To know it's all gone wrong night before 12 week scan?

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I've had such a good gut feeling this entire pregnancy. Now my 12 week scan is tomorrow and I feel so numb because I just know the baby's dead. I know it's gone wrong. I can just sense it. All the threads I've read about mmc say that they just knew and that's exactly how I feel. The day before my scan. What a sick joke :( can these feelings ever be wrong? Sorry I know it doesn't belong here but posting for traffic I need answers or I'm going to do nothing other than cry all night. This can't be happening.

Anxiety is horrid.

Try to think of something else and let your mum look after you for the night

It is hard being pg after a mc - hard to enjoy it as experience tells you how bad it can feel, it is likely your mind subconsciously protecting you by preempting

Good luck for your scan x

Thoughts are just thoughts. They're not facts. Lots and lots of suffering in the world is caused by getting too involved in thoughts.

Call the MAU and ask to come in for an assessment. You should alrady know this is an option

I’ve been there....sometimes I was right

Sometimes I wasn’t.

I hope you’re not.

I felt the same - I was convinced I was going to miscarry my twins - I had a feeling before the scan it was twins (wasn't actually picked up on the first scan) and I just had an awful feeling I was going to miscarry. They're 23 now - had several bleeds but they were born perfectly healthy at 37 weeks. I was right about the twins but not about anything else. You will be fine.

Feelings are just feelings.

In my second pregnancy, i started bleeding a couple of days before my 12 week scan. I wasn’t sure what to make of it, was anxious but knew it didn’t necessarily mean something was wrong. The scan showed that the baby died at 8 weeks and I miscarried later that morning.

In my third pregnancy I started bleeding and because of my previous experience, I was convinced that the baby had died. I managed to get a scan that morning and baby was alive, but measuring 2 weeks behind. He’s now 10 months and asleep upstairs.

for tomorrow.

I remember being so convinced I’d had a MMC at 8 weeks I stayed awake all night worrying. The next day I told my husband we needed to book a private scan because I was losing my mind.

All was well. Anxiety is torture, though.

Good luck

I remember this feeling with both. One called me a weirdo just now and the other asked me if it was alright for him to fart in bed.

I think when you want something so bad you convince yourself it won't happen. I think that's what you've done today, you've been happy so far in your pregnancy, feel great and now that your scan is tomorrow all the what ifs have floored you.

Thewifipasswordis why do you do this l? What is your problem?

I truly hope all is well for you.

I felt like this.. honestly.
I’d go in for a scan and just burst into tears because I just felt something wasn’t right..
That gut feeling, a feeling of emptiness that you simply can’t explain..
Well...

My daughter Ruby was born in October and is fast asleep next to me in her crib, perfectly healthy! It was all just a fear because I wanted her so badly..

Best of luck with your scan x

It’s actually not, smart arse.

Anything before 13 weeks is not assessed unless mum is bleeding heavily or in pain

You’re a gob shite FYI

Hope tomorrow goes well, anxiety can be a bastard x

@Thewifipasswordis

The point of a forum is often to ask questions you don't know the answer to...you should already know that. HTH.

Really hope that 12 hours from now your back online telling us all how wonderfully your little one is doing.

I was convinced when I had my first scan with dd1 that the sonographer was going to say it was all a mistake and I wasn't actually pregnant at all. I didn't sleep much the night before, but she's 5 now and has 2 year old twin siblings.

Chin up op. Your mind may well be playing tricks on you.

You're

I was like this with every scan and blood test. Even the HIV one. Not one reason to think I had it, second child so had one before and same partner etc. but I spent the day googling living with HIV and researching how I would deliver my baby without passing it on. How long would it be before I developed AIDS!

Hope it goes ok for you.
I had two heavy bleeds at 8 weeks and 12 weeks and feared the worst.
She's now 10 and has just nicked my Cheddars.
Sometimes it is just anxiety.

I thought everything was fine before my scan. I’d had a mmc. Had no idea. Sometimes we put too much weight on feelings. There is every chance you will be fine!

I'd never even heard of a mmc before coming onto Mumsnet. I know that sounds ridiculous but with my first two children (who are now 10 and 13) smart phones were not as commonplace as they are now and the plethora of information that we have now just wasn't as easily available.
I joined Mumsnet for support when we trying to conceive and that's where I found out about mmc. I was convinced it would happen to me. I had an early scan which put my mind at ease for about 30 seconds and then wanted another and another but my husband didn't want to have any more scans as he felt that they were just feeding my anxiety.
Our little boy is now 14 months old and is perfect.
You can most definitely be wrong about a feeling.

I was 1000% sure one of my babies was gone the day of my 15 week scan. He was healthy as a horse and continues to be as a toddler. FWIW, I did have a correct gut feeling once that I would lose a pregnancy and it began from the second the stick turned positive and could never be shaken. What you’re experiencing is likely to just be anxiety and nerves. I know it’s hard. Wishing you the best of luck for tomorrow!

Mate I had three missed miscarriages and not a scooby that any of them had gone wrong. By the time I had my twins I was so numb to the whole watching and waiting thing that I couldn't convince myself that they were going to survive. It was like I wasn't really in the world. Jesus what a shock when they were born and I really suddenly just woke up.

The thing is, they don't know any of that, they just sit in there growing. Nothing's for sure in this life sadly but you've as much chance of this being a healthy pregnancy as anyone else has, whatever your feelings right now. Best of luck for tomorrow.

Wishing you well for tomorrow

I was convinced that my second pregnancy 12 week scan would show nothing, all symptoms passed at 10 weeks and just didn’t feel pregnant anymore.

Scan revealed twins!! Was in no way expecting that news!

Hope your mums there helping you chill. Bloody hormones .... think I spent most of my pregnancy bursting into tears every time someone breathed