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To know it's all gone wrong night before 12 week scan?

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missymoon · 09/01/2019 17:33

I've had such a good gut feeling this entire pregnancy. Now my 12 week scan is tomorrow and I feel so numb because I just know the baby's dead. I know it's gone wrong. I can just sense it. All the threads I've read about mmc say that they just knew and that's exactly how I feel. The day before my scan. What a sick joke :( can these feelings ever be wrong? Sorry I know it doesn't belong here but posting for traffic I need answers or I'm going to do nothing other than cry all night. This can't be happening.

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Isth · 09/01/2019 22:31

Wishing you all the very best for tomorrow Flowers

WhirlieGigg · 09/01/2019 22:34

I’m sure your baby is fine. But your paranoia and high stress levels will cause harm if you don’t stop it. You need to see your GP about your anxiety and intrusive thoughts.

MaybeMaybeNotJ · 09/01/2019 22:35

Best of luck xx

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 09/01/2019 22:43

I was sure there would be nothing there at my 12 week scan. But there was, and he's now 4 months old and going through sleep regression hell. But that's completely off topic!!

Best of luck for tomorrow!

Ngaio2 · 09/01/2019 22:45

If we could be that sure of our feelings OP we wouldn’t need scans. Have a nice evening with your mum and then sweet dreams. Visualise sitting in sun cuddling your DC..
Let us know the good news tomorrow

MissyCooper · 09/01/2019 22:48

You’re sure it’s not just the passing of your symptoms? I was sick as a dog until like week 25 and then the symptoms vanished and I was convinced the baby had died. Phoned midwife and she let me hear the heartbeat and all was fine Smile

peachgreen · 09/01/2019 22:51

Oh OP I remember this feeling so well. I had a MMC and knew it wasn't going to work out from very early so when I got the same feeling with my second pregnancy I was convinced it was all over. I have never cried as much as I did when the 12 week scan discovered a heartbeat and a healthy baby - apart from when she was actually born. She's now almost a year old and shuffling away in her cot.

Will be thinking of you tomorrow.

GroggyLegs · 09/01/2019 22:53

Ah OP, I felt like that before all my scans. I loathed them. Why on Earth people pay for extra ones I will never know.

All the best for tomorrow and a lovely clear scan.

DressingGownPlease · 09/01/2019 22:54

OP, your gut feeling may be right or it may indeed be wrong. There's no way of knowing until tomorrow. Thinking of you. Good luckFlowers

Hazlenutpie · 09/01/2019 23:05

All the best for tomorrow 💐

Vanillaradio · 09/01/2019 23:07

Op I was just like you before every scan. And I had a lot of scans - I think 10+ due to my medical condition.
Every single time I sat in the waiting room convinced they would tell me my baby was dead. With the later ones even if he moved or kicked I thought I must be imagining it.
My baby was not dead and was and is perfectly healthy. He is now a 5 year old and currently asleep upstairs.
What you have is only a feeling, it's not a premonition. It doesn't mean anything is wrong. Most likely nothing is. I hope to hear about your positive scan and your beautiful baby tommorow.

Itslookinglikeabeautifulday · 09/01/2019 23:13

I was convinced something was badly wrong because I had spotting. But 12-week scan was fine....and DD is now a very healthy and VERY loud 13yo. Please try not to worry. x

jojosiwa · 09/01/2019 23:13

I've been in your shoes OP but I'd bet my next wage you'll be fine.
I was about 10 weeks when I stopped 'feeling pregnant ' so my friend who is a midwife sneaked me onto her ward and scanned me when her boss was at lunch! All was fine and dd is now a big lig of an 8 year old!
Good luck for tomorrow.. Anxiety is an awful thing

LuluJakey1 · 09/01/2019 23:16

I had some bleeding with DS and was sure I had started to miscarry. Had a scan (DH was away and I didn't tell him) and it was fine.

When I was at the same stage with DD - 14 weeks- I was overwhelmed with the certainty that the baby had died. We had a private scan and it was fine.

I am 9 weeks with number 3 and sure something will go wrong but have no evidence at all.

You are feeling anxious and it becomes all consuming and overwhelming. Hope it goes really well tomorrow.

AnyOldPrion · 09/01/2019 23:21

Three pregnancies. Each time my morning sickness passed at around twelve weeks and I suddenly felt less pregnant, but each time the scan showed a healthy foetus.

Best wishes for tomorrow.

AnyOldPrion · 09/01/2019 23:23

Oh and I had spotting with all three too. My eldest is an adult now, but I can still remember how it felt.

clumsyduck · 09/01/2019 23:28

I remember sitting waiting for the scan with ds telling myself There was no point being excited because there probably wouldn't be anything there and feeling genuinely sure that I wouldn't be having a baby . Hes 8 now Smile

Good luck tommrow op Flowers

birdiewoof · 09/01/2019 23:30

I felt something was going to be wrong the night before my 20 week scan. He was fine xx

avocadosrus · 09/01/2019 23:34

Good luck for tomorrow Thanks

Yearofthemum · 09/01/2019 23:37

I have been wrong with this feeling too. Try not to worry. Feeling like this is not a good predictor that anything is wrong.

PolkaDoting · 09/01/2019 23:44

Good luck!

spugzbunny · 09/01/2019 23:47

I was convinced I'd be looking at a miscarriage on my 12 week scan. They are very good at telling you the heartbeat is there and I sobbed. She's now sleeping on me at 10 months. The anxiety is very hard in early pregnancy. Good luck and I know you'll be fine xx

Karwomannghia · 09/01/2019 23:49

Feelings of doom are often bollocks and never helpful. I was convinced DS was not going to survive or was a phantom pregnancy even when in labour. He’s taller than me now! Good luck for tomorrow.

Justaboy · 09/01/2019 23:53

Mumoftwoyoungkids

Wewll shes an excellent example of best to wait till you get all the right grear around and someone who knows how to use it right. Bin ther had that with a echogardigraph ther was quite a lot of greif went on woht then in the end someone who was very experenced drove the machine and accurate result were produced.

Please try to sleep and relax if its there it will be there theers nothing you can do tonight anyway so lessen the stress and have a catch up chat your your mum she soundst like a very nice mum anyway!.

Nite..

Wotev · 09/01/2019 23:55

I struggled massively throughout pregnancy. The day she was eventually born, I had a placental rupture and bled massively. I have never experienced such terror. I had worried all throughout the pregnancy, and I hadn't made good choices. I so desperately wanted her, like nothing I've ever wanted in my life before or since that I was convinced I would lose her (didn't know she was a baby girl at the time). Thanks to a prayer (yes, and I won't apologise for that, the bleeding stopped, it was a prayer to stop bleeding that one woman prayed for me) and doctors and my brother (dr) ringing the ward and my aunt (midwife) and my mother (force to be reckoned with) she was born by c-section perfectly healthy at 10.10pm.

She was just meant to be here I think and a combination of a lot of things managed to get me observed very very closely.
You're just panicking. A previous loss will leave you petrified I imagine.
I'm sure baby is perfectly fine!

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