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AIBU as a larger lady

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Deyes999 · 30/12/2018 22:30

Whenever I look online for clothes I always use the filter option to select my size which is a 20. Why do the majority of clothes then pop up for maternity wear!! Not every size 20 woman is pregnant... may be they should have 2 options when selecting larger sizes such as 20 (pregnant) or 20(just fat) grrrrrr

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ThenOutCameTheSunshine · 27/05/2019 15:18

I'm not sure if someone has already said this but if you filtered it to show size 12 for example, then size 12 maternity clothing should also come up. It does for me anyway. On some filters there are also options to remove maternity /tall/petite clothing.

Sn0tnose · 27/05/2019 15:18

I absolutely don't think 'fat shops where fat people can shop should be the norm. The same I don't think cigarette sellers or vape sellers should be the morm. I DO think the likes of McDonalds, Pizza express etc should be the norm as many of us don't gorge on food and become obese. This won't be a popular view but come on, we have to be realistic. Oh come on! When was the last time you walked down a high street? To my knowledge, there are only two chain ‘fat shops where fat people can shop’ shops. They are hardly pushing Next and River Island out of shopping centres now, are they? Also, whether you like it or not, fat people exist. Thin people exist. Both have got every right to want to wear nice clothes without being made to feel like they are a freak of nature or that they should hide themselves away for not conforming to your idea of what is ‘normal’.

You can choose not to be fat though. I can’t get clothes in Asda as they don’t do small sizes Well you’ve clearly chosen to be the size you are, so why don’t you choose to be a bit bigger so you can buy your clothes in whichever shop you want to? Obviously, I’m not being serious but can you not see how utterly ridiculous your comment is?

Here’s a few random thoughts. How about everyone just minds their own bloody business about what size other people are?

How about we accept that some people are very slim, some people are very large and the rest of us are somewhere between the two?

How about we accept that people are the shape they are for a myriad of reasons, including genetics, learned eating patterns, physical health, mental health, not eating enough and eating too much? And that those reasons are fuck all to do with anyone else?

How about realising that, although you think you look fabulous, other people might be happy the way they are and telling them to eat more or eat less is a shit thing to do?

And, most importantly, trying to make someone feel uncomfortable because of the shape of their body (be it super thin or super fat) makes you a bit of an arsehole. So stop doing it. Stop telling slim people that they need to eat a biscuit and that men like women with meat on their bones. Stop counting how many biscuits larger people eat and telling them that your aunty Maureen was their size but just ate celery for a year and now they’re fine.

ConcreteUnderpants · 27/05/2019 15:44

Phoebesgift - I am often surprised to see certain items like mini skirts going up to a size 24

Me too. Fat people (like myself) should never be allowed to wear anything fashionable or what they might like. Stick them in mu mu's.

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