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Can you be too old to dress a certain way?

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MsHopey · 02/01/2019 08:14

I've tried out quite a few different looks. Mostly alternative but settled into a "I can't really be arsed" look at the moment.
I miss my amazing outfits and loving my wardrobe, I'm literally a leggings and plain, baggy(ish) dress person at the moment. While it's comfortable it doesn't really do anything for me and I feel like my personality isn't coming through.
I miss my alternative style, mixing things up, feeling confident and just living what I wear.
He's the problem, I keep coming back to a gothic/Victorian type style.
I love it, I love the lace, I love the shape, my head just keeps screaming I want it and I want it now.
I'm going to be 27 this year and a mom of 2.
Am I being ridiculous? I've attached pictures of the clothes I want.
You only live once and all that.
What do you guys think?
I'm worried if I'm already feeling a bit hesitant about the comments I might get (I have low self esteem and high anxiety) then I might already be setting myself up to fail. But on the other hand I want to express myself, experiment and give it a go.
You only live once after all.
Imagine with tights, or black skinny jeans, a nice pair of ankle boots.
It won't all scream gothic, but a nice nod to the culture I grew up with and have always loved.

Can you be too old to dress a certain way?
Can you be too old to dress a certain way?
Can you be too old to dress a certain way?
OP posts:
curlykaren · 02/01/2019 08:15

You are 27 WEAR WHAT YOU WANT. Sorry for shouting but honestly that's no age at all.

LittleBearPad · 02/01/2019 08:17

You’re only 27!

MakeItRain · 02/01/2019 08:18

I thought you were going to say you were a pensioner! Even then I would say wear what you want. 27 is young and that style is fabulous, so definitely go for it!

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 02/01/2019 08:19

If you want to dress like a sexy witch 🧙‍♀️ go for it ! You are young

EwItsAHooman · 02/01/2019 08:20

It doesn't matter how old you are, wear what makes you happy.

comebacksoonsusan · 02/01/2019 08:20

The sleeves are a little impracticable, but go for it.

Clionba · 02/01/2019 08:20

Good grief!!!! I thought you were going to say you're 75! You're only 27, you can wear anything Confused
(you can at 75, it just takes a bit more confidence...)

Sallygoroundthemoon · 02/01/2019 08:21

You are 27 not 87. Go for it! And that black dress would look good on a slim 87 year old anyway Smile. MN really annoys me sometimes when people barely out of school post about being 'old'. You are only a few years into adulthood. Wear what you like!

ChristmasRaven · 02/01/2019 08:21

I thought you were going to say you were 50! 27 is still very young ;)
But even if you were 50 I’d say wear whatever you like. I like seeing people in unusual outfits. More of us should do it!

Grannyannex · 02/01/2019 08:25

Go for it!

AuntieStella · 02/01/2019 08:26

Only those who have been suckered in by ageism would ever think that.

GinIsIn · 02/01/2019 08:26

Age has nothing to do with it - wear what you like. It’s probably worth bearing in mind though if you worried and anxious about comments, that if are dressed in things that look like costumes, you will get some.

TheKitchenWitch · 02/01/2019 08:28

27? Bwahahahahahahahahahaha!
Yes, wear what you want. Actually, even if you're 67 you should wear it.

cinnabarmoth · 02/01/2019 08:30

Yeah, you are young, go for it. I dressed in a gothy style until I was in my early 30s. By about 32 and working full time this was mainly at weekends and then I gradually moved away from it, mainly because it became a little too high maintenance for me, but I am drawn to it still and people have often remarked that it's obvious I used to be a goth, so there must be elements of it in how I dress now, which is vaguely alternative in dark or deep colours. I think older goths look great, in fact it's often a very flattering look for older women, but it can be a lot of work!

Fairylea · 02/01/2019 08:30

27! Shock

Wear whatever you like!

Pa10ma · 02/01/2019 08:31

Wear what you like OP - at any age! To be honest, I’ve seen far more “unusual” clothes than those dresses in Top Shop. Or anywhere really.

PurpleCrowbar · 02/01/2019 08:31

I'd go the other way - as a goth old enough to be your mum, I'd say those examples are a bit old fashioned because they're very early noughties 😏.

Absolutely go for it if that's what you like!

I seem to mostly be wearing Spin Doctor these days Wink.

Bluelonerose · 02/01/2019 08:32

Fwiw I LOVE that style.
If I saw you in the street ide think wow she looks great.

Screamqueenz · 02/01/2019 08:32

If this is what you're drawn to, but living in leggings and tunics then I'm not surprised you don't love your wardrobe.

You need to feel authentic, and those outfits are stunning. I'd wear them and I'm 45.

jessstan2 · 02/01/2019 08:37

Well I wouldn't go around in public (on a beach) wearing a thong, nor would I wear a micro mini skirt. In public, smart dress or smart casual but I'm no retired.

At 50 &for a few years I had a great figure, no bulges, and could wear what I liked but still didn't go for very 'young' stuff which would have been embarrassing.

Be confident op! Have a Wine for the new year (unless you've gone back to work today).

jessstan2 · 02/01/2019 08:38

I meant I would wear smart or smart casual stuff, not that I wouldn't.

sheldonstwin · 02/01/2019 08:41

Another one saying for goodness sakes wear what you want at 27!

I may be a lone voice, but I do think some people look ridiculous if they try to wear very young clothes past, say 50, but at 27 go for it!

feelingverylazytoday · 02/01/2019 08:42

Wear what you want. I will be 59 this year and I plan on wearing shorts this summer.

MaggieAndHopey · 02/01/2019 08:45

Good grief - you're only 27 and you're already worried about acting your age? You could wear that at 57. I personally don't believe in having to 'dress your age' at any age, and certainly not at yours!

Windgate · 02/01/2019 09:23

Vivienne Westwood is still totally owing her own style at 77 so at a mere 27 you are just fine. Mind you I can't imagine toddler wrangling in the white dress!

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