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that it has just hit me that this time next year I wont be an EU citizen

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garethsouthgatesmrs · 01/01/2019 00:20

I know it's yet another brexit thread but it genuinely just hit me that it's actually happening THIS YEAR! I am truly gutted. Would love someone with political knowledge to come on and reassure me that it actually won't be that bad. I have 3 children who have to live with the repercussions.

buble is on jules holland-this has to be a good sign

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RedToothBrush · 02/01/2019 00:00

I can't remember the one I'm thinking of in particular. (it was a long time ago, and whilst my memory is exception and I remember a huge amount if I've read it just once, it doesn't extend THAT far)

The one I'm thinking of had quotes of why people voted the way they did. It might be an London School of Economics one. I forget. It was from around 6 months after the vote. Possibly Jan 2017? Its linked somewhere on the Westminstenders threads (good luck finding it!)

There is this report too though.
natcen.ac.uk/media/1319222/natcen_brexplanations-report-final-web2.pdf

There's two telling paragraphs in it.

Those who voted Remain were significantly more likely to select education, poverty and inequality, and the economy as their concerns. Those who voted Leave were significantly more likely to select immigration. The biggest single distinguishing factor in terms of general priorities for government is immigration (47% of Leave voters compared to 16% Remain voters). This confirms that the issues that were most important in the EU Referendum – immigration and the economy – broadly matched voters’ wider policy concerns.

It is also worth noting that Europe and the EU was significantly less likely to be selected overall than every issue other than unemployment, and less likely to be selected than education, the NHS, and immigration for those who voted Leave. This suggests that people were more focused on the domestic issues, rather than the detailed arguments about European relations.

My reflection at the time was this:

In other words, remainers far from being ignorant of inequality and 'out of touch' were much more likely to consider it a priority and be concerned about it. And people made a vote about the EU based on domestic issues and not the EU! And they were not terribly interested in the EU's role. That's a pretty incredible point. It show the degree to which BOTH leavers and remainers were ignorant.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/eu_referendum_2016_/2793038-Westministenders-For-God-sake-Boris-is-that-the-best-plan-you-can-come-up-with?pg=32&order=

I summarised a bit more of it in the top post on this thread.

As I say there was another survey that found similar but was more descriptive in how it broke down.

I think my general feeling is in the two years since then, is that more Remainers have been motivated to examine the role of what the EU actually does, but there is still a huge amount of ignorance about it - from both Remainers and leavers.

It's reflected in people saying 'can't we just get on with it' regardless of how they voted.

But overall there us far less incentive and interest for leavers to re examine what the EU do. Its something that most were never truly interested in, in the first place. But that wasn't restricted to leavers.

RedToothBrush · 02/01/2019 00:02

Buteo, how do our export figures compare with Germany. Especially our export figures for countries outside the EU who we are planning to make magic trade deals with and we are somehow unable to currently trade with whilst in the EU.

Just y'know reflecting on the logic of why we Need to be outside the customs union and go on WTO terms.

Buteo · 02/01/2019 00:38

For engineering exports, the UK sends:

£43 billion to the US
£33 billion to Germany
£22 billion to France
£17 billion to Ireland
£13 billion to Netherlands
£12 billion to China
£11billion to Belgium
£10 billion to Italy
£9 billion to Spain
£7 billion to UAE

I don’t have manufacturing export figures for Germany, only total exports for 2017:

US €111 billion
France €106 billion
China €86 billion
UK €85 billion
Netherlands €85 billion
Italy €65 billion
Austria €62 billion
Poland €59 billion
Switzerland €54 billion
Belgium €44 billion

Both the UK and Germany seem to manage to trade pretty well with the US and China, despite not having FTAs, otherwise we both tend to do the majority of our trade with our geographic neighbours.

RedToothBrush · 02/01/2019 00:41

So why do we NEED to leave the customs union to out perform Germany on non EU exports? Why can't we do it within the customs union if Germany can manage significantly bigger figures than us?

I would like even a devil's advocate answer on this.

Epanoui · 02/01/2019 01:35

The thing is, the immigration argument is just nuts on all kinds of levels. We now have a situation where we are going to prioritise highly skilled immigrants. Yet the immigrants we need the most are those who are doing low-skilled jobs. Care workers, cleaners, farm workers, builders, gardeners etc and many of these jobs are jobs that UK workers simply don't want to do - especially the farm and care work. We also have actual data that tells us that immigrants are a net benefit to our country in terms of tax receipts and contributions to the economy. Yet we still apparently want to get rid of a bunch of people who are a) doing jobs that UK nationals don't want to do and b) are making a real contribution to our country. I genuinely cannot understand why!

It appears that we have a tiny majority of people in this country who are prepared to ignore all evidence in favour of 'just get on with it'. I don't understand why at all. I really don't.

Walkingdeadfangirl · 02/01/2019 02:13

What is it you object to about being an EU citizen
As I said, no one asked me, I was forced into it.

7salmonswimming · 02/01/2019 02:36

@Moussemoose

I don't live in a country the mostly believes in creationism! I live in the U.K.

