To think buying a £52 eyeshadow pallet for 9 year old is just madness?

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I'm talking about the James Charles pallet. £52 for eyeshadow and blusher. My DD9 wants to spend her Christmas money on it but I have said a firm NO! A lot of her friends got it for Christmas (I know this is true as have seen their mothers show it off on Facebook). Each to their own and all that but £52! AIBU?

I agree with tha bove poster, it’s her money.

Point her in the direction of other things if you like but if she has her heart set on it let her buy it. She’ll either love it, or it’ll be a very expensive lesson for her.

Was the money from you? What would you prefer her to spend it on?

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id be tempted to say she can have it as getting hold of a legit palette is rather hard. my dd wanted one for xmas and i too balked at spending £38 just on one palette but its what she wanted so i agreed. we tried since the launch date and we still dont have one
tbh it is good stuff but maybe not for a 9yr old

That's my thoughts exactly. Plus I wouldn't even spend that much on make up for myself! Apparently he also does 'merch' and she's seen a hoody so I'll maybe let her get that even though I still think it's nuts.

If a lot of her friends have it, then, yes, I would let her buy it. I know how it feels to be the only one without the "latest" thing, and it isn't nice.
That said, I think it would be a complete waste of money, but it is her money after all.

Her money her choice. But I’d be pretty disappointed in my nine year old if she wanted to spend all her Christmas money on makeup, and I’d be trying to broaden her interests/friendship group.

@Darkautumn the money is a combination of birthday and Christmas money from grandmas and aunts etc.
I have heard they are difficult to come by so maybe it's an idea to say she can have it in the hope it doesn't happen.
What is so good about it? Genuinely curious!

At 9? No. I’d put my foot down and say it’s ridiculous. She can have a hoody, but she’d be better with a cheap palette from Boots or Superdrug. Why is she even wearing makeup at 9??

I would take her to Superdrug and show her the GOSH, Revolution and other ‘ new’ make up brands and show her how much she can get for £52.
If she insists that she wants to be like all of the other girls with the James Charles pallet then I suppose it’s her money and it’s her lesson to be learned.
I would have one last crack at talking about NOT following the crowd, being different/individual/ leader rather than follower etc but if she still insists then it’s her decision.
But I would use it in the future to show her how very reasonable you were when you knew she was being silly so she learned an important lesson. When they are 8-teen they do just want to be like everybody else don’t they. It drives me bloody mad!

I'd have bought it for her too. Being the child that isn't allowed the latest thing is horrible.

Christmas and birthday money gifted to them is theirs, they should be free to spend it as they please.

As adults we waste money all the time yet expect children to be perfect.

if you are happy with her having make up why not take her to superdrug or somewhere to let her see how much lovely stuff she could get for that price, bit of research on t'internet will give reviews on cheap brands and copies

JC is brilliant to be fair I can see why so popular.

However got a great palette (technic wow) from Sainsbury's for £4 after Xmas so I'd encourage to get the hoodie and one of those instead!

But maybe partly the point of birthday/pocket money is deciding how much value you place on something isn't it? Figuring out are you the kind of person who wants 3 things at £10 or one at £30

I was horrified my friend spent £££££ on Mac for her 12yo.
Imo she may have cash this time around but may well expect the bank of dm to pay when it runs out. Better set her expectations /tastes a bit cheaper.

Why is a 9 yr old being indulged with make up in the first place?!

Serious question..

I wouldn’t let her have make up at 9 except for a bit of play at home.

My 12 year old niece got this for Christmas and it was a massive hit (most of us got makeovers on Christmas day; DPs eyes were fabulous ) Might be worth a look instead? £28 is a bit more sensible?www.superdrug.com/Shop-All-Gifts/Revolution-196-Colour-Eyeshadow-Palette/p/766098

Girls getting any kind of makeup at 9? No way. What the fuck.

I’m saying yabu as I generally let my children budget their own money from whenever they start getting pocket money. If they spend on something frivolous and regret it then it’s a lesson learned. A lesson I’d much rather they learned while the only money they have is pocket money/birthday spends and they don’t have bills to worry about!
I also don’t see how it would be less of a waste to force her to buy something she wants less.

Just let her spend her own money the way she wants.

Eye shadow for a 9 year old is a no in general. Seriously. They're kids.

What the actual fuck with make up at 9 years old?
Are you parenting this child or trying to be her best friend?

@bookwormsforever she doesn't wear make up as a daily thing. Just for parties, discos etc. Then if she is with friends they like to do 'make overs'.
She's still very much into Lol Dolls and other toys so I'm not too worried that she enjoys playing about with a bit of make up. Just perhaps not at that expense.

I can think of nothing more desperately sad than my daughter trying to change her appearance at 9 years old.

I get that they are not doing it to be seductive, but it's being sexy that they are trying to emulate. They're far too young to understand this. At best, I would buy some of the kiddie make up that doesn't actually do anything, not encourage her into changing her appearance.