To think buying a £52 eyeshadow pallet for 9 year old is just madness?

[pineapplepenthouse]

I'm talking about the James Charles pallet. £52 for eyeshadow and blusher. My DD9 wants to spend her Christmas money on it but I have said a firm NO! A lot of her friends got it for Christmas (I know this is true as have seen their mothers show it off on Facebook). Each to their own and all that but £52! AIBU?

I've gotta say some of the comments in this thread have been pretty demeaning to women who wear makeup (and women who don't.) I don't do it to be sexy or attractive to men, I don't see it as sexualising either. There's various subcultures like punk and goth where it's been used as a way to subvert the way women (and men) are supposed to look according to societal norms. (I have a vested interest in this as I am a Goth.)

OP, glad she's happy without spending a fortune! Revolution are fabulous. I have quite a few of their products and I've always been pleased with the quality.

On a tangent, if my nine year old self saw the kind of makeup I have now she'd probably be in awe, but also wonder why I have things like black lipstick...

I think you did the right thing OP! I would have done the same.

My teen dd got quite a bit of money- if it was up to her she would have blown the lot on hoodies and make-up which she doesn't need. We let her have a fixed amount for spending and the rest put in her savings account. She might think this is unfair in the short-term, but in the long-term she will have an account with a decent amount of savings for when she really needs it. It's teaching her that money has to spent carefully, and modelling good saving habits. Children learn from what they see and tend to continue habits established in childhood, better than learning from being allowed to make big mistakes.

For any of you interested in the £28 Revolution palette in superdrug its in the sale at Revolution for £12 which is a massive bargain. I've got one for dd and stashed one as a present. Lots of other palettes massively reduced too

www.revolutionbeauty.com/Mobile/en/gb/Revolution-196-Colour-Spectrum-Palette/m-m-6824.aspx?PartnerID=1033&utm_source=google&utm_medium=shopping&utm_campaign=UnitedKingdom&utm_source:UK_PPC_SHB&gclid=Cj0KCQiA68bhBRCKARIsABYUGieYut6y5VJHdhBzcvBXUUJ1SsZ9G_Nvr159qAn79ZLDlpgsSGx8XakaAshqEALw_wcB#fo_c=2784&fo_k=c61cda109b44571a76a7b4672aeaae2e&fo_s=gplauk

Am I missing something. What is a 9 year old doing with makeup?!

I think 9 is too young for expensive make up when she will be experimenting. If you do agree, a word of caution: I bought my 16 year old a Jeffrey Star pallet which came from the US, I did begrudge the cost of it but then got hit with over £20 in customs fees which had to paid before the Royal Mail released it. Apparently it’s totally random who gets the charge but it has put me off ordering anything else.

I used to try on makeup and use face masks, nail varnish etc with my friends when I was 9. It was dressing up for us- we also used to whirl around the room in our mum’s negligees (70s kids).

I’m 52 now and live in jeans, pumps and a smear of tinted moisturiser.

Makeup won’t harm her. Reiterate how expensive it is and she’ll want to take care of it.

Wow - £52 on make up . Just wow - let alone the 9 year old part.

I’d let her buy it. I would be pleased that my child wanted to buy quality items rather than cheap crap. Start as you mean to go on and all that.

Make up for nine year olds is a complete no no. What next? Vodka shots?

I think 9 is too young to be seriously into make up.

At that age I might have had a few hand me downs from my mum to 'play' with.

DD wasn't into make up until she was well into her teens.

I wore some make up from around 14.

I think for a 9 year old I'd allow something like tinted lip balm (so it gives them the illusion of make up) and that's it.

Ironically, I bought myself both those palettes you linked to OP but gave to my DD as I thought they were not right for me- too shimmery.

It's very expensive for play make up. I'm guessing she doesn't wear eye make up, or make up at all at that age? I buy expensive make up for my own child but that's for stage use.