It was an analogy, as I said in my post. I said that you may well base your arguments in reason, logic etc, and I’m with you. I’d do the same. But some people don’t operate along those lines, and they don’t have to. You and I probably believe in evolution because it’s scientifically proven, but some people believe in creationism despite scientific proof to the contrary. Many voters - the majority, in fact, given the referendum result - seem to have based their vote on feeling of xenophobia, a sense of “freedom”, a distaste of foreign intervention, not the facts and figures of how EU membership is in their provable economic and (arguably provable) social favour. (Of course many Leavers based their votes on reasons that had nothing to do with xenophobia etc, but I don’t believe they were the majority of Leavers). But they’re entitled to feel this way and exercise their votes this way. My point is, to really labour the analogy, in the UK you are evidently surrounded by a small majority who either don’t care enough or do care but vote along non-logical lines (like creationists do). Your UK isn’t everyone’s UK and that’s the point. Your country is profoundly divided. There are probably as many inward looking xenophobes as there are outward looking liberals.

The point about discussion and debate is that we are on a discussion board. The implication of joining a discussion based thread is that you will errrrr discuss. Brexit supporters refuse to discuss using anything apart from sound bites. People can vote on any basis they want - as you say - but we are a discussion board with all that implies.

They don’t want to discuss! Why should they? YOU want to discuss. You can’t force someone to engage or justify or explain their votes. That’s why these MN threads on Brexit all go the same way. Remainers: discuss! Debate! Let us show you the errors of your ways! Brexiters: erm, no thanks. Result: as you say, it’s a discussion board, except there’s no discussion so it’s just two sides becoming more and more entrenched and wound up 🤷‍♀️

You suggested that opposition was not a useful function of democracy and we should all just get behind the initial referendum decision. I feel that type of thinking is very dangerous to democracy. Referenda were used and abused by Hitler with that kind of argument.

Your accidental or deliberate misunderstanding of my point is lazy and dangerous. I said argument is best avoided. Discussion and debate is good. I said nothing at all about opposition (it’s good). I do think you should all get behind the result and get on with it, but I didn’t say why (but now you ask it’s because I believe the alternatives would be significantly more damaging to the long term stability of the country than non-membership of the EU). Democracy does not mean liberalism (red or blue) wins and if it doesn’t you keep voting until you get the answer you want, despite the first referendum being binding (I’m not a subscriber to the argument that referenda are advisory; nobody ever contended that successfully before, what’s so special this time?). Your reference to Hitler is embarrassingly misplaced.

It is strange that you think a belief in opposition, argument and securing democracy is insulting to others. I think asking people to step up and engage intellectually is the opposite of insulting. I trust people to be able to put forward arguments I'm not insulting them I'm changing them. You are the one who suggests people are voting against logic not me. I think that is rather insulting.

This makes no sense to me, I find it garbled thinking. I’ll just reiterate: nobody owes you a justification or explanation for their vote, nobody is obliged to have a logical rationale for their vote, let alone “intellectually engage” with you after they’ve voted. It sounds like you want Leavers to account for their position, to be open to debate, presumably so you can convince them of the fallacious basis for their vote. THAT is extremely arrogant and insulting. Perhaps they’re way more “intellectually engaged” than you but decided they wanted to vote on emotive grounds (patriotism, freedom, I don’t know what).

You are placing reason, logic, intellectualism above all else in your argument. That’s the VERY point: the vast majority of Leavers, in my opinion, abhor or don’t care much for this. They have other, more important TO THEM, considerations.

These are your compatriots. Your country is divided. Brexit isn’t the problem. It’s just the manifestation of underlying divisions. But it’s too late to fix those divisions, so the best thing is surely to make the best of what you’ve got now?

Earthmover · 02/01/2019 04:19

I was one of the 52%. Still am.

Travelled Europe before the EU existed.

Will still travel Europe once we've left.

I'm thinking that I might even retire to the South of France eventually... Cue the never ending drivel from the resident remoaners that living in an EU country will not be an option once we've leftWink
GB free zone lol

SusanneLinder · 02/01/2019 04:32

Craft1905, Spanish Government never said ever that they would veto it. Catalonia question is completely different.

www.scotsman.com/news/eu-negotiator-simple-fact-independent-scotland-could-join-eu-1-4757519

fullfact.org/europe/eu-membership-spain-scotland/

Pa10ma · 02/01/2019 08:02

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Clavinova · 02/01/2019 09:04

Pa10ma

You have perfectly illustrated why a second EU referendum is such a bad idea - too many people like you on both sides of the argument.

YeOldeTrout · 02/01/2019 09:09

How does a non-wealthy person retire to live in another country where they have no right of abode? Please explain.

Mistigri · 02/01/2019 09:16

I'm thinking that I might even retire to the South of France eventually...

On what legal basis? Are you very rich?

Quietrebel · 02/01/2019 09:18

walkingdead
When you say you were 'forced' because no one asked you: my guess is no one asked you if you wanted to be British either, I suppose you were just born into it, weren't you? That argument is absurd. Very few people are asked if they want to be something- actually the only ones I know are naturalised immigrants (That includes me)
I guess that should make them extra special in your eyes !

