To think buying a £52 eyeshadow pallet for 9 year old is just madness?

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I'm talking about the James Charles pallet. £52 for eyeshadow and blusher. My DD9 wants to spend her Christmas money on it but I have said a firm NO! A lot of her friends got it for Christmas (I know this is true as have seen their mothers show it off on Facebook). Each to their own and all that but £52! AIBU?

The Lipsy one is much nicer (and cheaper) but, if she wants to waste her money to 'fit in', it's hers to waste really, isn't it?

@SargeantAngua ooh that looks good! Quite fancy it myself!

Honestly it will last her YEARS. If her friends have it, let her buy it x

My dd is 11 and loves James Charles and has asked for his palette. She was most offended when she saw another Tik tok "star" ruin one of his palettes and told him about it on YouTube and yes she's also asked for his other merch!

If dd wanted one and she had enough money for it I'd let her get one.

Out of curiosity, where would I get a legit James Charles palette?

9! How sad.

Wow. It will last her years, so buy it?

SHE'S 9!!!

It's her money she should be able to spend it how she wants.

I’m curious now, has anyone got a link?

Just googled it.

Looks awful.

It’d be a no from me!

@MunchMunch I've heard the story about the ruined pallet too!

Parental guidance is still a thing Christmas/birthday money or not. You wouldn't allow your child to buy drugs, or a puppy, or something else inappropriate. Encouraging her to buy something that sexualises her, when she's not at the age to understand the connotations etc, that's not right.

OP, I did read it's only for parties. So this isn't directly aimed at you. Just the casual nonchalance if 'it's their money.'

At 9 no, I’m pretty easy going but she’s still at primary school and to spend that amount on make up is crazy! If all her friends have it I’d be trying to encourage other friendships

So because it’s her money anything goes? What is wrong with you people? Jesus fucking Christ she’s NINE. NO.
No makeup and certainly not spending fifty quid on it! Are you mad?

Blimey. My DD is 9 and thankfully is very happy with glittery stuff from Claire’s. I’d rather she wasn’t into make up at all but she likes playing with it. I’m not sure what I’d do if she wanted to spend her money on such an expensive set.

My dd7 loves playing with makeup. She's got some cheap palettes from superdrug. Its only playing so i see no harm, but i wouldn't pay £52 even for me.

Why doesn’t she get a make up revolution one (they do the soph palettes, does she like her?) and tell her she can get a more expensive one in a couple of years when she actually starts wearing a little bit of make up?

I think children should have the autonomy to spend their own money on what they want, however I also wouldn't allow a 9 year old to wear make up. For me a child shouldn't be experimenting with make up until they're more like 13, so that's one of my rules.

So no- I wouldn't allow a 9 year old to buy the make up but I would let her spend her money on what she chose- as long as it was within my house rules!

@yesyesyep I agree you need to have some control over what they spend. My friend let her son buy £60 worth of Match Attack cards in one go as it was 'his money'.
I have a teenager who is obsessed with trainers and I still try to talk him out of buying another pair when he has plenty and needs something else (eg a jacket or jeans). He's easier to talk round though so not sure if that's a boy thing or a first born thing!

There’s one on Cult Beauty website, £39......on waitlist

No way...... No matter how my child came by the money!

Well anything wouldn’t go. I wouldn’t let my kids buy 20 Marlboro lights or a bottle of Jack Daniels but a make up palette to play around with if it’s what they want to spend their money on then why not. My dd wasn’t interested in make up at that age but she changed her appearance in other ways - dress up clothes, face paint, hair styles and chalks. It’s not ‘sad’ - it’s a child playing. What is sad is being the only child at a sleepover not allowed to join in with the fun because their parents don’t allow it.

They do an exact copy on Ebay for about £20. I'd go for that.

For those saying it'll last years. A child isn't going to keep it clean enough for it to last, especially if they are giving each other make overs.

"but it's being sexy that they are trying to emulate"

I'm on the fence with that one. I started dying my hair in my young Teens and used to do my make-up, before that. I liked the different ways that I could look.

I've always lived make-up, still do at 51 and I'm a bit sad that I can't wear the colours that I used to be able to.

This saddens me, a 9 year old is still such a child. Their beautiful skin doesn’t need makeup. But if her friends all have it then I also would not want my DD feeling left out if she had the money to spend.

Hope this isn’t a dilemma I have any time soon. My 9 year old asked for a dolls pram for Christmas, she’s still very much a child and I’m in no hurry to rush her through childhood.

I just picked up some reduced make up gift sets in Wilko today to pop in my my 9 year olds Birthday presents... there’s no way I’d be doing that but it’s possible that you are a lot better off than me?!
Lawd I’d actually going down the route of showing her what other children in the world have to suffer with, as well as showing her the vast amount of things she could buy instead. If her friends have this I’d be wondering what they’ll be getting when they’re 13? Someimes you can just say no, because you do actually get those moments in life where your children say ‘actually I’m glad I didn’t do that’ and not just ‘my mother was so evil she wouldn’t let me spend my OWN money on a £52 make up set!’

A nine year old is not getting make up from me, be it £9 or £59.