To think people are Cruel about big’ weddings?

[MrDarcyWillBeMine]

A few wedding threads have popped up this week. Awesome, as a 2019 bride I love a good wedding thread!

However, I’m shocked and bemused by the sheer disgust MANY people openly display towards big traditional weddings. I find them very rude and small minded!

No feelings spared - plain nasty comments and even name calling! Apparently anyone who pays more than £50 to nip down their local registry office is a total ‘MUG’ and terrible person? 🤔

These nasty opinions also seems to be one sided - no ‘big weddings’ reguarlh jump in to abuse smaller cheaper ones or make crass remarks- there are plenty of ‘I’d never spend £20k on a wedding- I’d rather lick a mouldy toilet seat’ commenters

But no (very few and usually only in retaliation to abuse)
‘I’d never have a tacky function room £1k wedding - I’d rather visit a public pool 🤢’

🤔 So I can only assume that either:
A- people having cheaper wedding are generally meaner
Or
B- the abuse of large weddings is actually driven by jealousy!

With our fail it sparks a big ‘race to the bottom competition’ between commenters trying to one up each other on ‘cheapeast possible wedding’ 😒 meanwhile I just sit here thinking ‘I like my castle wedding 😬’

EVERY TYPE OF WEDDING IS LOVELY!

AIBU to think that people need to just stop being trolls and making shitty negative comments?

• I do get that weddings need to be affordable but some people CAN afford to spend £10k+ on a wedding and that’s ok!

Snoutabout. Nobody is gloating but if everyone ‘gave according to their ability’ as a starting point the country might be able to encourage a better quality of life for more people. Nothing wrong with hard work reaping benefits for those who choose to work hard. It pays for all those who choose not to work hard. China is an exemplary example of how a socialist country promotes equality for all.....Even the more benevolent socialist countries exert state control because socialism in its purest form isn’t economically viable except where there are tiny populations and large natural resources. Nothing to do with weddings though, is it.
If a couple want a big wedding and can afford it then that is entirely their choice.

@RosemarysBabyDress I agree with you 100% it's not very nice to mock people who want to have a nice wedding. Reverse snobbery st it's best!

@CherryPavlova agreed 100%. Your money you spent it however you like. If it makes you happy do it. It's no-one else's business!

Wow this thread too off.

Genuinely don't get the vitriol towards weddings. You don't even get this level of crazy on a private education thread, and that's a genuine 'equality and opportunity' issue

Imo you're fortunate enough to have money then spend it well and wisely and enjoy the good times with friends and family.
Very true. Worth also remembering the wedding industry is worth a whole lot of money to the economy and employs a whole lot of people.

If people with money, didn’t spend money, the economy would go down the toilet.

@Yabbers Yes absolutely!!!!

Oh please,all that gushing you’re making it sound altruistic to have a costly wedding

I agree with the general argument of it's no ones business. I just find the OPs hypocrisy startling.

@amorea

This is totally bonkers did no one pull her up on it? Was it being filmed for tv?

“Every female had to have knee length, sleeveless dress & jacket. No fur, no winter type coats (because they would 'clutter' the photographs) and no handbags larger than clutches. “

I think a polite thank you but we already have commitments that day would have been the reply from us!

China is an exemplary example of how a socialist country promotes equality for all.

Let’s leave aside the thirty five million deaths in Cultural Revolution, and just point out that (a) Chinese students in the UK are most certainly not from the rural or working classes, but are almost certainly either party cadre or from rich entrepreneurs and (b) that it is sickening when so I distant socialists promote the idea of a one party state in which freedom of speech, freedom of association and freedom of conscience are but sad dreams.

You can’t access Google in China. Are you saying that is a good thing?

Ha, yes I don’t think being like China is anything to aspire to!

Ha, yes I don’t think being like China is anything to aspire to!

"But China is great!" is the go-to for tankies who have finally realised that extolling the wonders of Stalinist Russia isn't a political winner any more.

Remember, a lot of the British left defended Stalin, and more recently defended Pol Pot (hilariously, one wanker from SOAS was so keen he went to pay homage to the man himself, and was shot for his pains). "Tankie" refers to the strain of the British left that was enthusiastic about the suppression of the Prague Spring. Presumably the poster in this case thinks that the main failing in Tiananmen Square was not shooting enough people.

MN is a hotbed of misogyny (no such thing as 'internalised misogyny' despite what FWR would like you to believe).

I think women are criticised even more than men!

The insecurity of the keyboard warrior, I suspect.

so snoutandab0ut I am stupid because I don't agree with you and I think you are talking non sense? Oh, ok, you have convinced me now with that very deep argument...

@theoryBuilding I think you are right. Women are so critical of one another on MN it's alarming. Hiding behind keyboards probably doesn't help but some of the name calling I've seen is just awful.

No, you’re welcome to disagree but you don’t seem to have an understanding of what you’re disagreeing with. And for the record I don’t think Russia (the old USSR) or China are good examples. They’re examples of a dictatorship posing as socialism and that’s nothing like what I’d advocate for.

Being devil’s advocate though scot, do women have to be nice to each other or agree with each other just BECAUSE they’re women?

@Klobluchar we spent over £10k and had a fucking amazing time, so your theory holds no weight for me! I've never regretted it or thought I'd prefer the money. It was classy...church service, beautiful hotel etc and I wouldn't have changed it. My best friend spent about £2k and had an equally great day. It wasn't about how much money we could spend it was about how much what we wanted cost.

@blondebombsite83

Glad to hear it!

@snoutandab0ut

Being devil’s advocate though scot, do women have to be nice to each other or agree with each other just BECAUSE they’re women?

I don't think so but I wonder if they're bitchier BECAUSE they're women. Male dominated fora seem much more pleasant. Mumsnet's of course a fairly unique demographic, not simply gender. I'm sure there are other factors at play but the amount of nastiness is amazing.

@CherryPavlova do you work for department for propaganda? If so you may want to consider a career change, you’d make a great comedian!

Male dominated fora seem much more pleasant.

Really? Which ones are you thinking of? That’s not my experience at all.

Race car driver. Thank you. The comment re China was somewhat tongue in cheek.

'MN is a hotbed of misogyny (no such thing as 'internalised misogyny' despite what FWR would like you to believe). '

Do men not have weddings too then

MN is a hotbed of misogyny (no such thing as 'internalised misogyny' despite what FWR would like you to believe).