Pa10ma · 02/01/2019 09:18

Also 7Swimming, your argument doesn’t hold and it’s dangerous. It’s how fundamentalist regimes take hold by exploiting ignorance and extolling “feeling” and belief systems over fact. Societies can’t progress if we can justify anything on the basis of “belief”. Yes people believe in all sorts of things - fundamentalist Islam; white supremacy; misogyny - should we just let them go with it? No because humanity evolves and progresses.

Quietrebel · 02/01/2019 09:21

In terms of the whole country being 'forced'; it wasn't. There was a referendum to remain in the EEC in 75 as you well know and the UK has been since then an active member shaping what was to become the EU. It was your elected government that played a huge part in how it looks right now. Don't claim to be somehow a victim.

Leatherandsilk · 02/01/2019 09:31

Hey Pa10ma your comments throughout this thread demonstrate perfectly how the fringes of society have become dispossessed with politics, from “No BREXIT voter that you’ve met isn’t a racist xenophobe*

To An elderly relative of ours who lives up North and his cronies admit that they don’t really care about the economy. They see the EU as a German plot to take over Britain and rejoice in Brexit as if nothing has changed since the 40s. cronies, northern, your phrasing is abhorrent.

And earlier on a lovely rant about your poor hubby having to reduce his “portfolio” and your banker mates shuffling money out of the country.

My very intelligent father voted leave, a lot of the very influential stakeholders I work with did do.

Funnily enough none of them have a love for old Tommy Robinson while throwing abuse at my half Muslim children. Step out of your damn bubble and maybe both sides can find some middle ground.

WitchesWeb · 02/01/2019 09:35

Wow Pa10ma so much ageist, incorrect sweeping statements and nastiness in one post.

Your posts are full of distaste for those that you deem 'uneducated'.

I agree with Clavinova. You have fully illustrated that there are people at the extremes of both sides of the arguement.

Quietrebel · 02/01/2019 09:41

leather
Be careful not to tar all remainers with the same brush.
Yes, intelligence is evenly spread between leavers and remainers. I personally think that the most clued up leavers grossly underestimated the task at hand. The devil is in the details and the campaign (putting the lies on the bus aside) was in fact quite theoretical and broad. We are now looking at the nitty-gritty and it's all unravelling.

Pa10ma · 02/01/2019 09:42

Leather - I do actually agree with you that Brexit has revealed a split society and neither “side” had awareness or can comprehend the depth of the divisions - myself included. I’m Spanish but have lived here for over 20 years. I love this country and have raised children here. My DH came here from an Asian country as a child with refugee parents. My children have never experienced racism. In the part of London we live in, people rarely ask “where are you from?” So yes, maybe we are living in a bubble. But it is a shock when underlying racism and xenophobia is revealed through a referendum.

Leatherandsilk · 02/01/2019 09:52

Quiet I don’t, I work with many and other family members are remainers. I myself am actually not a leaver or remained! I refused to vote as I have negative opinions of both options, I hate the EU for some of their actions. I feel their immigration policy of “get here and then we will help” put babies on those boats. But then I love them for other reasons and work on many international groups. So I am a truly middle ground.

I work on BREXIT mitigation planning as part of my job, and truly no one knows the right path either way.

Apileofballyhoo · 02/01/2019 09:59

I have a lottery win dream of travelling along the North Mediterranean coast from Turkey to Portugal.

SusanWalker I have nearly the exact same lottery dream - to travel by boat all along the Mediterranean coast. A kind of ancient Roman holiday! Though to win it you have to be in it which is a slight problem...

Whowouldathunkit · 02/01/2019 10:04

Those who say you will still be able to live, work and travel in the EU after Brexit are extremly naieve and somewhat delusional about immigration/visa processes.

You will not be able to just move to France and get a job, or retire there or do any of the things you can now. Things are going to get very ugly, very quickly. Relations between the EU and UK are already at junk status. Racism will become acceptable on both sides of the channel. Any EU citizens living in the UK will find life extremly difficult despite having the legal right to remain. If the choice is between a UK citizen or a "foreigner", the job is going to the UK citizen "British jobs for British people" will become the accepted mantra.

Ask yourselves this

If the UK joined the single market because being a member was beneficial to the economy, then whats changed to make being a non member a better option?

What a fuck up!

Quietrebel · 02/01/2019 10:09

Any EU citizens living in the UK will find life extremly difficult despite having the legal right to remain.
I find this statement quite chilling, but if it's going to get to that point, we're going to get there whether or not we remain. Remaining would mean that any employer actively discriminating against EU nationals would run a risk however go prove it... I've been on the receiving end of other types of discrimination (being a woman and a mother) and it's usually very hard to prove.

Apileofballyhoo · 02/01/2019 10:13

Epanoui

We now have a situation where we are going to prioritise highly skilled immigrants.

For those for whom immigration is a problem, or those who recognise that immigration is an issue - is there not a possibility that highly skilled, and therefore presumably well paid, immigrants will be an even bigger focus of resentment?