To think buying a £52 eyeshadow pallet for 9 year old is just madness?

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I'm talking about the James Charles pallet. £52 for eyeshadow and blusher. My DD9 wants to spend her Christmas money on it but I have said a firm NO! A lot of her friends got it for Christmas (I know this is true as have seen their mothers show it off on Facebook). Each to their own and all that but £52! AIBU?

I read something about getting kids to split their money between receiving, saving and giving funds. Maybe think about allowing her to spend the funds as she chooses once she has also allocated money to the saving and giving pots. It’s quite an expensive purchase and might make her appreciate the value.

I don't think there's anything wrong with an adult spending as much as they want to on makeup but ^^ Natasha denona for an 11yo?! They're about £110 per palette!

I have a LOT of makeup and wear it every day and have a mix from high end to cheap. For a child that's messing about with it and learning then cheaper every time. They're usually less pigmented too (obviously not all) so can do more natural looks

For quality, pigmentation and easy blending I would go makeup geek eyeshadows every time

"I wear it because I look old and ill without it and it's always been for me and nobody else. Ironically a lot of men I know don't like make up."

But that IS the sexualisation part. That there is something wrong with women looking 'old'.

To be fair, as far as make up pallets go the James Charles one is huge. A few of my (adult) dd's have it and as much as I dislike that pasty face little weasle I have to admit that it's pretty nice.

Ffs. I don't want to look ill and old. Nobody of either sex in their right mind would. Sexualisation my arse. Vanity yes.

"Nobody of either sex in their right mind would."

So why do men not wear make up then? (As a general rule, yes, there are exceptions.)

For what it's worth, I don't care if I look old.

Good for you. I do.

Why does she want to wear make up at 9 anyway , she might be better off having a few new friends that play age appropriate

I really hope for my dd that she doesn’t grow to hate the way her face looks without make up!

"Nobody of either sex in their right mind would."

I consider myself in my right mind, and you commented this.

But not everyone cares about looking old.

I don't feel like I need to cover up what my actual face looks like in order for people to accept me.

Whatever you do, don't buy her a fake! Rat poo and asbestos have been found in fake ones from China. I haven't read all the posts so I don't know if anyone has suggested it, but just in case.

I would let her spend her money on what she wants. My daughter was 10 when I brought her Colourpop stuff and she has a lot of my higher end stuff I no longer use now she's 12.

Bloody James Charles Palette, I refused to buy one for my DD11 as it's ££ and bought her a couple of excellent cheaper ones to use which she loves.

Except so many girls who are not even into make up in her year at School have now received them as it seems to be the thing to have regardless of if it gets used or not.

Luckily she is able to say I missed out on getting her one as they seem to sell out so quickly online.
So I'm hoping the novelty will wear off and I will not have to succumb and get her one.

DD is very into make up and brilliant at applying it so I feel a bit mean now.

Little mix make up sets are half price in boots at the mo

My daughter is only three and I am honestly shocked that this is a thing for girls that age.

Playing around with make up is one thing, I too had the weird sticky lip glosses with Rainbow Brite on them, or peel off nail varnish that I kept on for one second before peeling it off, but ACTUAL make up? Girls 'practising looks'? WTF are we teaching to these little girls?

@alwaystryingneverwinning. Lol those pesky lol dolls. Bane of my life!

My dc 10 has lip gloss and nail varnish during school breaks. That is it. She is pretty girly and I m sure would like sparkly eye shadow but I have explained makeup is for teenagers and older.
Thankfully her friends parents pretty much think the same thing so she doesn't have peer pressure. They all have years of being older in front of them.

At the age of 9? Make-up definitely not, no matter the cost. But the best quality Snazaroo face paint would be an entirely different matter.

@Banana1979 those LOL dolls... Pomsie, Poopsy Unicorn, and currently an obsession with Jelly Cat Bunnies 👍
By 'practicing looks' I mean she does different make up styles/techniques.
We have many, many conversations about why people wear make-up, confidence chats etc, but she likes learning about make up as her hobby.

"By 'practicing looks' I mean she does different make up styles/techniques."

Yes, and I personally cannot see why a 9 year old should be in any way encouraged to be interested in that.

@Bluelady Anyone wanting to have a sensible, educated debate would not base their argument on the age of the author, how long ago it was written, and scorn his work on that basis. Would you apply your same logic to Darwin?

I wear make up daily. I do it for me. Even if I'm doing no more than going for a muddy walk on my own. However, I'm not so stupid as to not acknowledge that there just might be an underlying sexual element to the whole idea of wearing make up in some situations.

Why else would girls want to dabble with make up as they approach puberty? Eh?

Why on earth are 9 year old girls wearing make up? Ludicrous! So sad

"I wear make up daily. I do it for me. Even if I'm doing no more than going for a muddy walk on my own. However, I'm not so stupid as to not acknowledge that there just might be an underlying sexual element to the whole idea of wearing make up in some situations."

Seriously, I don't get why people don't get this. It just so happens that my choices coincide with heterosexual male desire! What a massive fucking coincidence!

Take her to a discount make up outlet or wilkos and let her pick what she wants, alternatively Argos sell cheap palette. Bit young imho I personally would suggest a small eyeshadow palette, pale lip gloss and basic moisturer plus a natural coloured powder and blush at a maximum.

"I personally would suggest a small eyeshadow palette, pale lip gloss and basic moisturer plus a natural coloured powder and blush at a maximum."

See, I personally think that's worse. What does she need powder and blusher for? I'd rather they were putting a bunch of brightly-coloured stuff on their faces, at least that seems fun and creative. Putting on products that are only to enhance their features/cover shit up is just fucking weird at that age (honestly, at any age, but there's society for you.)