I'd be trying to steer her away from wasting (sorry, in my opinion it is) her money on and if it's just because her friends have it.

9, that's nothing. I asked someone what their 4 year old DD was getting for Christmas and they reeled off a list then said Oh and makeup

This is why they invented Make Up Revolution. One of my peers at school was bought a satin basque for her 14th birthday. Sick or what.

"Their money their choice" makes me laugh. Would you let your 9 year old buy a padded bra, fishnet stockings and stilettos?

I see she's gone for a different palette, OP. A far better option! I let DD experiment with make up from around 9 as she already had some from doing dance shows. She wasn't allowed to wear it out of the house at all though. She had some cheap sets from Primark I think. She's nearly 13 now and still only practises in her room - she never goes out with any on (that I can see)

I must be old fashioned: I have 6 DD aged 13 to 21 and none of them are having £52 make up palettes!

My 21 year olds wouldn't buy this and they have jobs! They buy their make up off Beauty Bay and Zoeva.

Also, SHE'S NINE YEARS OLD... she shouldn't even be wearing make up!

As for the comment about her being left out.. SERIOUSLY?? She needs to suck it up, it's what kids everywhere do. That's life.

This whole thread is why kids are so greedy and entitled. I'm utterly disgusted TBH.

Also, it doesn't matter if it's her money: SHE'S NINE YEARS OLD!!.

Seriously. Just stop it. All of you.

PS James Charles is made by Morphe who are famous for allergic reactions... be aware.

@pineapplepenthouse that got two thumbs up, and she thinks those are brilliant names for the rabbits 😂

Start as you mean to go on and all that.
Never too young to start learning that you can blow all your money on one high quality thing and have Mummy subsidise you as an adult because you are skint.

Make up for nine year olds is a complete no no. What next? Vodka shots?

What the fuck is wrong with people. How is that even comparable. How could playing around with eyeshadow hurt a 9yr old. I'm in my 40s and remember playing dress up at that age with my mum, playing with make up and nail varnish. If I'd have had access to the Internet then I'd have probably liked to have had a palette too. So much hysteria over nothing!

Revolution have a sale on at the mo'. The 186 palette is half price. Only £12 to okay dress up, and at 9, that's what it is.
www.revolutionbeauty.com/Mobile/MobileSearchResults.aspx?Search=196

play not okay

I’d let her buy it. I would be pleased that my child wanted to buy quality items rather than cheap crap. Start as you mean to go on and all that

FFS.

A 9 year old has no understanding of quality. She is wanting to copy a trend.

far from condoning this, you ought to suggest she understands value and trends and doesn't turn into a sheep, following people with more money than sense.

At 9, some girls are interested in make up but any sensible parent would either tell them they don't need it, they look great as they are, or let them play around with their own makeup, within hygiene boundaries.

If you indulge all your child's 'wants' regardless of if it's sensible, where does that end?

I am aghast the OP even dared to ask this question! I'd feel such a fool. It's a no-brainer.

Take that comment anyway you want. :)

I said earlier that the expensive palette wasn’t age appropriate but it’s the cost rather than the concept. My DD(8) has play make up and I love the palettes your DD has bought it’s just that expensive make isn’t age appropriate because it’s a waste of her spends.

Fwiw it’s worth my DD likes making me up more than she does wearing it herself. I’ve put the recycling out with some very interesting looks .

YANBU, I would only buy a pallete that expensive for myself after researching the quality and reviews of it. Any parent that is spending that sort of money on make up for a 9yr old has too much money. I may let my daughter who is 6 use my expensive make with me heavily supervised as we like to do each other's makeup, but when she just wants to play with makeup unsupervised it's cheap kids make up or my old cheap palletes that I no longer want.
If your 9 year old really wants adult make up then get her some make up revolution pallettes, they are cheap enough but great quality.
Also where have you seen the James Charles pallet for £52 I thought it was only £39, which i think is too much for a morphe pallete anyway. But I haven't seen it for £52.