Is it normal to fancy your BIL?

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Just that really, sorry no drip feed here! Love my hubby and have 2 beautiful DC - perfect life really! My Brother in Law has been over from USA for the holidays and I feel like I fancy him. Its so weird, am I normal?? He's like my DH in alot of ways bit also different. Nothing will EVER happen but feel attracted to him. I'm beating myself up??!! 🤔🙈😲😔

Understandable, but not a road to stray down.

Nooo. Mine is far too corporate and looks like a fruit pastel.

If I ever fancied my wanker Bil I would seek psychiatric help immediately
I was having similar thoughts

@picknickers fruit pastel?!? ;😂

No. Twice over, no but if you're not going to make a move and never would what's the dilemma?

He looks like your husband of course your going to like him he looks like who your most attracted to 🤷‍♀️ as long as your never going to go there it's harmless and to be fair if he was around more you would see more differences and not like him so much

My old one was better looking than exH and nicer. He was the only person in the whole family who was decent when I was splitting up with exH.

But no. Just absolutely no.

Oh! Ugh@self... I slept with my ex-BiL. We weren’t married and the ex never found out. Ex had cheated on me over and over and it was some weird kinda payback thing. Not proud of it. Weirdly Ex-BiL and I are still friends but that’s all. Making vomming noises @ self. Ugh.
This was 15 years ago and long before I met DH

I could not and would not ever have anything physical with DH’s brother. Too wrong and weird for me.

Probs not at all helpful but this thread has been weirdly cathartic for me so thanks for that OP!

So that's two of you that have done it.

Take a break pay £50 you know. Just saying.

If my relationship was in a bad place I'd fancy a shoe on the side of the motorway if it winked at me.

Do u really need to complicate ur life like this ????

Only if you're married to Jason Momoa's brother.

That's the only way this would be reasonable.

But he's an only child sooooo....

Put the wine down Susan, you've had enough.

PUT THE WINE DOWN ABD STOP POURING THE GINS

What redshoeblueshoe said

I would defo be needing the people in white coats to take me away - my BIL's are a succession of weirdos

I'm not saying you'd ever act on any feelings, and I may be taking this a little too seriously for early in the morning on NYD, but reading your OP instantly brought this song to mind.

It's a fab song, anyway, so any excuse to have a listen regardless - change pronouns as applicable!

Is your DH by any chance called Vincent and your BIL's name Julius?!

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll oh dear

If my relationship was in a bad place I'd fancy a shoe on the side of the motorway if it winked at me.

Wheeeew, that's heavy. What about 200 yards of strewn-out cassette tape that's been lying by the roadside since 1994? Surely you'd have to draw the line there?!

My BIL is classically better looking than DH, but he's an absolute arsehole so that takes away from any attractiveness!

@purplepigs

Why so? Poor taste in soft-rock or something else?!

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll soft rock??

OH and I cohabit but aren't married, do I still refer to his four brothers as BIL?

One of them, the one immediaty after him in order of eldest to youngest, is extremely alike. If he grew more beard and mine shaved his hair off and lost a few stone, I might not be able to tell them apart.

Nope Sausageroll - the 200 yards of cassette tape is what I just clicked on this thread.

@purplepigs

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Fair enough, then - the most dreadfully mature of cheesy pop. I'll get me coat