not let myself get attached before my 12 week scan as I was convinced I would miscarry. It was an unplanned pregnancy and in the early stages I had drunk loads of alcohol (I was 22) not knowing I was pregnant. I thought I must have done some kind of damage.

DS is now 5 and a half and has decided that now is a good time to wake up.

Good luck today!

What you are feeling is not abnormal. Anxiety feels worse when we can not do anything to control it. Hope today goes well

Good luck this morning OP... I cried all the way in the car to my first scan. Everything was fine but the anxiety didn't leave me completely until I was about 32 weeks. I did antenatal yoga and that massively helped me.

When I had a mmc I had absolutely no idea until I went for a checkup.
Good luck for today. Xxx

Hope you managed to sleep.
All the best for later

It will be fine!! Good luck and share your beautiful baby scan after! 💕💕

Thinking of you, OP. Pregnancy anxiety can be very powerful. I really hooe everything goes OK for you xxxx

All the best for today, will be thinking of you.

Good luck today OP.

I hope today goes well OP.

I felt just like this too. Child is 6 now. X

Feel sick to my stomach and had about 3 hours sleep. Never been so nervous in my life. 2 and a bit hours to go

Good luck OP

Good luck, sure it will all be fine xx

You can be wrong. With my 8,12 and 20 week scans, I was paranoid that something would be wrong. Missed miscarriage with the first, lack of growth or miscarriage with the second, abnormalities, with the third. I had an additional scan at 34 weeks as a precaution as the midwife was concerned about growth due to the bump measurement.

I was convinced that I'd end up with incontinence or permanent injury from labour.

I ended up giving birth to a near 9lb baby in a textbook water birth that took less than four hours, with minor tearing which was all back to normal within two months. The baby is now an adorable toddler sleeping in the next room.

A feeling isn't the same as reality, and pregnancy (and motherhood) can definitely mess with your head. It's natural to be anxious, but please talk to someone if the thoughts get too distressing or intrusive.

Fingers crossed for you today, hope it all goes well and you can relax a bit!

Op completely normal to feel like this when you've had previous losses.

I lost 3 before dd and dreaded every scan. In addition I had bleeding, pain, cramps & fainting! She's now a big lump of nearly 18 snoring in other room.

I didn't really START to relax until she was "viable" and even then not really.

Hope all goes well today, you've no concrete reason to think it won't.

Good luck today, I’m sure all will go well and you will get to see your health baby on the screen.

It’s normal to feel anxious, I think we picture the worst case scenario as a way of preparing ourselves if the worst was to happen, we do it even more if we have previously lost pregnancies.

When I was pregnant with dc1 they didn’t offer the 12 week scan but I had several scans before 20 weeks due to bleeding, each time I prepared myself for bad news but she was fine, with the 2nd I was having scans all the time due to bleeding but I was more relaxed because I knew my pregnancy was similar to the first and would be ok.

Hope all goes well today, looking forward to you telling us everything ok x

whirlygig what a horrible thing to say. And incorrect. Anxiety and stress of worrying don’t cause miscarriage.

Hope the scan finds that all is well OP.

Worry / anxiety often have some rational basis, since some of us have sadly lost pregnancies, and none of us can know for sure that all will be well. If it affects you a lot day to day (or in the night, eg sleep problems), suggest seeking help.

My DH’s attitude was that worrying wouldn’t change anything so he chose to hope for the best, push aside dark thoughts and enjoy the anticipation of a baby DC. I found it hard, anxiety affected me a lot, and I got good help from mental health / maternity services.