to ask what gives you reason to live?

[letsleepingbabieslie]

Subject line sounds more depressing than it's supposed to - I'm not suicidal, just often wonder 'what the hell is the point of all this [life]?!'. I admit I'm not exactly the most happy go lucky person - if I was constantly laughing my socks off I guess I wouldn't question it. But even though I'm basically happy and very fortunate (no complaints about health, family, work etc) I do struggle to find a logical reason to live.

So I'm wondering, what do other people find gives meaning to life and makes it all worthwhile?

My daughter - I love spending time with her, we laugh A LOT! She’d be lost without me (and visa Versa!)
Cake - the world is improved by cake and who wouldn’t want to live another day in the hope of more cake?
Wine - ditto
Coffee - ditto
Food generally!! - ditto
Walking the dog. I see wildlife and watch him bounce around fields, ears and tail flapping, trying to kill the wildlife!
Holidays - the world is better on holiday!
My new cottage - it is nasty, damp and granny chic but I am so looking forward to doing it up. DD and I are going window shopping for kitchens tomorrow!

Brexit - I can't wait until we're out of the shower of EU shit.

I can't die until my RS character gets level 99 in all skills.

I don't fancy the alternative which is eternal nothingness.

My family.

I am very self sufficient and whilst I love my family I don’t see them as my focus for life IYSWIM, my DS is older so not physically reliant on me. I find utter contentment on being on my own, although I have a wide circle of friends, hobbies, interests, a job which engages with other people etc but I can find complete peace & happiness (ie; reason for living) when I am totally alone. I think that’s quite fortunate really as I don’t need to rely on other people to fulfill my purpose for living. I am generally always very positive (apart from when dealing with a bolshy teenager ).

My partner and child

Doggy tummy rubs this second

But every moment is different

Faith, curiosity, love for others and the desire to care for them, new challenges. But all this has only really been made possible by the right antidepressants and having had some therapy in my twenties.

I wish I could live forever. I love life.
I just close my eyes and turn my face to the sun and feel at one with the universe. Life is thrilling, if you can learn to detach.

The hope that life will get better

My child, my partner and my family

My 6 DC’s and my cat. That’s it!

The fact that I don't want to die I suppose. I don't have a particularly easy life since we're in huge amounts of debt and very, very rarely get to the end of the month without having to ask for financial help and it's always a bit shit when I see or hear of others having a great time going off on trips and holidays and buying treats for themselves when we can barely afford to eat.

I try to keep looking forward though because, all being well, we should be debt free by the end of 2022 so I can see light ahead. It's a fucking long tunnel though.

I don't want to fuck my children up by buggering off, either. Instead I want dh & I to get out of debt, earn enough to support ourselves and then enjoy our lives with our children.

Ultimately I think life is pointless but we have it anyway so may as well make the best of it.

The knowledge that I am loved by God, who has a purpose for my life.
The trust that He will carry me through any future bad times as He has in the past, including coping with my DH’s death and 27 years of widowhood.
Loving and caring for my two DDs.
Cuddling my cat.
The pleasure of living amidst stunning Scottish scenery.
The enjoyment of reading books and playing bridge.
The satisfaction of a 36 year career as a doctor, and the privilege of helping patients through illness and surgery.
The comfort of knowing I’ll be reunited with DH when I die, so anything nice in this life is a bonus.

First and foremost, my child gives the most meaning and purpose to my life. After that, my DH, family and friends. My job, which involves helping others. Other reasons to live for me are wanting to achieve and experience more things - work, creatively, travel, human connection.

Luglo - I too have felt just like that at times in the past. Unfortunately though it turned out that MDMA/ whatever else was on offer was not a good long term answer to my outlook. Sadly

My children - spending time with my children watching those precious moments and just taking it all in. There was a point in my life when it looked like I wouldn’t be able to get (and stay) pregnant. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever dare believe I might have two. I’m glad I’ve got them and that they also have each other. I know it sounds cheesy but it’s true. I want to do everything I can to give them a good start in life and to make sure they are happy (as most parents do). I will always be there for them as long as I live.

Everything.

Obviously my DS, but I love life anyway. Life doesn't have to have a "point" for me, I'm here to have fun and be happy for the short time that I'm here.

So much!

I've had a relentlessly awful shit year, the worse yet. But still find so much happiness from my life. The potential, the excitement, the sunshine,

And also yoga, running, kids, travel, fashion, friends, pets, my bed, my house, my life, sex, food, sleep. It's amazing. It's just here to be enjoyed. To be happy.

(and yes, I do know about depression, sadly. I do know about relationship breakdown, abuse, poverty). But still. (Pollyanna is my middle name...)

I am happy with there being no "meaning" to life.

But if that accident gives me the abiity to even have these thoughts and gaze at the stars then that is wonderful.

My importance or value is no greater or less than anyone else's and if I can bring some joy to myself and others along the way than I don't ask any more.

@toolazytothinkofausername
I actually thought the very same thing the other day. What if I died before game of thrones finished?! And the next Avengers movie!!

My kids keep me going on the days work is hard. My DH keeps me going on the days when the kids are driving me mad. When everyone is annoying me there is chocolate and booze.

My husband is lovely, he’s worth hanging around for.

Life in general. Being alive is a privilege. My mum was killed aged 43. She bloody loved life and believed life was for living. I feel fortunate to be here and plan to enjoy my life as you never know what's around the corner

I hear you.

I've been seriously ill in the past. My reason to keep going was my youngest with SN.

Over the last two years its been my GD.

But that isn't my reason to live. I've had a general pursuit of happiness.

What makes me happy, changes. It's been, studying, my children, my DH, walking my dog, planned trips, my social life. A varied sex life.

I'm at a bit of a crossroads, at the minute.

To beat the odds that are so fucking massively stacked against me! I'm not going down without a fight 😂😂😂