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Original poster

To give back a half eaten cheese board?

219 replies

Chaosandmadness · 30/12/2018 17:09

Ended things with my DP last night. Understandably he is a bit upset and has been messaging me today having a rant. He has asked for everything he has given me to be returned so I intend to bag it up and deposit it by his house under cover of darkness tonight. AIBU to also return the half eaten cheese board he gave me before Christmas? When I asked him what to return he just said "everything"

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ButteryParsnips · 30/12/2018 17:11

Has he generally been a dick? If yes, then include the half eaten cheese.

JollyGiraffe · 30/12/2018 17:11

Would be quite immature

colorao · 30/12/2018 17:12

Eh? So he's upset at being dumped and you want to give him some half eaten cheese?

MawkishTwaddle · 30/12/2018 17:12

Not by now, Giraffe. It’ll be nicely ripe.

JustKeepSwimmingJustKeepSwimmi · 30/12/2018 17:12

You waited until after xmas to end it??

Yulebealrite · 30/12/2018 17:12

How long have you been seeing him?

GoldenSyrupLion · 30/12/2018 17:12

Well as you're the dumper it might be best not to include the cheese? He'll just think you've eaten it. Though technically you're not obliged to return gifts. All sounds a bit dramatic tbh.

JollyGiraffe · 30/12/2018 17:12

Grin Mawkish

Penninepain · 30/12/2018 17:13

Thats just nasty.....

Original poster
Chaosandmadness · 30/12/2018 17:13

He has been quite abusive in his messages today so I'm feeling a bit arsey. I've been very detached and tried the whole grey rock thing but I just feel like saying fuck you in some way

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bigchris · 30/12/2018 17:13

Keep the cheese

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rookiemere · 30/12/2018 17:14

Depends what type of cheese it is.

MsVestibule · 30/12/2018 17:15

When he says 'everything he's given me', is he talking about Christmas presents? I'd keep the cheese anyway because I just love it. I could never give it back to anybody just to prove a point.

FrogFairy · 30/12/2018 17:15

Nah don’t waste good cheese on this dickhead.

elessar · 30/12/2018 17:16

Did you dump him because he was an arsehole?

If so maybe the cheese would be sort of justified but still pretty petty and immature. If he was overall a nice guy and is just ranting now because he's upset then definitely let it go.

To be honest either way I wouldn't do it.

AmyDowdensLeftLeftShoe · 30/12/2018 17:17

Gifts don't have to be returned unless they are jewellery.

Keep the cheese board or dispose of it elsewhere.

Original poster
Chaosandmadness · 30/12/2018 17:18

Yes I've been a bitch and ended it just after Christmas. The day I found out he was playing stupid head games with his ex and had dragged me into it. Would prefer to be a bitch then get dragged into things further. Maybe I should just eat the cheese

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TroysMammy · 30/12/2018 17:19

I'd be torn whether to give the cheese back or not. Can't you just take chunks out of it with your teeth and give the rest back?

showmethegin · 30/12/2018 17:19

Now and in life in general, always keep the cheese

cheesywotnots · 30/12/2018 17:20

I would keep the cheese.

Duchessgummybuns · 30/12/2018 17:21

Eat the cheese. He sounds like a knob and you’ve made a good call.

MickHucknallspinkpancakes · 30/12/2018 17:21

Keep the cheese. Put a pack of Kraft Cheese slices in the bag as recompense.

CoughLaughFart · 30/12/2018 17:21

You waited until after xmas to end it??

How long do you have to wait for it to be acceptable? Weird comment.

He doesn’t know you haven’t eaten the cheese. Scoff the lot.

Iwouldratherbemuckingout · 30/12/2018 17:21

I wouldn't return any gifts!
Interested in why jewellery is considered returnable though?