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AIBU?

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AIBU to be very pissed off at my friend

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Coldshoulders · 29/12/2018 22:39

Warn you now this is a rant lol.

So last night my old school pal came over for a few drinks, all is well. I started texting some guy I'm seeing and organising for him to come over once my friend had left. My friend got seemingly jealous of me texting and came over and took the phone out of my hand while I was using it and told me I'm not having my phone back until I stop texting this guy. My friend was drunk so I just left it and forgot about it thinking I will text this guy later once my friend leaves. An hour passed and my friend rang a taxi and left so I decided to text her to check she got home safe and I realised I had no phone. So after turning my full house upside down I realised my friend still had hold of my phone and must of taken it with her by mistake. Tried tracking the phone with my laptop but the phone was switched off. Next day my sister calls round and lends me her phone to contact my friend which I did and asked where my phone is. She doesn't have it! Search my house again knowing its not there and once again try tracking it with no luck. I sent a request to lock the phone also. Ring up the taxi firm no phone has been handed in. Got hold of the guy I was texting who thinks I have ghosted him and isn't speaking to me now. I don't have fb so I cant contact anyone through that. My friend apologises and says she will give me 100 on Monday. Had to order a replacement sim which wont arrive until later next week. AIBU to be really annoyed and pissed off? I didn't leave my house so neither should my phone, lost all my photos of my son aswell as the phone and the contacts. And now the guy I was seeing isn't speaking to me either. I just feel soo pissed off right now, top it off my mate is now out getting drunk with her other friends and her phone and I'm sat at home phoneless no way of contacting anyone and need to wait for her to pay for a replacement. I am really upset she even took my phone off me to start with. Arrrggghhh rant over x

OP posts:

RJnomore1 · 29/12/2018 22:40

Are you certain it's not in the house?

Down the couch or something?

CoughLaughFart · 29/12/2018 22:43

Are you sure she definitely has it?

Also, why were you sat texting when you had a visitor?

Icantfindausername · 29/12/2018 22:43

Sounds very strange where can it be?
Do you think she's "lost" it on purpose?
I would be furious to be honest who does she think she is taking the phone off you!!

posthistoricmonsters · 29/12/2018 22:44

She's jealous and unreasonable, and she got drunk and took your phone.

I reckon she lost it or chucked it on something ridiculous. She's willing to part with that money to replace it. Is there something she knows which you don't.

birdiewoof · 29/12/2018 22:45

She’s either stolen it, the taxi driver has m, or you haven’t looked properly...

Pachyderm1 · 29/12/2018 22:45

YANBU to be annoyed, but it sounds like you dodged a bullet with this guy if he was willing to ghost you over that, so in a way she’s done you a favour.

dontneedthedrama · 29/12/2018 22:47

She must have it, shes willing to give you money for it . Ask her again tomorrow but do it face to face .

C0untDucku1a · 29/12/2018 22:48

She wasnt jealous at you arranging a booty call when she was visiting. She was pissed off at the rudeness.

If the guy is annoyed with you after knowing what happened, he isnt worth bothering with.

Check your house again. Get your friend to check hers again.

Thewifipasswordis · 29/12/2018 22:48

Check the front garden and the kitchen bin/fridge/anywhere she could've been near.

TruckLoadOfSubtleGlitter · 29/12/2018 22:48

The guy needs to get over it. You only went quiet for a few hours, half a day?

Unless of course she messaged him something that's really fucked him off?

greendale17 · 29/12/2018 22:49

She wasnt jealous at you arranging a booty call when she was visiting. She was pissed off at the rudeness.

^Completely agree with this

Handsoffmysweets · 29/12/2018 22:51

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Cloglover · 29/12/2018 22:51

It's weird that she offered to pay for the phone if she didn't take it. You would just offer to come back and find it rather than give someone 100 quid for a phone they'll most prob find down the back of the sofa!

Calvinsmam · 29/12/2018 22:52

I would be so annoyed if I was at my friends house and they were spending their time texting a shag to come when I left. You may as well have handed her her coat.

If she’s stolen your phone the. That’s not on but I think it’s just as likely that it’s lost in the house.

NonaGrey · 29/12/2018 22:52

She wasnt jealous at you arranging a booty call when she was visiting. She was pissed off at the rudeness.

Yep

Calvinsmam · 29/12/2018 22:53

It's weird that she offered to pay for the phone if she didn't take it.

Not if she was really pissed so can’t 100% say she most definitely didn’t take it and just wants to keep the peace.

Original poster

Coldshoulders · 29/12/2018 22:53

deffo isn't in the house I have checked everywhere from down the couch to the washing basket! I have been looking all day not here at all. I was texting because she was on her phone it was getting late I wanted to make other plans and the convo had died down tbh lol. Shes never acted like that before I was in shock when she took the phone off me and refused to give it me back, she was drunk and acting abit weird so I just left it as I didn't want any confrontations or to seem like I was being ignorant because I wasn't if u get what I mean. I a pretty pissed off at all the personal stuff on my phone like messages photos etc. Tried to locate it it just keeps saying its offline and unable to be located until it is connected to a network how do you lose your own phone outside when you haven't left the house lol

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Tiredmumno1 · 29/12/2018 22:56

Sorry, but I think she has taken it.

If she has, then that is a really shitty thing to do, and she is not your friend. I really hope I am wrong though.

NooMe · 29/12/2018 23:05

Yep, she was annoyed because you were trying to hook up with someone via text when you had invited her round.

I'm guessing that your phone has died hence it not being trackable and:

It's in your house somewhere. Did your friend go to the toilet? Drunkenly put it in the bathroom cupboard? Laundry basket? Or did she go in another room?
The phone is in her coat pocket/bag still.

(which is most likely) the phone dropped out of her bag/pocket somewhere outside and is lost (sorry).

NooMe · 29/12/2018 23:06

And of course, option 4 is that she has stolen it.

ReanimatedSGB · 29/12/2018 23:07

Even if OP was being 'rude' by texting (and yeah, OK, I can see how that might have been a bit annoying) the friend was a cunt to take the phone away. She's not OP's boss or owner. And it's pretty clear she's either lost the phone or trashed it, hence the offer of £100.

sackrifice · 29/12/2018 23:11

Sure she hasn't hidden in your house? What room did she stay in?

PomBearWithoutHerOFRS · 29/12/2018 23:15

If she refuses to pay for it you're basically fucked because she didn't steal it. You let her take it. You made no attempt to get it back, I bet she forgot she had it on her, and has either dropped it in the taxi or sat on it/ washed it and broken it.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 29/12/2018 23:33

You were both out of order. Her for dragging the phone out of your hand and you for texting while you had a visitor over a non emergency, and i.m sorry but arranging a shag is not an emergency. I can see why you pissed her off. However like I say. That doesn't mean shes any less out of order. I'm like a bloody lioness with her cubs with my phone.
Also if this guy is immature enough to ghost you. You've probably had a lucky escape.

TruckLoadOfSubtleGlitter · 29/12/2018 23:33

She wasnt jealous at you arranging a booty call when she was visiting. She was pissed off at the rudeness.

Yeah I felt this when reading the OP.

I think she probably chucked the phone in a drunken state, never to be seen again, and it's easier for her to just claim that she doesn't remember what she did with it....

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