To think buying a £52 eyeshadow pallet for 9 year old is just madness?

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I'm talking about the James Charles pallet. £52 for eyeshadow and blusher. My DD9 wants to spend her Christmas money on it but I have said a firm NO! A lot of her friends got it for Christmas (I know this is true as have seen their mothers show it off on Facebook). Each to their own and all that but £52! AIBU?

I wouldn't.

I take her shopping at Superdrug and get her some other cheaper sets. I'd tell her ibdont mind her playing around with make up but 9 is way to young to have such a expensive pallet and when she is older you will happily buy her one for Christmas birthday.

I would imagine her friends who have got them will probably be sharing it with their mum's tbh.

Ds10 had Christmas and birthday money. His dad had brought him and his brother a switch but no games. I told him he needed to buy some games with his money. (His brother had to aswell)
He did get upset when he saw other things he wanted. 80 on a tac keyboard thing. I told him no. He did get upset with me to begin with but after he had brought some games he thanked me for pushing him to get the games and for not allowing him to waste his money.

I think at that age you can still say no and have some say in what they buy.

My dd doesnt look after cheap make up.

However her expensive stuff is cherished, all kept in the original boxes etc. She really does look after it, so I don't mind buying it.

It's her money, if she wants to buy it let her (( look for deals online first, there are loads at the mo ))

I hate the “it’s their money” argument

It’s their body but you guide them how to eat healthily. It’s their education but you still make sure they stick in at school and do their homework. When it comes to their financial education we’re supposed to hand them a wad of cash and let them throw it away? Teaching children to be responsible with their money is as important as teaching them to eat healthy and work hard at school.

Are we really saying it’s ok for a 9 year old to spend more than many have to spend on a weekly food shop, on makeup? Just because “it’s her money” or worse “because all her friends have it”

If adults make poor money decisions, it’s likely because they were never taught how to manage money as a child. And adults are soundly rounded on if they buy stuff just to keep up with the Joneses. Having children learn that “because they all have one” is never a good reason to buy something is a great life lesson. Be a leader, not a follower. If your friends shun you because you don’t have a 54 quid eyeshadow pallet, they aren’t friends. If everyone has it, that makes for a shit makeover session because everyone has the same. Surely the point is. “Ooh, I love your frosted caramel, why don’t you try my boaky beige”

If DD desperately wanted to spend that money, I’d draw a list of chores she can earn money from and she’d be working 3 months to pay for it. For sure by then she wouldn’t want it after all.

It is pricey for a 9 year old but if it’s her money then I’d let her, yes. Cult Beauty have it for £39 and you can usually find a discount code. It’s out of stock just now though.

MY nearly 11 YO wanted a MAC blusher for Christmas. She is the most tomboy you could imagine and has just has her long hair cut off.

I shrugged and said fine and we went and the lady helped us and it was a real boding moment (I don't wear a stitch of makeup normally) she loves it, it is top quality, but it cost 23 euros. To be honest, it will last 5 years!

And she loves it!

I wouldn’t let a 9 year old wear eye shadow.

I think if thats what your daughter wants then why not? My daughter wanted the urban decay moon dust eye palette (that cost £36.50p) for her ninth birthday. I bought it alongside some jumbo squishies. She loves it so much, its such good quality. She lets me use it sometimes!

bonding not boding!

Are we really saying it’s ok for a 9 year old to spend more than many have to spend on a weekly food shop, on makeup? Just because “it’s her money” or worse “because all her friends have it”

^Completely agree

Jesus wept.

Zoeva palettes on Beauty Bay are nice and less than £20. It’s fine for a bit of fun and, to me, most of these palettes are fun with the bright colours and shimmer. I wouldn’t wear them as an adult.

Lol @Ethel36 she also loves squishies too!

Well unlike eating junk and becoming obese or not doing schoolwork, spending £52 on a make up palette isn’t going to be damaging to a child long term. Either they will treasure it and it will be worth the money or they’ll regret it and it will be a lesson learned.
I’d wager that children who have been given freedom to buy things they may regret and learn from those mistakes when they’re younger and it’s pretty inconsequential are probably much more considered with their spending as adults. On the other hand children who have been barred by mummy from getting things that they like because it’s a waste and made to buy things that their parents like and feel are worthwhile are more likely to go mad when they do have some freedom to spend as they choose. And if that’s when they’re 18 and have financial responsibilities the consequences are likely to be much worse than a regretted make up pallete.
I think children should have freedom, within reason, to make their own mistakes without being micromanaged. Learning from those mistakes as adults tends to be a lot more costly.

my 11 year old has a penchant for Dior nail polishes and lipglosses, so no i wouldnt disallow it, however i would point out how much more she could get with other brands in hope that it would dissuade her

No way will my dd have any makeup at 9. Secondary school yeh ok. But at 9!

Who the hell is James Charles?

And why are parents letting 9yos watch tik too if they're so easily influenced

Have you read the ingredients list? I'd use this as an opportunity to start talking to DD about what's good and safe to put on and in your body. Nine's too young IMO but if she has an interest because of friends and wants to fit in, then start educating her. Do a bit of research into brands and what they use and known irritants. Believe me it's no fun when you react and end up looking like your face was beaten up.

www.cultbeauty.co.uk/morphe-the-james-charles-artistry-palette.html

And as for whoever said it'd last her for years, regardless of age, just NO, makeup is not designed to be good for years. It's a good opportunity to talk about makeup hygiene and the eyes especially.

And think of the precedent you'll be setting, for many years to come

At 9? No way.

My almost 10 year old likes playing with makeup but I would never let her buy a £52 pallet. I am fine with her playing with children's play makeup and she has messed around with mine but NWIH would I buy her her own makeup.

I wasn't particularly comfortable with buying my 12 year old makeup for her birthday.

I would say no but direct her to something cheaper.

I keep visualising JonBenet Ramsey.........................

Well unlike eating junk and becoming obese or not doing schoolwork, spending £52 on a make up palette isn’t going to be damaging to a child long term

Not teaching children to be responsible with money is damaging long term.

You might “wager” that imaginary children binge spend if they have been taught about money, but you have absolutely nothing to back that up with. It’s the same ridiculous argument that says 14 year olds should be allowed drink because otherwise they will get drunk every day when they are 18.

Anyone who can’t see that a 9 year old buying 54 quid of makeup is a bad idea needs their head examined.

They do an exact copy on Ebay for about £20. I'd go for that.

Do not do this. The rip offs of high end palettes on ebay often haven't been tested properly and have all sorts of shit in them that you do not want your 9 year old putting on their face.

It's not £52 anyway, it's £39.